A Safe Alternative to Choking  

tamethytension 54M
1659 posts
9/24/2005 9:39 pm

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A Safe Alternative to Choking

Please reference So this girl I am with now wants me to put my hand around her neck and choke her... Is this normal? for a recent post on Asphyxiaphilia ... the desire for some women to be choked during sex so as to heighten orgasm.

With regard to an alternative, I have found that a firm grip of the neck from behind at the trunk where it meets the body can be safely maintained yet provides a fairly satisfying sense, on the part of the woman, that she is completely under your control. It is important to note this is a single hand grip only, and that the hand rests at the base of the neck where it is strongest. The grip itself is only so firm as to be maintained against her slight tugs, otherwise coming free with any real pull. The grip is a whole hand envelopment of the musculature at the base of the neck and so does not approach the wind pipe nor any major blood vessels of the neck. If your hand is of a size to overlap the sides of her neck, keep the pressure points of the grip on her collarbone and muscles. At no time do they take in her neck with only the palm of your hand resting on the base of the neck. If your fingers are leaving any discoloration that does not clear up almost instantly, then this is too firm a grip. DO NOT take a grip at the base of the skull. I do practice this technique, and can say that is an effective and safe means of bringing an air of excitement to sex play without risk of cutting off her air supply.


tamethytension 54M
2320 posts
9/27/2005 1:23 pm

OK ... so no one wishes to be choked. Glad we're in agreement. Any opinions on the alternative I offer?


__Huntress__ 55M/57F

9/25/2005 4:29 pm

Bearing down
my love
he must be strong
so that when
the walls
in fury
and passion
overtakes me
he has not
slipped away ...

tight to me
and tighter
against your hips
i gnash
the spasms
and volleys
have been spent ...

it is
but a bear
who bores
his weight
that can call
this cave
his wilderness ...

... just don't choke me okay !

redmartinigirl 43F

9/25/2005 1:03 pm

I have never heard of this before... is it very common? how would one go about discovering if they liked it or doing it for a woman?? hmmm... I think some research is in order here...

frbnkslady 48F
6183 posts
9/25/2005 12:55 pm

I think I will pass on this one... T


rm_Network_Minx 47F
542 posts
9/25/2005 12:42 pm

I personally am not interested in being strangled at any time!!

MiAmore62 49M

9/25/2005 12:32 pm

my ex had asthma tooand fuckin loved doin it an havin it sone to her...its fucking awesonme....

wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
9/24/2005 11:42 pm

I am an asthmatic I don't need the hand just watch that I don't go blue


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