To squirt or not  

AughtMusedSpill 48M
381 posts
12/24/2005 9:20 am

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To squirt or not

I got in an interesting discussion on the other day. The article was something about female/male sexuality, and someone posted that his wife orgasmed in five minutes and squirted so much that they have to change the sheets...he aplogized for 'bragging'. That spurred discussions about that, and some guy said that a woman giving him a 'facial' turned him off...that a woman ejaculating turned him off.

This guy said other things that made me think that he was a 14 yr old virgin, but I have read other places where men are turned off by that. I can't understand it...I think it's incredibly erotic. First of all, as men, we should be happy that we can bring a woman to orgasm in the first place. Just ask the women on's not that easy to do! Second, this is PROOF that it's a real orgasm and not a well-acted porn audition fake. We should be thrilled!

ticktock500 44M

12/24/2005 10:04 am

the real question to pose is: if she swallows yours, shouldn't you swallow hers?

passion8_lady 57F

12/24/2005 1:53 pm

Proof? PROOF?????

Uhhh... there are two different sources of the female orgasm. One is clitoral and the other, with the ejaculation, is from the G-spot. I have never had a G-spot orgasm in my life, although I've tried, but that doesn't make my clitoral orgasms any less real. While I envy the women who can achieve the G-spot orgasm, and multiple orgasms, the orgasms that I have experienced in my life are all I've ever known, and they are real.

For men, orgasm seems almost guaranteed. I envy that, as well. If I was guaranteed an orgasm each time I had sex, I'd be having a LOT more sex!

BuxomFrau 44

12/24/2005 3:45 pm

I hear you passion8. Although I don't envy women who can have gspot orgasms. They aren't better or worse than clitoral orgasms, and those do me JUST fine. I do agree that just because the orgasm comes from the clit and not the gspot doesn't make it less real. Men are gonna have to face it: we don't orgasm like they do. 99.9% of all women on our planet can have clitoral orgams. 10 to 15% of all women have gspot orgasms, even less "squirt" on any consistent basis.

This subject kinda gets my pretty pink panties in a ruffle because it seems like, overall, the less common the sex act, the more exposure it gets in porn...and the more men want women to do it. No matter how much time, difficulty, and minimal satisfaction it is to her. I look at message boards and its full of men trying to look for techniques to get their partner to squirt. It's like, why? If she can't do it, she can't do it. Not only that, all the damn time you invested in trying to make her do something that may or may not happen or give her any noticable amount of pleasure, you could have been paying attention to other things that guaruntee her pleasure and happiness. I'm not saying don't try anything new, but please, if it's just not happening, let it go.

As far as needing "proof," if you're with a partner who communicates openly, you shouldn't have any doubts at all.

pinkplaytoyz 50F

12/24/2005 4:07 pm

BuxomFrau, I feel what you're saying as well; it's similar to the fact that not every guy who gets a blowjob can get off from it, so naturally you move on to what does make him have an orgasm.
As far as the guy not wanting facials, there are women who don't like facials either. But then, that's what being sexually compatible is all about; and that's part of the purpose of this site.
But I also think you're partially right ted, in your comment about the guy being 14- sexual maturity has a lot to do with what people desire or find erotic. Someone who's even in their early 20's may say "Ewwww" to having their face splattered, lol...

AughtMusedSpill 48M

12/25/2005 1:37 pm

I don't want anyone to misunderstand me...if you can't do it, you can't do it...I hope that's not what you thought I was saying. I just thought it was funny that someone wouldn't want to experience that with their partner, meaning that they wouldn't want her to orgasm, which is the whole point, right?

MamChelle 48F  
1443 posts
12/25/2005 11:46 pm

Damn..and to think someone wouldn't want one...thats sad and weirdly funny at the same time...I can see the equasion of being perhaps a 14yr old. Real men usually want to experience all the pleasures they can...and being that men are more visual'd think they'd want an up close view. *wicked Giggles*

passion8_lady 57F

12/25/2005 11:53 pm

Well... it was easy to misunderstand when you mentioned that it (squirting) is PROOF... As far as squirting being proof of a real orgasm, how would you know if the lady is not faking her squirting by actually urinating??? Gross, I know, but think about it. Are you gonna analyze the fluid?

AughtMusedSpill 48M

12/26/2005 8:44 am

OK you've totally read too much into what I wrote, and then taken it to an unreal level.

Sweetest_Sin_Jes 36F

12/27/2005 8:20 pm

Hi Sweetheart!

I have never been able to squirt, but you better believe that I would try for you! Anything that you asked of me, I would give 110% effort just to see you smile (or cum - hehe)! I think it would be fun to see if we could get me to somehow!!! We could laugh and make me feel good at the same time!

Hugs 'n kisses from your SC,


Sweetest_Sin_Jes 36F

12/27/2005 8:22 pm

Haha! I just noticed that your mood was "thirsty"!!! Me thinks Mr. Zilla is a cutie pie!


Rowan_Taltos 48F

12/28/2005 8:30 am

I'll take either type of orgasm and multiple times.

What I didn't notice, was a sign up sheet. Where might one find that?

rm_sj365 55F
2414 posts
12/29/2005 8:46 am

*giggling* so...i chastise you for not blogging enough, you say "Fine then...for YOU I will blog today!" , then i come to see what wonders you have written & find that you have kinna stepped in it a lil bit here?...again?

this is why i adore you!

*sj* giggling still*

AughtMusedSpill 48M

12/30/2005 4:48 pm

so sj, you're just going to point and laugh and not help me out? You're my only hope!

rm_lilone1965 51F

1/30/2006 5:02 pm

Being a female ejaculator myself, I have had both types of reactions. A 21 year old guy about had a fit when I doused his sleeping bag. A 40 year old guy couldn't get enough. So age is definitely a factor in acceptance. I prefer the older guys, they know what a woman likes, to cum hard and often!!

20 posts
3/28/2006 8:45 pm

Being a "squirter" who truly likes to orgasm from mental as well as physical stimulation..I have to agree with someone saying that it takes a little bit of maturity to know what a woman wants! Most guys don't even bother trying to get to know what affects one woman from the next. Thinking the same goes for each woman only denies them both the pleasure of what might happen.

When the right guy "touches" me by 'saying' or 'doing' ..he might be surprised by what he's in for. Stimulation mentally can make multiples and squirting stretch into a several day thing if he's not careful! and that's not even touching the clitoral side of things with me!

I listen to women all the time who can't even orgasm and feel sad! I only wish all women had a tenth of the sexual satisfaction I get through orgasming.

More men need to focus on creatively satisfying a woman in a way that will work for her, instead of trying to focus on whose orgasm's are way or another!

Let me end this saying.. having orgasmed many times clitorally and
g-spot and at times not having climaxed at all, I could care less which way I cum or if I cum, only that I'm satisfied when it ends! All sexual partners should be so lucky as to have made it to the end with both being satisfied, orgasming or not!

rm_Qtsmooth 53M
1 post
5/22/2006 6:46 pm

Okay ex g/f would squirt on ocassion and it was a big turn on for me when this happened, it's like when SHE would eat me out? I got so damned turned on that I'd shoot off with little or no other stimulation at times. Men have a 'thing' about being ass/eaten out too I am finding out in AFFinder...some think it's hot? but a lot think it's 'feminine' or a sign of vulnerablity I think. Now? Since she/I broke off 4 mo. ago..and I've found AFFinder site? I want it ALL man! lolol..I want guys AND gals to shoot it off for me..cum is cum and I LOVE it all now! Peace.

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