When Pussy Doesn't Rule The World  

timberwolf6972 44M
1119 posts
8/13/2006 5:52 pm

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When Pussy Doesn't Rule The World


Have you ever had anyone to get mad at you cause you wouldn't sleep with them? Contrary to popular belief I do not sleep with every woman who wants to fuck me. Yes even I do turn pussy away from time to time. The reasons for this vary but it does happen.

Have you every kissed someone and either felt absolutely nothing or felt like it was wrong? I have, there are some women that I know that feel like sisters to me and I couldn't begin to do anything with them. They are attractive women and I respect them alot but I just can't sleep with them. I have tried this before and it ended what was a beautiful friendship.

Why is it when a woman tells a man that she justs wants to be his friend and doesn't see him in a sexual way it's ok but If I say this same thing to a woman they always get insulted and hurt? I have lost many a female friend over this type of thing cause they always act either weird or just plain shitty towards me afterwards.

When a man tells a woman no does it crush her female ego or something? I have had them to ask me if something was wrong with them or did I think that they were unattractive. This is usually never the case it's just that I don't see them that way. I may love them to death and even tell them that I love them but it's not a romantic type of love. It's a friendship or even like the type of love that you reserve for a brother or sister.

I've tried to explain this to them and they never seem to understand it. It seems like the more I try to explain it the more they get insulted and hurt. Like I said I've lost several very valued friends this way.

A woman can be attractive but it doesn't mean that I'm attracted to her. They don't seem to believe this when I try and explain this one either for some reason. There has to be something there for me to be able to sleep with a woman or I just can't do it. I've tried it and suffered through the sex. It's really not worth it to me and then they act like you used them for sex when you don't make a return trip.

Another thing that seems to piss women off when I say it is that I respect them too much to fuck them. They often tell me that this makes no sense at all. That's when they say 'What? Don't you respect the ones that you sleep with? I do respect the women that I fuck but it's different somehow. It makes perfect sense to me, it's like the love thing. There are different forms of love just like there are different forms of respect. Here again, I do not cross this line either.

Some of these women I would kill or be killed for. I would have no problem trusting them with my life or the life of my kids. What I feel for them is far deeper and special then what they ask for but the act like it's a slap in the face when I try to explain it to them.

Do women really believe that pussy rules the world? I love pussy quite a bit but it doesn't rule my world. Just cause you offer me pussy doesn't mean that I'm going to take it. Call me arrogant if you like but I'm not hard up for some pussy. I've found that I can afford to be selective and I don't have to fuck my friends either.

Ladies, do you get upset if a guy turns you down cause he says that he doesn't see you in a sexual way? Am I wrong here or what? Should I just be a typical man and fuck everything that offers me a piece?


sexymamma662003 31F

8/13/2006 7:05 pm

i wouldnt get offended if a guy turns me down. to be honest ive never been turned down.

i dont make the first move though either.

~sexy~


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:01 pm:
I wouldn't turn you down and I'd be happy to make the first move! {=}

letstryit4fun38 49F

8/13/2006 7:28 pm

I would be offended at first but would also expect an explanation as to why I was being turned down.

WELCOME TO MY WICKED BUT WONDERFUL WORLD!


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:02 pm:
I always explain but it never does any good. {=}

alwzwetbbw 37F

8/13/2006 7:48 pm

I have been turned down for this very reason....that is the danger of having friends of the opposite sex. The initial sting is there, but in the end, it is for the best. I've actually had people interested and after they have hung out with me say I was too much like a sister or too much like a buddy and they didn't want to screw that up. At first its hard to take, but I understand why they did it, and looking back, I'm glad they did.

I've found often times, in opposite sex friendships, one will feel something the other doesn't, but that doesn't mean that they aren't attractive or that something is wrong with them.

I do agree that you can respect someone too much to sleep with them. That is your instinct that you know if you go through with it you both will regret it in the end.

We should never feel bad about not sleeping with someone. It may suck because you know you are hurting the person, but you are probably also taking some pretty crucial steps to salvaging a relationship far better than a booty call.


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:03 pm:
I agree completely. I'd rather keep a great friendship than gamble with it and lose everything. {=}

Lemondrop15484u 54F
4816 posts
8/13/2006 8:31 pm

Wouldn't that be cool if pussy ruled lol. It doesn't, I never make the first move. I do have a few male friends. I love them to death, but we are just friends (no sex). We joke around about it, but it will never happens. I guess if they don't understand then they're not a true friend.


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:10 pm:
If pussy actually ruled and I controlled the pussy wouldn't that make me rule? Some women don't undestand and I do still consider them a friend. {=}

MOfunNOWWOW 55F

8/13/2006 9:58 pm

If I ever got turned down, but as picky and rare that I actually sleep with someone I can't imagine, I wouldn't be offended at all. I would completely understand and respect the decision for the same reason I turn a lot of men down. I prefer to have many friends that I am not trying to avoid that I know will ultimately not work out.
So if we meet and you just look at me and feel all brotherly towards me woofie and can't imagine feeling that cock all up in this juicy pussy. You just tell me sugar and I can always slide my hands on in and take care of business myself.
PPET wuvs ya {=} my brotha


MOMO
just a squirrel trying to get a nut


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:12 pm:
You already know that I'd never turn you down. I've always wanted to play with you. {=}

100prcntnocnt 49F

8/13/2006 10:39 pm

I've never been turned down, but I did meet a guy from here once after we'd chatted on the phone and in yahoo for awhile who told me he respected me too much to fuck me after meeting. We met and hung for the afternoon. We had a great conversation; and at the end of the meeting, he told me, "Please don't take this the wrong way, but I can't do this to you. You're too nice and I respect you too much to simply fuck you." We've been friends ever since. I appreciated his honesty--not too many will have the guts to say that.


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:13 pm:
I'm glad that you can see my point. I hate doing it but I've had to say that very same thing many times before. {=}

rm_sexxikritter 52F
2715 posts
8/14/2006 12:20 am

I've never been turned down either. I'm not sure how I would react if it happened.
I think we are conditioned to think that it is all a man wants from us so we just don't know what to think of it when it happens.
You should keep on just as you have been.


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:16 pm:
I do love sex but it's not all I want. Sometimes people get attached after sex and if I think that they will attach to me but I wouldn't to them then I don't do it cause I don't wanna hurt anyone's feelings. {=}

Cozy_Red 50F

8/14/2006 4:42 am

Great post !






timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:16 pm:
Ty sweetie! {=}

want2play926 45F

8/14/2006 6:38 am

I worked with a guy that asked me out. We were so hot for each other, but when we kissed, we both started laughing...it just wasn't there. We became great friends.

A few guys in the past told me that they wanted to take me to bed, but they respected me too much. I didn't understand, but they said that they never wanted to hurt me and they knew that they could nto give me what I really wanted...someone for a serious relationship.

So for me...jst because 2 people 'think' each other is hot and want to fuck, doesn't mean that it is right. I think you are a true gentleman being able to know the difference.

Great post Timber!


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:22 pm:
Ty sweetie, I've been through the same thing. I love sex but I'd never try to get it at the expense of hurting someone. If I din't think that whoever and myself are on the same page, wanting and feeling the same things then I'd never let it happen. I'd rather keep my good friend that I respect than gamble with it and lose it all cause once you cross that line you may never be able to return to it. {=}

SingleNLooking72 106F

8/14/2006 8:39 am

Hun, it's not just girls that get pissed over this. Men do it every day. I had lunch with a guy a couple weeks ago that I thought from his pic and profile may be fun to get to know. Well, he was a bit too domme for my taste, and I told him so later. All he had to say was OK. He hasn't spoken to me since, must assume it pissed him off. Why can't there be more of a happy medium?

LJ?*


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:23 pm:
A happy medium would be nice but not always possible. I'm sure that men go through this too just like women. {=}

cuteNEway 41F

8/14/2006 8:51 am

I'm used to being turned down. It still stings to know that I'm only a friend.

The worst is when after sharing a nite or three of passion they decide you aren't someone they see in a romantic way. That just rips me to shreds.


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:25 pm:
That is wrong. If they know that they feel that way then they shouldn't even sleep with you. It's a respect thing in my book and also being considerate of other people's feelings! {=}

collaredmuff01 52F
1956 posts
8/14/2006 1:30 pm

Be true to yourself. While rejection is not a pleasant feeling, it is not always a bad thing. I myself have been on both sides of this issue. I think maturity has alot to do with this. I can't imagine you being mean when you turn down women, so it's really their hangup.

Muffy da Brat


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:27 pm:
I agree, I try to be very nice when I explain things but this seems to still have no effect on the message. What can I do? {=}

sweetSinn2690
2943 posts
8/14/2006 1:41 pm

No one...turns down my "Snapper"....chomp chomp!


Oh WHATEVER BITCHES!


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:28 pm:
Lol, I might not either but I couldn't be sure unless we met face to face. {=}

rm_autumngirl61 55F
741 posts
8/14/2006 4:34 pm

Great post, timber!! I'm glad that you wrote like this. You're doing the right thing from your heart and I admire you for that, hun! Some people (both ladies & men) sometimes don't understand.

Most men from this site just expect too much from pussy and it's always a big turn-off for ladies.

I remember chatting w/ few ladies from this site and they asked for my opinion on why the men don't see in them after few dates. Although they're still friends after these dates, some guys don't want to be attached. I would tell these female friends of mine that these guys aren't ready further more than the dates or would say they'd like them (females) to stay being friendship. Sometimes some men are scared for more or whatever their reasons are.

I also remember chatting w/ some men regarding their feelings for some women who don't see in them. I would tell them that if these ladies don't want them to attach them or would like them to be friendship or something like that, these men would have to respect them, too. I know some men would be so agressive and they would drive the ladies further away from them. Some ladies aren't ready, so I would tell these guys to be patient, too.

Well, there are alot of stories similiar to yours. As for me, I love being independent and I love meeting new people. I would travel out of state for one weekend getaway with someone from this site and I have been done already. It's always good experience for me...but I'd require in getting to know at each other for awhile first. That's why I really enjoy being friendship with only good men from here regardless. If both of us have good chemistry in there (who knows), then we could take next step. I'm not ready for that, but I'd never know, right?


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:36 pm:
I think it's a lost cause for a person to try to attach to another person who doesn't want to be attached to. Being pushy will only increase the likelyhood of never having anything with that person. I love pussy as much or more than the next man but I don't rush things. If it's meant to happen and feels right to both parties then it will happen and if not then it's not wise in my opinion to keep pursuing it. {=}

rm_gagrl 38F

8/14/2006 5:44 pm

Seriously, I've never been turned down. I would be offended if I felt comfortable with someone enough to try to make the first sexual move and then they turn me down. I always get what I want Timber, lol.


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:40 pm:
Lol, I see your point but wouldn't you want the feeling to be mutual instead of being one sided? That's just you being a spoiled and naughty girl wanting everything to be your way. {=}

BadAssBlonde1 57F
4989 posts
8/15/2006 8:34 am

Hey there TB. . . Pussy doesn't rule the world anymore than a golden cock, IMO. I know what you mean that you have to "feel" something. I have very close friends that if "sex" was ever brought up I just couldn't. Although, we know this up front and keep it on a "friends" level. Many of my male friends feel comfortable around me because they can talk about other women and they know that I will tell them the truth about it, from where I sit. You don't need to change the way you are. Kings typically don't do that Oh, I have never been turned down by the way. The only man I made a move on that I regret to this day was my ex-husband. We were good friends and that got all screwed up. Need I say more? I wouldn't be offended if I got turned down. I would just DIE! LOL ...joking there. I'm a grown up and think I could take it. Sniff Sniff

Lady Hunter {=}


After all the sex is gone, there is the mind - Lady Hunter / BAB

Copyright © House of Lady Hunter 1998-2009


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:54 pm:
How about a platinum cock? I've crossed the line before and regretted it. I'd much rather kept my friend than got into a relationship with my friend. {=}

rm_CuummDrop 49F
2591 posts
8/15/2006 12:04 pm

    Quoting LaVadaLicious:
    Darlin,
    When I say that Pussy Rules the World, it has nothing to do with women offering up themselves for sex. It has to do with the power of women in all aspects of life.

    It goes along with the saying --

    Behind every Good Man there is a Good Woman..

    Or

    Do you want to talk to the man in charge or the woman who knows what's going on?

    So you see it doesn't all have to to with sex..
nods in agreement....

i'd rather have a basis of friendship first,, rather than just jumping into the ole' sack,, for fucksake... ... but that's me...

me~c

Now won't last forever, so use it wisely~c


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/15/2006 10:55 pm:
I agree with her too but her comment has nothing to do with this post. Me and the girls were friends when the sex topic came up, some I'd had for years. That's why I had issues with it. {=}

BadAssBlonde1 57F
4989 posts
8/16/2006 8:28 am

How about a platinum cock?

I much prefer platinum

After all the sex is gone, there is the mind - Lady Hunter / BAB

Copyright © House of Lady Hunter 1998-2009


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/16/2006 8:33 am:
Excellent, I love platinum too. I wonder what else we have in common? {=}

rm_cutechubby8 46F
3428 posts
8/16/2006 1:01 pm

I think you have to be true to yourself and if you were the one to tell me you'd rather be a friend and nothing more, the way you explain would make me respect you more then being a pity fuck! You have to keep to your principles otherwise you're not you!


timberwolf6972 replies on 8/16/2006 6:50 pm:
I really do try to do the right thing, especially if I care about the person enough to not want to see them hurt. {=}

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