Theory of 8's  

teaser2009 34F
149 posts
6/23/2006 12:06 am

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6/27/2006 1:49 pm

Theory of 8's

My friend jack and a friend of his, came up with this theory while sitting a bar, lamenting love. Basically, the theory is that if you are in a relationship with someone, and they arent' the 10 you'd always hoped for, but they are close to what you've always wanted, say an 8, then why go fishing for something new? Because a 10 is the rarest person, 9s are a bit more common,and so are 8's, but not so common that you can just throw one away and another will come along immediately.

At first i thought this sounded like settling, then i realized it's not really. Theory of 8's is just that you realize you're not a 10 also, so your chances of finding a 10 aren't that happy that you have an 8 who loves and adores you, instead of being alone. An 8 might have weird, quirky things about them, but those are things that add to your love. And also, who wants to be around someone who is always perfect looking, perfect acting, and perfect sounding? a little imperfection is what makes life go round.

So i'm still in my quest to find my next 8. I had a 10 and lost him (didn't throw him away mind you..but 10's are fleeting) now i'll take my life long 8.

Good luck on your search kids!!


mynameisbob2345 34M

6/23/2006 11:47 pm

i like to think of myself as a real charming 7. Doesn't get me too far though.

ComradeNumeroUno 60M
22 posts
6/27/2006 8:27 am

So yesterday, I was reading an article for a class. The author was lamenting about love, too. Her idea was that loving was a conscious action, a choice, and the reason that people feel unloved or fall out of love quickly is that they choose others for the wrong reasons. She wrote that she made a list of 10 qualities she wanted in a lover, and then realized that most of the men she picked didn't fit it. I immediately thought of this post.

So what i'm getting at is what's an 8? Does a prospect have 8 of ten qualities? Are there a few qualities you look for that they score 8 out of 10 in? Maybe we should all have some sort of criteria for our potential partners.

teaser2009 34F

6/27/2006 1:49 pm

An 8 to me is someone who fits most of my "ideals" for a it on physical attraction, personalities, interests, 8 is the person that you're happy with, but if you could change a few things about them, you would (but don't have to in order to continue loving them).

Like i said, i had a 10, someone who was amazing in all respects. He communicated very well about our relationships, his feelings, my feelings, he was beautiful, he had a great personality...etc. Do i think i'll find someone who fits all of those things again? Probably not, but it makes me feel better to know that i wasn't looking for him in the first place when i found him.

The whole theory of 8's is to take a closer stock of the person you are with. Is that annoying habit really that annoying or is it something that you are blowing out of proportion? Would someone do worse around you?

Parts of this i beleive and parts of it i think need some work (again, this was not my idea, it was my friend jack's theory), but on the whole, it makes you take stock of the relationship you have before you throw it away because you think you'll find something "better" makes you put what is "better" in perspective.

Thanks comrade!

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