On Being Bisexual  

titsrus2 52F
510 posts
4/23/2006 6:42 pm

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On Being Bisexual

sometimes i question my own bisexuality. when i first joined this site, i was on a quest. i had wanted for years to be with another woman, so i posted a short ad, flashed my boobs, sent a few emails, waited, chickened out a few times and finally took the plunge.

now, i am a very sexual person...practically a nymph. i could have sex 3 times a day every day and never get tired of it....with a man, that is. i never get tired of cock...if it's the right cock, that it.

it's different with women. i do not deny that the sex i've had with women is good, but sometimes i feel like something is missing....and i think it's a cock. not that i am interested in trying a 3some or anything. i am really not at all interested in that. BUT, hmmmmmm, i dunno.

maybe i need a break. or maybe i should just find 1 girl...that would be much easier. i like chatting on my group (shout out "bi ladies unite") when time allows, but otherwise life takes precedence over anything that happens on the internet.

i am in atlanta now...and i miss my guy. i miss having him around. but i am soooooo not interested in hooking up with any guys online. i think that sometimes people who use sites like this get addicted to the medium and it's more about quantity than quality for them. they are always in search of more sex with more people....and i am greedy - i do NOT like to share.

ps - the sketch is an orgy from the diary of the marquis de sade.


QuiteAGoodHandle 51M

4/24/2006 6:04 am

Hi again Titsrus,

Good to see you taking the time to blog your thoughts.

I think it is good to explore your sexuality with other women, and I am glad you have not given up on men. To me, its natural for women to be able to have sexual 'relations' with other women, as I think that aspect is hard-wired into women's brains and society has programmed it out for many.

Its also great to hear that you feel yourself as a nymph and have no problem with having the desire to have sex 3 times a day. I am a firm believer if that all the people in the world would have sex 3 times a day, then there would be no wars or poverty, as we would all be in good moods all the time. Now, if only we can copy how you have developed as a person and relicate that across the 3.5 billion females on this planet.

> flashed my boobs

lovely

> not that i am interested in trying a 3some or anything.

I think its definitely worth trying. I am a big fan of an FFM 3-some and have been fortunate enough to have several. But these I dont think are practical in terms of a relationship. 2 people is difficult enough, and 3 people increases that complexity by a factor of 3!

> or maybe i should just find 1 girl...

yeah, try that. Also, there is an issue to work out in terms of roles in a woman-on-woman relationship. Do people take roles in the sex act, which woman is more pretty, which woman is more sexual, which woman eats more of the other's pussy, etc. These are difficult issues and that is why many of the succesful lesbian relationships have women where some play the male role.

> i am in atlanta now...and i miss my guy.

soubds like he is one helluva lucky guy. I married a nymph so I do know.

> but i am soooooo not interested in hooking up with any guys online.

I dont fault you for that. Would you be interested in meeting guys at a bar/club scene or are you being 100% faithful? Just wondering, as I have no problem with that latter.

> i think that sometimes people who use sites like this get addicted to the medium and it's more about quantity than quality for them. they are always in search of more sex with more people....

Perhaps. I can imagine that there are people on the lookout for relationships and steady partners, even if they dont last forever. Isnt that what you are after MzHuny, I think?

> ps - the sketch is an orgy from the diary of the marquis de sade.

Looks like useful "bedroom reading"

enjoy yourself, and I hope you get "satisified" soon.

Quite.


titsrus2 52F
331 posts
4/24/2006 5:08 pm

mzhuny, i know. i am very old fashioned in that aspect, too.

lol, thanks for the note, quite. i have a friend who can certifiably shrink me, but she does not know i am bisexual and i don't feel the need to share the fact with her at the moment.

ok, in getting thoughts on 3somes, i have received 2 distinct perspectives....
1 - the giver (he thinks it should be all about the girls and if he is allowed to join in, he's as happy as a clam) and
2 - the taker/receiver (he thinks it should be all about him....ie - the images of 2 girls sucking him off and taking care of his every whim has visions of sugarplums dancing in his head)
there seems to be no middle ground here. it's either one way or the other, but i guess it's the same with hetero couples.

now, in finding just 1 girl, i have never had a tradional-type relationship with a woman. the person i hung out with was pretty much like me...dating men.

i like to go out to bars/clus from time to time, but that's a very shallow dating pool. i can count the times on 1 hand that i have in my adult life given some dude my number - and had the intention of dating him. i guess i am a little spoiled. i think that 99% of the time when a guy asks for your number @ a club, he has asked roughly 3 or 4 other girls for theirs as well. i know it's the law of averages...in sales, you get 1 yes to 99 no's, but the thought of it turns me off.

i am such a faithful chica. i don't even tip out if i am dating someone and it's not exclusive. my memory is bad enough...i would never risk being with one person and calling him another name. plus i think it's bad karma and she (bad karma, that is) is never invited to any of my parties.

lol, yes! i am a total nymph. the guy who ends up with me will either be very happy and satisfied or totally spent and distracted.

maybe i am just horny and in need of some male company....but again, not from anyone from this site.

hmmmmmm, now i have to wonder. what if i met someone at my local grocery store and we hit it off...then i discovered later that he was active on this site? would i hold it against him? hmmmm, probably not, but we would definitely have to discuss it. at any rate, ciao for now.


titsrus2 52F
331 posts
4/24/2006 7:42 pm

lol, plus i question almost EVERYTHING!!! it's the reporter in me...she has to know who? what? why? when? where? and how?


Priapeo 46M

5/2/2006 6:16 am

Definition of right cock, please?

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience


Priapeo 46M

5/2/2006 7:59 am

I think that whoever fancies bisexual fantasies should really put himself/herself to test: it's no good to leave these harmless thoughts wandering around for long. And however, a fantasy is always less than a desire... fantasy is the place where we are absolute rulers and everything goes the way we want. But when dealing with other people, things are much different... and, for whoever might still retain some doubts, our lover's character has by far a greater impact on sex quality than his/her body.

Maybe you did things a bit hurriedly? For lots of people on this site the password is "right here, right now", and speed is exciting everywhere save in bed.

However I do not discourage you from abandoning your bisexual side (call it male solidarity)

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience


titsrus2 52F
331 posts
5/2/2006 6:58 pm

lol, priapeo, my hero...by the right cock, i mean the one that i call mine. i prefer sex with a steady partner. getting to know each other (and each other's bodies) is half the fun. the other half just happens along the way. tonight, i have the urge to just go at it to the hardest rock ever. i mean i want a hard, fast ride and i want to be the horseman/horsewoman..to release a little tension with hmmmmmmm, maybe rage against the machine. oops, sorry. i digress. the horny girl is coming out...lol. maybe i should call my crush. i am a little shy in that aspect. not that i cannot reach out and make a phone call. it's just that i prefer to be called. show me that you're thinking about me, too....and i will show you something as well.

ok, back to the point at hand....being bisexual. was it just a phase? i think maybe because i looked at, admired and wanted to be with a woman for so long, the fantasy was....inflated, for lack of a better word. don't get me wrong, i still think women are beautiful. i just prefer men. i find myself wanting the touch of a woman from time to time...not nearly as often as before - and mostly just to suck my nipples. that's all. and the rest of the time i want...well, cock. no if's, and's or but's.

did i rush? i don't know. i have a habit of rushing into some things and tip toeing into others.


titsrus2 52F
331 posts
5/3/2006 8:44 pm

hmmmm, now i think my crush is over...before it really even started. bummer! but that's what happens with crushes, right? they burn out in a blaze of glory.


QuiteAGoodHandle 51M

5/6/2006 2:59 am

Hi again,

> ok, in getting thoughts on 3somes, i have received 2 distinct perspectives....
> 1 - the giver (he thinks it should be all about the girls and if he is allowed to join in, he's as happy as a clam) and
> 2 - the taker/receiver (he thinks it should be all about him....ie - the images of 2 girls sucking him off and taking care of his every whim has visions of sugarplums dancing in his head)
there seems to be no middle ground here. it's either one way or the other, but i guess it's the same with hetero couples.

Well, I'm by no means a regular FFMer, but I do fall in between somewhere, giving and taking. Life is a bit of give and take. When in such encounters, I try not to keep score, and the main thing is that at any one time there are two givers and one receiver. I rate success by orgasms!

> now, in finding just 1 girl, i have never had a tradional-type relationship with a woman. the person i hung out with was pretty much like me...dating men.

Thats ok. I dont think a 24 hr holding hand in public type relationship is needed to have bisexual relations with another woman. You can be in relationships with other men. I think its natural. In fact, many woman have a caring thing going on for their female friends which is close to sexual. You know the scene, friend walks out of shower with hardly anything on, and asks: "Do I look good in this?". Friend replies, "yes you do". Friend thinks: "she has wonderful breasts and a great ass".

Many many women admire other women's bodies. The percentage is in fact quite high. However, men dont admire other men's bodies in the same way.

> i know it's the law of averages...in sales, you get 1 yes to 99 no's, but the thought of it turns me off.

Yeah, I hate that as well. I'm not a percentages man. I rarely ask and then its for real. Some guys though are used to getting rejected 100's of times and its like water off a duck's back - they are impervious to it.

> i am such a faithful chica.

Thats good, nothing wrong with that. And a bit of "woman play" on the side is ok. I hope you wouldnt hold it against your man f he had to play away from time to time, rarely of course if ever if the relationship is serious. Women do like their attention, dont they?

> i am a total nymph. the guy who ends up with me will either be very happy and satisfied or totally spent and distracted.

If you are a total Nymph then the man in your life wont have the energy or time to play around with anyone else, and he will lust you all day. Thats the best way to have a steady relationship in my view. One-on-one nymphism!

> maybe i am just horny

you horny thing you ....

Quite.


titsrus2 52F
331 posts
5/6/2006 7:32 am

lol, quite. if i was with someone, i would not indulge in any girl play at all. and i know that men have their urges, but i wouldn't want my man to be with any other girls either.

BUT i have had this fantasy for the longest that i have never acted on. i give excellent head and i have often wondered what another woman with do with my guy's cock..how she would treat it, lick it, suck it and if he was blind folded, would he know the difference between me and someone else giving him head.

....this is in the past, i mean. i am single again, but my "crush" makes me not want to be for very long. which, speaking of him. i had resigned myself to being celibate for a while and now i have absolutely no desire to continue with that plan. i think of him and i am INSTANTLY turned on.


QuiteAGoodHandle 51M

5/8/2006 1:48 am

The allowing of another woman to give your partner a blow job is I'm sure something that no partner of yours would ever refuse. No matter how it feels he will say that yours is the best. But I am sure that both will be as good for him.

Is it possible to tell? Yes, probably, by the grip, by the suction, by the motion of the lips, the speed, the whole act from start to finish. Whether you grab his ass, or tickle his balls, and finally how you deal with the orgasm. Whoever he is will be one grateful chap.

Its good to hear that your crush turns you on. Great. Keep those thoughts honey. Celibacy is a drink best not drunk, if you ask me, to mix a couple of metaphors. Its been physially proven that its not good for the mind. Consider it like food. Yes, we can all go off food, but its not good to do so.

enjoy,

Quite.


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