No Strings Attached  

titsrus2 52F
510 posts
5/12/2006 3:12 pm

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No Strings Attached

is there any such thing (excluding 1 night stands)? i mean, if you see (or would like to see) the person again, there's a string. if you try to reach them, there's another string. if they answer....yet another.

me personally, i like the journey. the times that i meet someone i genuinely like are few and far between, so when it happens, i want it to keep happening. i have never been a 1/2/3 night stand kinda girl...if i like it enough to go back (or rather, let you come back), i am open to the possibility. sometimes i wish i was...to meet a hot stranger on vacation and just go for it, but it's just not me. i will chat up a hot stranger in a heartbeat, but when the bars close and the sun comes up...if we checked into separate rooms at a hotel, that's where we will remain - separate rooms. sometimes i envy the pure lustiness of the sexually free, but i prefer to be free and explore with just one person....well, when it comes to men, that is. women were quite another story until recently and now, even that aspect of my sexual exploration has cooled.

at any rate, my point is...invisible lines and boundaries intertwine when you make a connection with someone. that's what happens when someone leaves their mark on you.


RogueAgent000 50M

5/12/2006 3:40 pm

Certainly a hot topic of late, with myself and others I've talked with. FWB or the 1/2/3 sounds like the perfect scenario...but there's always something that gets in the way. Any type of connection on either persons behalf, whether mental or physical, or both, often times leaves you wanting more...

I guess for myself, the connection and the journey you mention is what makes it all worthwhile. Is is really possible to connect with someone on a level where you can eventually say...this is someone I can't live without vs. this is someone I can live with...? Time to go undercover...


expatbrit49 62M

5/12/2006 3:41 pm

some good points there

Thank You for Your Time and Attention


biginya71m 45M  
78 posts
5/12/2006 3:43 pm

i would love to make a connection with you!!!


KC_JJ 54M

5/12/2006 3:49 pm

The only times I've had that lack of "strings" has been with vacation/travellers sex in which there was not a practical way for the relatinship to go any further.

I've gotten to know some women here who are just now trying out the "no strings" idea. Usually this seems to be plan of action after a divorce of something similar and I'm always curious to see if they are really able to pull it off. The jury is still out on most of these.

Personally I suspect that even if I tried my hardest I could not do it. If I really liked someone (and if I'm going to have sex with them it should figure that I like them more than just casually) feelings could not help but develop. Particularly over a longer period of time.

Anyway I guess I'm really just meaning to state that I pretty much share some rather similar ideas and opinions on this.

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rm_scorpiosaga 44M

5/12/2006 3:52 pm

Strangers in the night exchanging glances
Wond'ring in the night
What were the chances we'd be sharing love
Before the night was through.

Something in your eyes was so inviting,
Something in you smile was so exciting,
Something in my heart,
Told me I must have you.

Strangers in the night, two lonely people
We were strangers in the night
Up to the moment
When we said our first hello.
Little did we know
Love was just a glance away,
A warm embracing dance away and -

Ever since that night we've been together.
Lovers at first sight, in love forever.
It turned out so right,
For strangers in the night.


hey-bratender 62M

5/12/2006 4:17 pm

what an incredibly gorgeous woman you are!!!!!!! I'd let someone like you attached all the strings you may want!!!!!!!!!


PurplePeach72 44F  
9199 posts
5/12/2006 4:51 pm

When ever I read a profile that says "no strings" I write back and explain no strings means, I am not looking to replace my wife. That we can be seen together if she wants, that I am a good listener and non-judgemental. It does not mean that if we enjoy each others company that it can only be a one night stand. That what if any relationship she wants is in her control and I will not stalk her if she says its over.
If you are sleeping with someone there are strings, but I take it to mean very thin strings and if they are cut no one gets hurt. In a committed long term relationship the strings are strong and plentaful, and when you start breaking them, someone does get hurt.
Of course my expernice has been that most of the women on AdultFriendFinder dont mean it. If they are single they are looking for attachment, if they are married, they are looking for a potienal replacement. So this married guy who plays with his wonderful wifes ok, has found so very few woman who really mean half of what they say they are looking for in their profile.
Steve

Kisses,
LA


titsrus2 52F
331 posts
5/13/2006 1:12 pm

rogue, without the journey, she would never lok at you longingly and say....do you remember when we first met? lol, as you try to piece together the details.

expat, sometimes i think i just ramble on about nothing....but hey! isn't that what blogging is all about??

biginya, lol - thanks for stopping by.

kc, i think a lot of divorced people who are looking to get back in the game want no strings attached just for the freedom of not having to account for every moment they're away from their significant other. but, if noone ever knows where you are, where are you really??

scorpio, i actually sang along when i saw your post...dobedoobiedo, exchanging glances, dobedoobiedo...

heybrat, with that very invitation, you have created a not-so-invisible string.

colcouple, hmmmmmm - even if the strings are small, someone always gets hurt. perhaps not enough to break the skin, but a bruise or a bump on the head still somehow leaves you damaged


titsrus2 52F
331 posts
5/13/2006 1:13 pm

hmmmmmm, that wasn't supposed to be ALL bold. too bad, i am too impatient to fix it.


QuiteAGoodHandle 51M

5/14/2006 7:11 pm

Admin request: can u edit your "Sleepless Nights" posting as it contains a verrrryyyyyy loooooonnnngggggg woooooorrrrrrddddd which is screwing up the look of your blog page.

I'll come back and comment on the 'no strings' ....

Quite.


QuiteAGoodHandle 51M

5/16/2006 8:50 am

> if you see (or would like to see) the person again, there's a string. if you try to reach them, there's another string. if they answer....yet another.

Yes, there are strings of some sort, some sort of connection, but its the thickness of the string which is key, the amount of emotion thats behind it. If people meet, and meet again, and both are in a "dont care state", they can both have a wonderful time but neither will feel aggreived, pissed off or insulted if the relationship doesnt go anyway. Its all about expectations. Many people think they can do the "no strings" thing but in reality they cant.

> i will chat up a hot stranger in a heartbeat, but when the bars close and the sun comes up...if we checked into separate rooms at a hotel, that's where we will remain - separate rooms

That's a big pity I think as there are many wonderful times that you may have missed out on. Indeed, you may have missed out on the love of your life. If you think about it, we are all strangers when we meet, so why not hook up with a complete stranger.

> i prefer to be free and explore with just one person
> my point is...invisible lines and boundaries intertwine when you make a connection with someone. that's what happens when someone leaves their mark on you.

Yes, I agree, as soon as you even communicate with someone, however subtle, whether through chatting to them or through eye contact, the web of strings and communications start forming.

Now, if only I cold be that stranger in the bar .....

Quite.


titsrus2 52F
331 posts
5/16/2006 6:47 pm

good advice, quite. i see what you mean. whodathunk that a few too many w's in an ewwwww could make that much difference? now, my page is back to normal. hmmmm, should you get a prize for that?

now on to other things...strings. i think that i am just not a no strings attached kinda girl. i am just not programmed that way. i plame the poetess in me...the lady who lingers, longs and loves to be in love. it's not that i haven't ever met anyone and run away with them, but it just wasn't a fleeting thing. we both may have gone into it with that intention or tried to approach it with no expectations, but the relationship lingered on.


KC_JJ 54M

5/22/2006 5:20 am

to me no strings means "I don't give a shit about you" and in most cases that I can imagine I don't want to have sex with someone like that.

Don't ask me about the few and rare cases in which I might actually want to though.

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digdug41 49M

5/27/2006 8:35 pm

This is a good post very thought provoking and I feel ya on whatcha wrote there is no such things as a no strings coz any interst after the initial gathering with entwine you like an octopuss

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titsrus2 52F
331 posts
5/28/2006 11:47 am

good point, kc...i'd be more inclined to say that "no strings" means that if i saw you walking down the street, i would stop and say hello, but if you were across the street and did not see me....then maybe i didn't really see you either.

lol, digdug...like an octopus? those things never let go, right??


titsrus2 52F
331 posts
7/4/2006 2:36 pm

it's hard to cum and go and not have one person not have their feelings hurt at some point.

thanks for the compliment, nole


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