Wednesday 2-1-2006 Am I a TG Slut?  

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2/1/2006 7:51 am

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Wednesday 2-1-2006 Am I a TG Slut?


I had some wonderful emails about my date with George post, and one that I found *deeply* disturbing. First, thanks to all for all the kind words and congrats on my hooking up with George.

Now, to the issue of the one guy who asked me if I *always* sleep with a guy on the third date... No, I don't. In fact, I took a 6 year hiatus from dating to get my career in order. When I was in college, I had a few boyfriends who seemed serious, but each and every one became a complete jerk in some way or another within a short period of time. When I was in High School, I was the pariah. No one in High School is secure enough in their own sexual identity to befriend a TG, and that made me an outcast. If I was to analyze myself, I'd say that my "coming out" early had a negative effect on my sexuality, but a positive effect on my own mental well-being. I feel confident in myself, enough to be picky about the men I date. I don't feel the need to hop into just anyone's bed for sex, and certainly don't need to be an "escort" to live or pay for my shoe habit. So, when I go out on a date with someone now, I'm thinking long term relationship, not one night stand.

Yes, I probably was a bit slutty on Sunday. But, after 6 years of no sex, and George's "effect" on me, I just "needed" him, if you know what I mean!

And, another issue, that's near and dear to my heart: Safe Sex.

I have NEVER had sex with anyone without mutual condom use. I grew up in the AIDS era. George grew up before the AIDS era and has had long term partners since it began. George admits to "around a dozen" partners, many of whom he did not consistantly use a condom with for every sexual act. When George and I had sex on Sunday, we both used condoms. George and I have agreed to have HIV and STD tests done, and have exchanged each other's code numbers so that we can each get the other's results. I ordered the tests, and received them Tuesday morning via fedex. Last night we had dinner, skipped the movie, and did the tests in front of each other. I mailed George's this morning on the way to work. George emailed me that he put mine in the fedex box last night. The lab boasts 2 day response time, which is ideal, since our next date is Friday night. I don't have any worries that I'll pass with flying colors. I'm praying that George does also. It would be devastating to me if I found out he had HIV, because I'd have to break off the relationship immediately.

Oh, I'm in LOVE with my car! But, I almost got a ticket Monday (the first day I drove it to work). I was driving, at what I thought was a reasonable speed, and realized I was passing a lot of people. I looked down at the speedometer and saw I was doing 85! It felt like I was only doing 60 in my Toyota. As I slowed wayyyy down, I saw a police officer with a timing gun in the center median. Thankfully, I was down to 65 or so by that time. Still, I sweated him pulling me over for the next mile or so. My co-workers asked if I got the car, and I had a dozen of them out in the parking lot at lunch to admire my good taste in an automobile.

There are 24 new messages in my inbox from names I don't recognize. I'll have to look at them later...

"Stay articulated!"

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