A Man is not allowed to .. And neither is a dad no matter what  

taodoug 51M
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5/31/2005 12:58 am

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A Man is not allowed to .. And neither is a dad no matter what

If you look at teachings of society and philosophy, you will note that what I say is true.. But I will say again that I do not disagree with any of you. Or your opinions and thoughts.

Yes.. I agree for a man to show feelings.. Does not make him less of the man that he is.. But a man in the eyes of those around him (physically) he is taught and raised to control his emotions. That to show too much emotions no matter if it is joy or sorrow is a sign of lack of self control. Although growing up our mother's hugged us and kissed our hurt away.. The older we grew the more you are taught that you need to stand taller than the year before.. This no one can disagree. In the eastern religions as well as Christian religion a man is taught to show empathy for his fellow. And even to weep at the loss of a loved one. But at the same time admonished for showing this outright. Because then it becomes selfishness because he has failed to think of the pain of those that are around them and what they must be going through. Behaving like a man. And allowing those around to see him cry is like holding a double edged razor blade with no guard to open a box. Because you will cut yourself. And you will do damage deeper than what you thought. A man must control his emotions in order to have peace within himself.. If you look at Zen, Taoism, shamanism, Confucius, and all the others. All teach to meditate or pray for man to learn to control his inner self. A man, even more so a dad, are the strength and teacher of their future generations. And they must remain mentally, and physically strong.
I will confess this to those that feel that what I type and think is a male chauvinistic thought. But I even have taught those that I know. That it is okay for a man to cry in private.. That it does not make them less of a man.. But at the same time.. Taught them that you do not show emotions to those around you.. This a man does not do..
That is why I hide my lack of control. And only allow it to be read in my writings on screen. Because at least this way it is out of my head. And out of my mind for the time being..

But again.. I do not disagree with those that have an opposite opinion than me.

kissablemeinmn 48F

5/31/2005 5:40 am

I totally understand where you say writing gets it out of your head.


rm_greedycat2 64F
46 posts
5/31/2005 7:02 am

I'm a form believer in real men cry..i allowed my sons to grow up being able to show their hurt if they need too,its not wrong for a man to express his feelings by crying it shows he really cares...well thats my opinion

rm_greedycat2 64F
46 posts
5/31/2005 7:03 am

oops firm lol not form

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