Grains of Salt  

titsrus2 52F
510 posts
3/1/2006 8:45 pm

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4/24/2006 7:48 pm

Grains of Salt

as i've grown older, i've learned to take everything people say with a grain of salt. living here in miami is challenging at times - people are such flakey, transient users that it's hard to get beyond that general image when i meet new people. also, the swinging population is so out in the open here and men and women alike openly cheat....i've become a little more suspicious and even a little jealous at times.

when my current beau told me that he "cares about me," i disputed the fact as pure guy-speak. to me, it meant i care enuf to stay around and not piss you off so you will continue fucking me....i care enough to hang out but not to stay indefinitely. the kiss of death. i am not one of those girls who can chase a guy...whenever i have briefly in the past, it was purely just, but i feel it is a man's duty to pursue the woman he let her know he is interested. if i don't get that, i never hang around for act 1, scene 2.

my best friend thinks i should wait it out and just see what happens. i disagree. i think men tell women what they want/don't want all the time...but women don't always listen. i do...i belive you should say what you mean, mean what you say. and what those words and a few others he has said say to me is that...this is cool - for now. and that's not cool at all with me.

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
3/2/2006 6:06 am

i'm with your friend also,on my limited experiance i find men rarely say the nice stuff even if the want too,hubby is really bad at not saying sweet stuff to me,some guys i know will say stuff just to bed us but most don'tthey have the same insercurities as us

I'm a

i'm here to stay

titsrus2 52F
331 posts
3/2/2006 9:05 am

thanks, daniel and papy....this is a tuff one for me. i am not a very patient person.

richwalkxl 41M

3/2/2006 11:36 am

definitely would love 2 touch datt and make it dissolve.. hmm

QuiteAGoodHandle 51M

4/19/2006 3:21 am

Hi again,

Do you like this guy enough to stay with him, without knowing what the future holds? I dont think you should be too strict. If you are tough on him you are being tough on yourself and your relationships. I think it would be better just to go with the flow. He likes you, you like him, lets see what happens. If you dont like him enough, then that is a different story. ALL men are with women for Sex. If women didnt have sex with men, men wouldnt be after them at all. Its the way of the world, its life, its how we and life on this planet has evolved.

talk to you again .... and go easy on yourself, live life and have fun, dont let your own ideals lead you to a lfe of "not quites" and potential misery ....



titsrus2 52F
331 posts
4/24/2006 7:47 pm

hi there quite. i think i was right about him. i keep a journal and over a year ago, a similar incident happened between us...and i dumped him. perhaps he should have just stayed dumped.

i think i was being a little tough on him (and myself). i tend to question everything and if i feel someone isn't being completely honest with me, i hold back a little more...which is completely unlike me. i have been known to speak my mind....especially to those i care about.

but, at any rate, the deed is done and i am hundreds of miles away from him and he did not care enough to just reach out and say his usual "hey you." life goes on without him...but this i knew before i left miami.

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