Why are you on this site? No, really, why?  

AughtMusedSpill 48M
381 posts
7/21/2005 2:02 pm

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Why are you on this site? No, really, why?

This is kind of a continuation from a discussion I had with womenlooking4fun earlier today. I have found quite a few profiles that interest me, I seem to fit their criteria, I send a message, nothing. Now, I know I'm not for everyone, but even if I'm not matching something besides what I obviously match based on their profile, for whatever reason, would a simple reply be so hard? And, for those on here that like to just talk talk talk and yet your profile says you want to meet someone, why are you here, if you're only going to go halfway? Seriously!

Now there are some on the site that only want to chat or email, and that's cool. I'm not judging. But don't come on all strong like you want to get together, then disappear when it's time to do so. And you know who you are! Don't you?

*sigh* well that's off my chest now!

8hugenthick 59M
9 posts
7/21/2005 2:50 pm

Bored - 'People Pushing' part of my monthly 3D Klub rites. Not-bored

ANewLevel4Us 38M/37F

7/21/2005 3:13 pm

Just my $0.02 it took me a while to figure out where I could find the private messages and things of that nature. When I come here, I usually head straight for this section. It took recieving a private message for me to find them. And even that adventure took almost 20 minutes. Who would have thunk that it would be found on the "home" page. Hmmm.

passion8_lady 57F

7/21/2005 6:20 pm

No, a simple reply is not hard... neither is it hard when you've gotten to know someone for a while... why the disappearing act? Why do men get together with a woman and then no contact for weeks or months? What's wrong with being friendly, no-strings-attached, but friends? Have a real conversation?

Now "that's" off MY chest... and you know who you are!

passion8_lady 57F

7/22/2005 4:29 pm

Now that I'm no longer feeling bitchy, I answer this again.

Jez, as a standard member, I thought that you could always REPLY to an email, just not initiate one? Am I wrong? I have never had a problem replying to email.

When I had pictures on my profile, I kid you not, I would receive maybe 80 emails in a weekend. Without the pictures, I now get about 2 or 3 a day. I don't answer the ones that seem flaky or the ones who just say "I'm in town - let's meet for coffee tonight." You don't seem to be in that category, however, so I don't know why you are not getting responses.

(BTW, Don't you have enough groupies that you don't need to be looking for new ones for a while? - hehehe)

Here's a secret - persistence is the key. The people I have actually met on here have been people who (whom?) I was somewhat interested in to begin with and who have stuck in my mind. One guy kept writing and writing and I kept telling him I "no, thanks", but I kept going back and reading his profile and put him on my Hotlist. A few months after his last contact I wrote him and said, "Hey, let's meet." And that one turned out very, very well.

Persistence, a good profile, and a tailored introductory email (not a cookie cutter that you send to everyone - tell her what you like about her)... should do it.

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