An Explanation...  

travelingintexas 41M
11/3/2005 1:18 pm
An Explanation...

In my latest post I said...

"I swear. This country has turned soft. No one can say anything offensive because you “might” hurt somebody else’s feelings. Gotta have petition drives to ward off the kids. Can’t look down your nose at idiots because they are mentally challenged and therefore beyond questioning. Can't offend the delicate feelings of others. Freedom of speech my ass. Freedom of speech as long as it agrees with mine is more like it."

Do I feel like an ass? Yup. Do I feel like shit? Yup. And I hate that because that wasnt my intention at all.

After this paragraph I transitioned into kids. Because of the nature of the post there were some that thought I was referring to "mentaly challenged" children.

Let me first say, never, ever, ever, would I refer to them in a negative connotation purposefuly. However, I do understand based on the nature of this post how that quote could have been construed in regards to mentaly challenged children.

Let me also say, this wasn't an attempt at humor or at satire. This was feelings raw and exposed. I was mad. As Auntywahine said, I was in "Mad Dad" mode and ready to rip the heads off some administrators at that moment. I wasn't thinking about "mentally challenged" children. I was calling the worlds idiots mentally challenged.

My post dealt with children and the parents of children that do not hold their children responsible for their actions. It was in no way an attack on mentally challeneged children. Can I be seen as an ass sometimes? Yes. Would I ever allow myself to be seen as ann ass towards any child? Never. I will however take my lumps because I undertand how this could have been miscontrued.

However, this was never my intention and if you read it as an attack on the children that are truly mentaly challenged then I apologize to you. You as parents or those children as the children I referred to in my post where not even anywhere near my mind. Yours is a set of unique challenges I could never imagine or anticpate and at the time of this writing I was angry.

Other than this point, I stand by the rest of my post.

starlight_runner 39F

11/3/2005 2:28 pm

Blonde didnt misconstrue you at all trav.She was pointing out how your rant could be interpreted.I think the fact you feel you have to add this post speaks volumes about the sort of attitudes that you were talking about in the first place.

We all clearly know where you are coming from.

rm_1hotwahine 63F
21091 posts
11/3/2005 2:53 pm

Actually I think it kind of opened the door for a good discussion, so that's a good thing. Kind of reminds me of SJ365's Only If You're A Proctologist... , only in a 30 year old testosterone driven kind of Texan way

Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]

rm_DaphneR 58F
7938 posts
11/3/2005 3:55 pm

Ya know Trav has some BIG feet so he's bound to step on some toes sometimes. If any of you have taken the time to get to know him outside this blog realm you'll also realize that he has a pretty big heart as well. While he might not be politically correct in what he says or how he says it, I really do believe that it was not his intention for that statement to be taken the way it has been.

Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.

XesSex03 50M/48F

11/3/2005 5:45 pm

I'm still having a hard time seeing how, when put into context with the rest of the post, your comments were misconstrued. Considering the incident with your daughter, you have every right to be pissed as hell. And you can't mull over every word, or combination of words, every second to make sure they won't offend someone. No matter what any of us do, or try to do, someone, somewhere will be offended. So, unless you're striving to be leader of the politically correct world, don't sweat it. (May I quote your post in my book?)

Mrs. Xes
BTW - There is nothing hotter than a man defending his children

barbiebunny 36F
5597 posts
11/3/2005 6:11 pm

Takes a big man to write this...
and a big heart.

Its good to be...ME

bardicman 50M

11/3/2005 6:21 pm

I agree trav and I didnt take the first post wrong.

I am not dead yet

rm_Elysia2005 43F
412 posts
11/3/2005 6:37 pm

This whole thing kinda makes me laugh. See, I'm the social services type, in school to be a social worker... and I agree, if not 100%, probably a good 95%, with most of what you said in your previous post. There's a time and place for political correctness, but people take it too far sometimes. My mother always said she viewed her job as raising adults, not children. As in, by the time we were grown up and on our own, she knew damn well she had given us the skills to survive and thrive. We knew how to think for ourselves and how to act on what we believed in. We also knew about actions and consequences, accountability... And I think we grew into some pretty decent women.

spinmedown 49M
3626 posts
11/3/2005 6:40 pm

As a mentally challenged adult, I can say that wasn't the post that hurt my feelings.

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde

kokpelli_999 61M

11/3/2005 6:43 pm

Tman some people just don't get it.I get it. On second thought that scares me, the possibilty I think similarly to TIT in some ways? Oh no dear god!
I never forget how willing the hyper-sensitve are to succumb.
Stay raw Trav.

LustGoddess2469 50F  
2453 posts
11/3/2005 7:41 pm

Trav - there is no need to feel like an ass (but you can feel mine anytime you want to lol ). Seriously though, my middle son is "challenged" and in no way, while reading your post, did I think you were getting down on mentally challenged children. I just think that sometimes people take things out of context, unintentionally.

It was a great post, it showed strong conviction on your part, and I still applaud you for it. No need to apologize for anything.


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
11/3/2005 7:44 pm

its cool trav I know what you mean and the frustrations with PC



11/3/2005 7:51 pm

Blondeeeeeeeeeeee can speak for herself.

Did I get the words wrong most certianly not, did I perhaps get the intent wrong yes, Many would not see why those words glared out at me butthen the old saying "you never know till you walk a mile in those shoes" holds so very true, have your child look at you with a broken heart and you look back at them with your heart breaking and try to explain to them why just because they are perhaps "different" that someon calls them idiot. stupid, dummy or retard, then perhaps you can understand why I jumped.

Trav was trying to convey the need to protect his child as I was protecting mine.I take this and his personal emails in the intent they were meant,, and perhaps next time you will think before being an ass and spewing then thinking later and I a sensitive bitch that takes mostthings to heart.

This has been hard on both Trav and I and lets just let it rest

dano6332 56M

11/4/2005 1:36 pm

Trav and Blonde thanks for letting it die as you both know your my friends and yes sometimes things do get misconstrued, misinterpeted or even miswritten in the moment. I respect both of your work and am glad your both still here.

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