Bringing HER to orgasm for the first time.  

tamethytension 54M
1659 posts
4/9/2006 4:51 pm

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Bringing HER to orgasm for the first time.

Although this advice was initially offered for women having difficulty reaching orgasm with a partner, it also describes a successful approach to your first time with any woman. I do not mean to suggest it is the only, merely one I have found mutually rewarding.

This needs begin with your relaxation of mind and body. It needs continue with visualizing that which excites you. Is there any particular image or sequence of images that drives at least curiousity if not outright titillation? Eventually you will want to identify external errogenous zones. But leading up to that identify those portions of your outer skin surface that tickles with a brush of the hand. Have you ever had a professional massage? The relaxation and flush of skin with blood as capillaries are massaged can heighten your sensitivity helping you discretely identify potential sources of more intimate pleasure. Once armed with this knowledge, you should engage your partner with the EXPRESS PURPOSE or merely massaging you. At first, a standard deep body massage with or without oils (I prefer body lotion for this task) to increase blood flow and bring you into a more relaxed state of being. Then your partner should, over the course of an hour or so, delicately trace patterns over your entire body (you are face down for this). It will require discipline and desire on the part of your partner to stay focused on the task at hand ... namely to allow YOU to mentally explore and tease apart what merely feels good from that which excites you. Communicate this to your partner as this process unfolds.

This is the beginning. Having traced with a light touch with feather or finger, it is now time for your partner to do the same with lips ... BUT again DELICATE and SLOW. Here and there you should again communicate (if only through gasps and moans) what action sends shivers through you ... I recommend a partner tease a bit with a tongue flicker at these special moments. Beyond the obvious of lips and nipples, your partner should know secret areas (the back of the knee) and techniques (brush of one's hair). If this is your first time, and you have already gone stage 1, it can heighten your awareness to be physically restricted. I am not talking about bondage per se, but if you find yourself squirming too much when a sensitive area is piqued, too much of the energy required to reach your threshhold can be lost in the moment.

Successfully, having explored Stage 2, it is time for your partner to work with you. Building upon the previous stages, now taken in hand explore your body, caressing it increasingly massaging your outer labia. While you do so, your partner either with an appropriate device that you are already comfortable with or their fingers should further (SLOWLY and DELICATELY) explore) your inner labia, vaginal walls (for the moment leave the clitoris alone). Your partner should be simultaneously, purposefully, and selflessly kissing those areas, your lips, breasts, etc that have been identified as sensitive.

In some form or another, these are the initial three stages I take a woman through with whom I have never made love, and thereby learn a great deal about her. There is much more to follow depending upon the outcome of these ministrations. But this should get you started.

cheers

TTT
PS>Should you ask a prospective lover to describe how they would make love to you, or how they kiss you, and they defer or offer an excuse, they either are too inexperienced or too selfish to know or recognize your needs. And no one, man nor woman, deserves such a lover.


mm0206 69F
7767 posts
11/19/2006 5:02 am

hmmmmmm

such devotion to a woman's needs deserves the same given back...

...m.


tamethytension 54M
2320 posts
10/7/2006 10:28 am

    Quoting ginaginagina33:
    I keep checking back for some guilty pleasure but he's still gone. TTT please come back!
I'm sorry I missed you Gina. And I see you are altogether gone from AdultFriendFinder. On the remote chance you ever see this again, know that I always looked for your words, and will always think of you fondly.

cheers

TTT


tamethytension 54M
2320 posts
10/7/2006 10:26 am

    Quoting redlipsprincess:
    damn

    I can't read you when I am horny

    *needs a shower*
ahh my scarlet mistress
a catch 22 isn't ... if you're not already horny when you get here, you seem to be when you leave


tamethytension 54M
2320 posts
10/7/2006 10:16 am

    Quoting demonicsexkitten:
    though just because they can describe how they would kiss/make love wonderfully... they might still be too selfish in reality to go through with any of it.

    When you write stuff like this... just makes me really really wish you were in my neck of the woods
Your neck of the woods is a beautiful area. Turnbull National Wildlife Area I found to be fantastic for wildlife photography. May yet find myself out there again.

TTT


redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
51F

10/5/2006 8:55 pm

*awaiting my noble steed*

*muah*

your Princess

TTFN


redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
51F

5/8/2006 11:56 am

need a hot BJ in the closet sexxy?

[post 339335]

TTFN


ginaginagina33 45F

5/7/2006 7:25 pm

I keep checking back for some guilty pleasure but he's still gone. TTT please come back!


SlimGoodGuy 38M

4/11/2006 8:24 pm

Also good for giving yourself a refresher course in what your partner enjoys. If things start getting stale, it's a great way to start something new and exciting.


redlipsprincess
(Princess Lips)
51F

4/11/2006 1:53 am

damn

I can't read you when I am horny

*needs a shower*

TTFN


tamethytension 54M
2320 posts
4/10/2006 9:57 pm

this may develop further as ....

... an 8-10 day old growth of beard (short yet supple) coursing ever so lightly down your spine as you lay prone on the bed. Arriving at the small of your back, it lingers there, gradually circling about, grazing over the hills and valleys of your oh so ripe silky smooth bottom. Greater circles envelope your entire buttocks, only to twirl back to crevasse above your anus where wet lips leave a brief but indelible impression .... a long pause draws on as you imagination drives your senses to anticpate what may come next and just as you fear the last tingling of the previous ministrations are about to drop off into the abyss of sensory deprivation, you feel the hard warm press of moist lips into the soft delicate flesh behind your knee. Just as the first electric waves of this touch triggers spasms within your vagina, I flick my tongue out between lips locked upon your flesh to drive tickling reverberations through every nerve ending of your body ... your startled yelp is not enough to dissuade me as I continue full bore ... driving up the intensity such that you now thrash against your bonds but they hold tight ... and still I do not let up ... your now scream in maddening tickling ectasy begging for me to stop ... and farther I take you ... finally breaking you into deep sobbing and between gasps for breath, a pleading wimper for cessation of your overburdened nerve endings ... to which I answer with a gentle resting of my full weight upon you, burying my face in your hair, enclosing your clenched fists in stronger hands, encasing your mind within my devotion ...

cheers

TTT
> a reprise of an earlier post.


saddletrampsk 54F

4/9/2006 10:07 pm

actions speak louder than words..


twirly_girl 47F

4/9/2006 7:07 pm

Awesome technique!
Will have to start making that a requirement with
any man I have sex with for the first time.


-Nikki


demonicsexkitten 41F
10671 posts
4/9/2006 6:47 pm

though just because they can describe how they would kiss/make love wonderfully... they might still be too selfish in reality to go through with any of it.

When you write stuff like this... just makes me really really wish you were in my neck of the woods


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