Marriage... oh man...  

thunder_styck 40M
36 posts
5/14/2005 6:14 pm

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Marriage... oh man...

My flight stewardess girlfriend is back from a three week stint in the UAE. Which explains my abstinence from AdultFriendFinder the past few days.

I met Summer two years ago when I was conducting a seminar for her airline company and she was impressed by her young speaker who had his own consulting business, holds an MBA at age 27 and is not all that bad-looking. She got my namecard, we met up foor drinks (no sex though, ironically) and started seeing each other regularly. We've been keeping an open relationship though-- technically speaking we're in a long-term kind of thing (2 years!!) but we're both still free to date other people. She liked being with me because she thought it was the first time she'd met any guy who would give her so much autonomy in a relationship.

Anyhow, last night, after we had a passionate bout of sex (i sure missed her sweet pussy!), she turned to me, stroked my face and told me in all honesty that she had stopped seeing other guys as early as three months ago to see if I was all she wanted. The answer, she said, was affirmative, and now, she's suggesting we get MARRIED!

I was stunned. Althought I would say it was more of a surprise than a shock, I was still lost. Marriage was something I've never considered-- not at least for now.

I've always loved women. Really. Not in the I-wanna-lay-as-many-women-as-possible way but more of the Cassanova way. I know it sounds dumb but there it is. Not going to brag here but I'm blessed with being able to charm the ladies. I have the gift of the gap (hence my job as a consultant) and I have no problems quoting Shakespeare or Bryon or make up my own little poems and interesting conversational pieces to entertain any woman I meet. As for sex, well, it happens not because I have deep-seated issues or things like that-- I had a happy childhood, a successful life thus far-- but like I said, I just love women. I worship the female form...

So back to marriage now... to be fair to Summer, I haven't tried what's it like to be a one-woman guy-- not a least for a long time (last time I was in freshman year at college). Summer's sweet, intelligent, very sexy and pretty and she's got a generous heart and great personality. Still, if Monica (the milf) were to call me up today, I know I'd still go to her...

Am I being a bastard here?

binny1981 35M

5/14/2005 7:05 pm

No, you just arn't ready which is ok. Don't do anything serious you arn't ready for.

savoyman1977 39M
14 posts
5/14/2005 9:07 pm

Eventually, the game catches up with you. Time to face the mirror and decide... Keep in mind that you will likely break her heart and never see her again if you approach the situation in the wrong way. good luck.....

missy97330 47F

5/14/2005 9:15 pm

No you are not being a bastard. But what a tough spot. I personally thing marriage would be a bad idea if it meant that you had to go against your desires to still get involved with other women. The point of most marriages is remain monogamous. Usually, unless you agree that you can still see other women. I guess you both need to re-examine what it is you want from each other.

rm_txrose4uNTX 57F
3289 posts
5/14/2005 9:15 pm

A bastard is much too strong of a word....but, you do need to be honest with her before she puts everything completely on the line for you...and gets hurt in the end.

Olivekoh 39F
4 posts
7/10/2005 12:08 am

No. things happen just happen

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