No Winners  

tadpudgy 56M
863 posts
8/28/2006 3:04 am

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No Winners

Have you ever got caught up in a 'he said/she said', 'i said/you said', 'someone said that you said', (you get my drift) scenario? Until cooler heads and maturity kick in.... you catch yourself in a situation where there are no winners. Dad always imparted that you are best served by not letting the sun set on your wrath. Most arguments/disagreements, when looked at in hind-sight, are really over petty things. More often than not a good portion of these scenarios are laughed about later, and forgiveness/apologies wash things away. There are some who can't rise above it, and it eats at them and others. It is like a wound that becomes infected, or a disease that can be transmitted to others. No winners. How do you think you handle things if you are personally involved, or get caught up, in any of these scenarios? What, if any, impact has it had on you and others? Here are my usual daily dose of HUG=GASMS to all!!!!!!!!!

ZZ_Todd 59M

8/28/2006 3:31 am

(thanks!) Now could you please write your famous Boris Karloff laugh so I can copy it into my "trouble words document" -- you know, the kind of words that spell checker hasn't learned yet!

tadpudgy replies on 8/28/2006 4:11 pm:
BWAHAHAHA eeeeexxxxcccceeeelllleeeennnntttt! Thanks for stopping by dude!!!

angelofmercy5 59F
17881 posts
8/28/2006 3:49 am

I'd like to be in the group that laughs and hugs after one of these scenarios. But unfortunately, it is the wound that has become infected.....and I can't seem to heal it. I successfully place a band-aid once in awhile.....but thats about it.

tadpudgy replies on 8/28/2006 4:13 pm:
Angel, i think everyone here has a wound or two like that. I think we all desire not to fight, or have disagreements, but it seems the nature of the beast! It's what we do that measures us. HUG=GASMS to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!


8/28/2006 6:51 am

I try to stick with the positive..have better gasems that way

under the stars
We choose to write
you choose what you comprehend.
read twice and be nice
every key stroke... has a heart beat

tadpudgy replies on 8/28/2006 4:15 pm:
ya see Mrs MUFF....if we concentrated on the GASMS we would have no time to concentrate on anything else!!! Many GASMS to you!!

VTLakesideVixen 60F
458 posts
8/28/2006 10:36 am

You know Tad, my Dad said what your Dad said.

Sweetie, I usually try and avoid these type of disagreements when I can unless they are attacking one of my good friends, like you Tad. Then I would go to bat to defend you, but NOT simply to tear anyone down and cause them to feel bad about themselves. Doing something like is just plain mean and evil and I refuse to be like that and I will not tolerate having anybody like this around me!

Lots of gentle, soft & tender hugs to you Taddy.


tadpudgy replies on 8/28/2006 4:18 pm:
Vixen, i believe we will not hesitate to protect people we care about; family,friends,etc. It's in our nature. I just wish at times i would think first before opening my mouth!!! Extra soft hugs to you too!!!!!!!! MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM=GASMS!!!

florallei 99F

8/28/2006 12:10 pm

I saw a lot of this unfortunately in Church and my workplace and I managed to dodge the bullets thrown about. Sometimes one can't help but to listen even when one does not want to but I don't take sides, my nature is sort of a mediator and negotiator. Peace encompass me unless it can't be helped.
I was called sunshine at work and Church which my friends at warring parties could testify I remained neutral.
We are all imperfect and I would hope that someone forgive me if I erred big or small without intent of hurting anyone to their core.
I noticed enough of these diagreements especially very close to home as my own mother never gave Peace to my father. She could throw more wood to that fire like I never thought anyone could. It was shameful!
I love that Bible verse...keeps me young and humble.

tadpudgy replies on 8/28/2006 4:24 pm:
I believe we are kindred spirits in how we treat others. "Blessed are the peacemakers!!" I have been a shoulder, an ear, an arbitrator, a mediator, etc. Seems some think i am the voice of reason when others have lost theirs. I think i am flattered. Take care sweet lady!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HUG=GASMS!!!!

ButteryDelight 58F

8/28/2006 12:13 pm

Yes..those type of situations can cause alot of harm. A lot of negative feelings cna be generated too. I try to avoid them. Sadly, you can't avoid all negativity as i found out this afternoon.

i recieved my first negative comment on my blog today. It was a shock. i guess i should have been expecting a negative comment at some point but not over killing a mole in my yard! i figured the negatives would come over something a little more important than that.

Buttery Delight

tadpudgy replies on 8/28/2006 4:21 pm:
I saw that comment...and believe me.....put it on 'ignore'. You wish them well, and don't linger. Has worked wonders for me....and i still wear my feelings on my sleeve too. HUG=GASMS!!!!

rm_sexxikritter 52F
2715 posts
8/28/2006 9:41 pm

Oh boy, oh boy...there was a time a few years back when I would have been right in the thick if things with a "he said, she said" Somewhere along the line, I learned that my head hurts less if I just walk away.


tadpudgy replies on 8/29/2006 1:52 am:
I totally agree Ms Sexxi. No matter how often our buttons get pushed, we just need to walk away. I think it shows how much wiser we become as we mature! HUG=GASMS!

rm_CuummDrop 49F
2591 posts
8/29/2006 7:35 pm

Learning to walk away, was always my way,,, don't get me wrong, it's not sticking my tail between my legs,, it's a "No Contest" for me... Regardless,,, i just walk away from impending arguements,, easier that way... So feelings don't get hurt, names don't get called... yada, yada, ...

Just stopping by,, i needed some Hugs....


Now won't last forever, so use it wisely~c

tadpudgy replies on 8/30/2006 2:56 am:
Always the sensible one Wendy.....Unlimited supply of hugs for you!!! KISSES+HUGS=GASMS!!!!

2375 posts
8/31/2006 12:14 pm

I once read that no matter what the fight/disagreement/argument is about, if you can't resolve it by bedtime, you should say to the other person "I know we have to work this out, and I know we can do that, so let's get some sleep and tomorrow we can talk with clearer minds. I love you, and we WILL work through this." I've found that by saying this, it opens the way to forgiveness and things tend to work out faster. Sometimes, saying that or something to that effect, is all that is needed. Good post!

tadpudgy replies on 8/31/2006 6:44 pm:
That is a wonderful thought....I truly wish more people did that. By planting that seed of love, things always seem easier to deal with the next morning. I appreciate that!! HUG=GASMS!!!

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