be true to yourself  

taurina_gal 44F
750 posts
9/1/2006 5:14 am

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4/8/2007 9:53 pm

be true to yourself

first of all, i would like to dedicate this entry to those people here that uses other people’s pics on their profile.

before i go any further, i would like to ask you all these questions-

what were your feelings of doing so?

what if the picture’s owner came across of what you have done?

have you ever think that you are totally wrong.

i am sure all you people would be wondering of why i wanted to write about this topic. well remember i mentioned that i wanted to share with you all here of what the italian man, SV and i discussed during our meeting last week. this was one of the important topics that we talked and discussed together that day.

he was mentioning to me about how lucky he was to know me, a malay girl. he described me as someone that could be trusted and loyal as part of other reasons that he likes to be friend with me. he said that he couldn’t stand chinese people no more. he has been cheated by chinese ladies from AdultFriendFinder and also some chinese people that had business deals with him.

to cut it short, maybe i just highlight about a bad incident that he faced after knowing some chinese ladies from here. in some occasion, there’s chinese ladies with good-looking pics in their profile contacted him. they made an arrangement to meet after getting in touch via emails and telephones. in their emails, they also exchanged pics of each other. so SV thought maybe it’s not hard for him to identify the lady. SV arrived first at the scheduled appointment place. he waited for about ½ an hour or so. then he decided to call the chinese lady instead. when he called her, it seems that she was trapped in a traffic-jam- ok. the lady approached him as soon as she reached the place and sat in front of him. to his surprise, the lady that was sitting there was chinese BUW (big ugly woman), not like what he imagined all that while. he asked her to give some good explanations on what had happened. the lady never said a single word but just looked down and kept quiet. at last SV was so angry that he told-off to the lady, and walked away from her. he decided to be more cautious in the future after had learned a lesson from what he himself faced.

so what do you think people? do you think those people who use other people’s pics can be trusted?

i am more or less could get along very well with some guys that i knew from here such as LBbackdoorman, cummalot3, snowdragon2006 and 2spunkE, other than SV and few others. we all are using our own pics in our profile. we also are true people and NOT fake i.e. everything you read and saw here in my blog are mine, unless otherwise stated. i am also not the type who wants to use other people’s pics.

so to those of you who i specially dedicated this entry to, do lie back and re-think, that’s what i only asked for. it’s actually either you placed your own pics or do not put any at all. thank you so much for your co-operation.


quietly_softly 51F
4824 posts
9/1/2006 5:50 am

Hey TG,

May I say that I really enjoy your blogs. You are indeed brave and true to yourself. I truly admire that, being a bit of a scardey-cat myself. Want to try so many things, but...

For those who use the photos of someone else, well.. did they really think they could get away with it? Low self-esteem and not being conmfortable in one's own skin does not bode well for any kind of relationship.. even a casual one based on sex.. or perhaps I should say especially one premised on casual sex.

When I check out the profiles of men who have written to me expressing interest, and see that they are looking for a slim woman, I've always written back to turn them down politely. I tell them that I am fat. Hahaha! Amazingly, they have all chosen to remain corresponding with me.

So for those who may think that they have to conform to what others seek, perhaps they should just take a little courage in their hands, reveal their true selves and show their real photos. The results may surprise them...

Hmm.. I'm not sure I can equate low self-esteem with the lack of trust worthiness..

Nyx


batmanner 43M
435 posts
9/1/2006 7:54 am

hey taurina gal,

yeah,what were those posers thinking? do they honestly think that the other person will accept them just because they're already there in the room... what the heck i'll fuck you anyway, sort of thing....

mine are real pics. of course no full pics at the moment.


rm_2spunkE 40M
52 posts
9/1/2006 8:31 am

my sympathies for your friend sv.i soooooooooo feel for him!i know exactly how it feels.it goes on to say tht people can't even be truthful on virtual grounds.wht the fuck?why waste a shitload of time being a false profile to somebody who may badly need to connect to a real person?
give it up ppl.i mean,for fucks sake,this is a swingers' site!we are all here for fun,but not to step on ppl's toe.we should practise respect privacy,integrity,courtesy while having fun!not hurt anybody.i hope we could practise tht a little.remember,sooner or later we are gonna meet up if we want to,so it'll be really embarassing.anyway,this is my 2sens worth.gotta hit the clubs now.chiao miss t,and have a gr8 weekend.


rm_HotRod8693 47M
57 posts
9/1/2006 9:09 am

Yes, well said Taurina! People who put in fake photos of their face or bodies do have a problem with their self esteem. If they're shy or afraid that people will recognize then put in a photo without revealing the face.... otherwise might as well don't put a photo at all.

Sometimes we know the photos aren't real, eg. its downloaded from the net. But sometimes its a real photo but you not sure whether its really that person. Are these people cheating us or themselves? How long can they cheat....Until they decide to meet somebody in person? Well I say good luck to them then.

As for your Italian stud, I apologise on behalf of us Chinese who are genuine here, but pls don't kill the whole herd just b'cos of a few black sheep...

BTW, what u think of my photo ( yes of course thats me! )


IviesBidesJuste 55M
3658 posts
9/1/2006 9:46 am

Hi Taurina, thanks again for the word up. Your a very sweet lady and deserve a lot more respect than I think you get. And you are right about me. What you see is what you get! No suprises here!

I can totally relate to the italians situation. I have had the same happen to me. But, I have a very calm demeanor and a cool temper, so instead of bitching the person out, I have a brief talk about it with them. I try to tell them the importance of just being upfront and honest.

I see this with both men and women a lot. People just need to start learning to be themselves. It really does help a lot for self-esteem, and it presents yourself as someone of quality.

The other day I'm reading one of the blogs I have on my watch list and a gal cuts in on this huge bitchfest against me, because I made the comment that the women I see posting "generalizations" about how they look, write it thmselves and thay I personally know "thick" ladies that are pretty much proud of what they got.

You can read it here. Sliced thick or thin??????. Comment on it if you'd like, especially from those that know me a little better than this woman does. I'd sure appreciate it.

Of course, I tried to be nice in my reply to her, but I let her have it with "both barrels" (so to speak). Because it was clearly obvious she had not read my profile, nor my blog.


montecarlo_sexy 40M
305 posts
9/1/2006 8:28 pm

yup,

i dun know what will do if i have a situation like ur fren, italian man. Take it easy, that's the way disadvantages of internet, all people will not show his/her face unless they are good fren enuff.

So, ur fren, italian man, can say that he was unlucky...

But, i much really enjoy your pic...

Cheers,


EyeOfTheTiger88 50M  
745 posts
9/1/2006 9:23 pm

hi taurina...

i think ur italian fren has been pretty unlucky to have been shown a totally fake pic. i hv heard many incidences of tat happening though i hv not met one who has shown me a fake pic before. i dun care if they are fat or thin, tall or short, etc... as long as they are honest abt themselves, i m very happy to be their fren.

the outlook of a person is never an issue to me.. their personality and characcter is. so lying abt themsleves by showing another persons pic or even a pic of them 10 or 15 yrs younger doesnt bode too well on me.

so far am still very pleased to see all the pics of urself... heheheh

take care and hv a nice weekend TG...

cheerio...


EyeOfTheTiger88 50M  
745 posts
9/1/2006 9:27 pm

    Quoting quietly_softly:
    Hey TG,

    May I say that I really enjoy your blogs. You are indeed brave and true to yourself. I truly admire that, being a bit of a scardey-cat myself. Want to try so many things, but...

    For those who use the photos of someone else, well.. did they really think they could get away with it? Low self-esteem and not being conmfortable in one's own skin does not bode well for any kind of relationship.. even a casual one based on sex.. or perhaps I should say especially one premised on casual sex.

    When I check out the profiles of men who have written to me expressing interest, and see that they are looking for a slim woman, I've always written back to turn them down politely. I tell them that I am fat. Hahaha! Amazingly, they have all chosen to remain corresponding with me.

    So for those who may think that they have to conform to what others seek, perhaps they should just take a little courage in their hands, reveal their true selves and show their real photos. The results may surprise them...

    Hmm.. I'm not sure I can equate low self-esteem with the lack of trust worthiness..

    Nyx
Very well said Nyx.. totally agree!!

Fill up ur blog la... heheheh

cheerio...


NutBuster1974 42M
1138 posts
9/2/2006 9:02 am

always be truthful

cheers


rm_Luvmate17 51M/41F
1 post
9/3/2006 10:11 am

Hi taurina,
I agree that its wrong to use someone else's photos as ultimately the truth will emerge when we meet up. Both me and my wife have come across a cpl of jerks ourselves but hey...this is AdultFriendFinder and we are dealing with people who are out for a fuck (free or otherwise) and in this context,we are bound to meet all sorts of people out there. If u take AdultFriendFinder for what it is and keep ur expectations to a limit, then u will not be disappointed. It is not as if AdultFriendFinder is some kind of an august institution like Westpoint or the like,where ur every move is dictated regimentally.

In fact jerks in AdultFriendFinder come in various forms...single guys pretending to be cpls, males pretending to be gals, age fakers (and fuckers) and the list just goes on. The key is to use our god-given ingenuity (lest it freezes up) to filter them and u will meet some luvly members out there, as we did.
Hey, initially i used to get annoyed when members like Taurina herself dont have the decency to give a response to the numerous mails that we have sent her. But i no longer take umbrage cos i realise now that AdultFriendFinder is inundated with an imperfect lot.
If we are looking for guys or gals who go by the book, then AdultFriendFinder is clearly not the place...maybe u should contact the 101st Airborne or some nunnery... (no offence to nuns as i have the deepest respect for them).
And mind u, to racially profile AdultFriendFinder members( as taurina did about Chinese ladies) is totally wrong but i respect her right(write?) to express herself no matter how fallacious it is. Cons and fakes come in all races and in all shapes. In fact, currently we have a perfect 3som relationship with a chinese gal whom we met thru AdultFriendFinder. But we have also been conned by a female caucasian..does that make all caucasian (or is it cock asian)ladies bad?
So there u have it..my two cents worth of riposte to dear taurina.Its an imperfect world Taurina...u have to adjust to bring out the best in man (and woman).


snowdragon2006 40M

9/3/2006 5:58 pm

T, I have to say, I have met plenty of fakes in the real world too, they just didn't send a picture first. As for here in AdultFriendFinder, well, I think of it as a slice of the real world...you have to sort through lots of crap to find people worth knowing.

As for your italian friend, I live in Taipei and for the most part Chinese/Taiwanese women are great. That he was lied to, it happens to every man by all kinds of women, not just one ethnic group. Again, part of the process of finding good things.

Now for those who use fake pics or are lying/cheating/sneakily asking for money, the good people on AdultFriendFinder have to police and report this when it happens. Fake pics are prohibited, stolen copywritten pics are illegal. We need to report it to AdultFriendFinder webmasters and alert those you know and trust. When the good people do things to make it uncomfortable for the bad people, the bad ones leave. Again, a slice of the real world here too.

Other than that, take care T, and if you are ever in Taipei, please allow me to take you out for dinner. It's a great city.


taurina_gal 44F

9/5/2006 4:18 am

quietly_softly : i am so glad that you enjoyed reading my blogs. do drop-by often yea...

batmanner : np dude... just like me-- no face pics for some great reasons

2spunkE : i totally agreed.

HotRod8693 : you do have a great body shape dude

LBbackdoorman : oh.. you had the same experience too. but i know that my mind really says that you are a one nice and good friend. tq mwahh...

montecarlo_sexy : hmm... what about your pic. is it yourself-- a curious mind just wanna know.

EyeOfTheTiger88 : like you, i also do not look for the person's feature. the most important matter is their attitude right.

EyeOfTheTiger88 (again) : (comment in a comment)

NutBuster1974 : that's what we all have to be.

Luvmate17 : tqsm for the comment. btw fyi i received lotsa emails both in my hotmail account and here. i always try my best to reply them. but to some circumstances, it's also up to me whether i need to reply them or not right. p/s whose that in the pic.

snowdragon2006 : wow... i really dunno that we could report this to the AdultFriendFinder webmaster, until you told me this. so cheaters, watch out!!! p/s taipei is already in my future holiday list. i'll keep you inform.


rm_pasy1 48M
20 posts
9/5/2006 5:04 am

Hi Taurina. No they are not to be trusted.

If they cant show there own pics, well i take it they dont like there own body never mind any oneelse to like it.Dont know why they do it.

Ur friend was right to give her a good telling off. Just remember there is alot of ture people on this site but all it take is sumthing like this to bring it down.

these are my own pics on my profile


rm_Memphiston 39M
87 posts
9/5/2006 10:34 pm

Meeting people online is a game of chance. U cant really tell until you've seen them in person. BTW TG havent seen you online for ages. how are things?


montecarlo_sexy 40M
305 posts
9/6/2006 7:27 pm

taurina,

once u see, u will believe...


rm_Ezad35 51M
30 posts
10/5/2006 1:22 am

Yeap ... be yourself or they .. will always end up with frustration.


rm_Ezad35 51M
30 posts
10/5/2006 1:30 am

Guys .. forgot to share you about my pic. It was taken early 2006. At Puchong massage place @ house. It was wonderfull. Dont get me wrong, she knows I took a shoot while she giving me .. Urut Batin. I was lucky, she gave me a blowjob and just about an hour session over - she got naked and start sitting on me. End of our "session" I did asked her .. WHY ? And she replied .. My Dick is almost the same as her ex-husband.
By the way, i been in few massage centre .. not all will take off their cloth for free love .... making session.


rm_tomy7492 49M
16 posts
4/7/2007 11:18 am

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