Where are all the cheater's at?  

tommynsuzie 73M/67F
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7/31/2005 1:44 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Where are all the cheater's at?


Hello,
I feel like the lone ranger a lot of the time. Surely there are other couples who are engaged in extramarital relationships. Living the choice to have an affaire is a lonesome experience. It isn't something you can confide in anyone about. You have to keep your relationship a secret. Especially if you want to continue seeing your partner in a long term relationship. It would be so good to know if other people have made these things work. Tom and I have been evolved for 7 years now. I'm not sure why it works so well. But I am so happy that it does.
I think we are not that different form anyone else. We go about our separate lives and still manage to enjoy one another. There are times it is lonely and difficult on me. Yes, I willing admit I would like to have a normal relationship with Tom. But that is not something I expect will never come about. It is something we have discussed and pretty much agree on. We are both bound by our marriage vows and will stay with our spouses to the end. We both have lived a unhappy marriage for 2/3rds of our respective marriages. After trying to work out problems and finding partners unwilling to cooperate we went looking for what was missing from our lives.
The good news is that we managed to find one another. We went into this relationship with no expectations or ideas about the whole thing. We made it a choice to deal with what came. Love and long term evolvement were not something either of us expected. Maybe because we believed they were not possible for us we had written them off as ever being in our live again. But despite the shock of it all it is a good thing. I cannot imagine my life with out Tom. I cannot speak for him, nor would I presume to. I know he loves me and cares about me deeply. He is a man of strong feelings and convictions. I could not have asked for anyone better suited to what I want and need.
I don't have a clue what lies ahead for us. Or how long we will have this chance at pleasure and happiness. But I am along for where ever this love affaire goes. I have never been happier in my life. Aside from the occasional loneliness I do very well loving this wonderful man. Sue

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