Wife  

thisyearsgirl13 35F
54 posts
9/26/2005 4:52 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Wife

Ok so im having a mental issue of sorts here...
I have been the other woman, the new girlfriend, the secret girl on girl lover, the one night stand...but never the second wife..till now.
My boyfriend i are getting married next year. He is 16 years older than I and has been married a while back. He brings her up sometimes, as one would while telling a story about your life. I guess the thing is that this stings more than anyother ex story has. I think its maybe just the idea that he was really in love before..but it was almost 15 years ago..so I guess I shouldnt worry..I just always wonder if she was hotter than me, or better in bed than me, or if she was better to him..but I guess if that was the case they would still be together...argh..


purejoy4fem 46F/44F
682 posts
9/27/2005 4:00 pm

Revel in the things you can do for him and don't think of what they had in the past. You're right, if things were all that ... they'd still be together.

Kisses


rm_tantra_dance 64M/64F
1 post
9/29/2005 5:12 am

I'd say focus on your relationship with him rather than him with anyone else past or present. He will go where you focus.

Older people have a lot of stories part of what makes them interesting. Enjoy the stories, or the fantasies or whatever. When possible learn from them or laugh at them, no need to fear them.

Hugs, Floyd


rm_imgood2121 65M/64F
21 posts
9/29/2005 9:17 pm

Honey,
When you are both in a nice mood, tell him sweetly that his bringing up his past is hurtful to you. Suggest that as you both start a new life with eachother, the focus should be on the present and the future. Won't take him long to forget the old stuff.
Good luck,
Barry


bear77344 60M
103 posts
11/14/2005 12:01 pm

You're 16 years younger than him, in your pics you look great; don't worry about his exwife at all. Depends what kind of stories he tells you about the ex travels and basic stuff I'd try to handle, intimate details I'd try to see if you can get him off the subject.


MillsShipsGayly 51M

12/2/2005 8:53 am

Maybe his ex feels bitter ...

I want you to know, that I'm happy for you
I wish nothing but the best for you both
An older version of me
Is she perverted like me
Would she go down on you in a theatre
Does she speak eloquently
And would she have your baby
I'm sure she'd make a really excellent mother

Cause the love that you gave that we made wasn't able
To make it enough for you to be open wide, no
And every time you speak her name
Does she know how you told me you'd hold me
Until you died, ‘til you died
But you're still alive

And I'm here to remind you
Of the mess you left when you went away
It's not fair to deny me
Of the cross I bear that you gave to me
You, you, you oughta know

You seem very well, things look peaceful
I'm not quite as well, I thought you should know
Did you forget about me Mr. Duplicity
I hate to bug you in the middle of dinner
It was a slap in the face how quickly I was replaced
Are you thinking of me when you fuck her

Cause the love that you gave that we made wasn't able
To make it enough for you to be open wide, no
And every time you speak her name
Does she know how you told me you'd hold me
Until you died, ‘til you died
But you're still alive

And I'm here to remind you
Of the mess you left when you went away
It's not fair to deny me
Of the cross I bear that you gave to me
You, you, you oughta know

Cause the joke that you laid on the bed that was me
And I'm not gonna fade
As soon as you close your eyes and you know it
And every time I scratch my nails down someone else's back
I hope you feel it...well can you feel it

And I'm here to remind you
Of the mess you left when you went away
It's not fair to deny me
Of the cross I bear that you gave to me
You, you, you oughta know


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