Flirtin Consequences  

tadpudgy 56M
863 posts
8/18/2006 4:18 am

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Flirtin Consequences

We had an "incident" yesterday at work. A male employee here was openly confronted by a man who was a bit put out about his flirting with his wife. Now, as his co-worker, i was first concerned for his safety. A couple of us asked him to go to the back breakroom. We suggested to the 'customer' to speak to a supervisor/manager and go appropriately about making a complaint. It looks like a "your word against mine" scenario. The customer continued to make threatening statements. All we could do was listen. Eventually management got him to leave. I like to flirt, but i become self-conscious about getting in trouble for it. There obviously is a right time and place for it. Any stories about flirting gone good, or bad? HUG=GASMS!!!!

purpletrashcan 50F
41658 posts
8/18/2006 7:45 am

I am told I am a big flirt. I never thought I was, just thought I was friendly. Then I was given the male point of view on my "friendliness" An eye opener for sure!

Pull My Fucking Hair!

tadpudgy replies on 8/18/2006 8:11 am:
Personally, i love a woman who is "flirty". Some men who want to respond with more, and don't get it, scream "You tease"! If flirted with, yes, i flirt back. As mature adults, we should know the difference between playful flirting, and when the flirting offers a greater invitation. I just get scared when i hear of over-the-top reactions to flirting. PURPLE....YOU CAN FLIRT WITH ME ANYTIME!!!! Have a great day!!!! HUG=GASMS!!!!

phoenix639 49F

8/18/2006 10:51 am

If your co-worker did flirt with this mans wife whilst the man was there it is bang out of order. Its disrespectful.

But one persons flirting is another persons being friendly.

On my meet & greet night out last month i was told i am a massive flirt...i wasnt. I was merely making friends & allies with the right people....door staff & police in the street. Ive always done this so i get back up easily if im approached by drunken louts.

Im am merely a very friendly person.

The customer & his wife may have marital issues & its extended outside.

All people who deal with public should be trained on what is & isnt appropriate behaviour.

tadpudgy replies on 8/18/2006 1:54 pm:
Agree with you about how we should behave when we are at work. And more often than not, friendliness is mistaken for flirting. You are wise to take precautions from the louts. I appreciate your frienndliness with me. In truth, i know my co-worker is border-line with his flirting. And yes, the couple smacks of "issues". My co-worker will 'hang' himself with his actions one day. I thank you, as always for your visits and inputs. HUG=GASMS and CHEERS=GASMS!!

rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
8/18/2006 10:58 am

It's never appropriate at work, either with customers or co-workers. I've had to deal with it as an employee, colleague, and manager. I worked in an office where two people were dating, but you'd never know it if you saw them at work. Absolutely professional, so much that when management discovered it, watched it for awhile, they let it go even though it was against policy.

I get hit on by clients all the time. I ask them if they would like to have someone else handle their account, and that usually ends it.

tadpudgy replies on 8/18/2006 12:17 pm:
You are right about how things happen in the work place. An old boss once offered up a philosophy: "Keep your pecker out of payroll"....A good philosophy, but he was tagging two subordinates at the same, he didn't practice what he preached.....But, when you are around the same people 5 days a week, human nature can kick in. It is a difficult line to walk. Biggest issue is maintaining professionalism if personal life doesn't work out. Glad you refer 'flirts' to co-workers/other agents. You don't want business affected, but you have to ensure your own work environment at work is protected! HUG=GASMS!!!!

florallei 99F

8/18/2006 12:08 pm

Hello TP,

Flirting is a "vague" description of giving extra or special attention to another person.
I am very friendly and at ease with my showing attention to everyone and so far no one has ever taken offense except for an ex who is a very jealous control freak.
It sounds like your co-worker may just have been very friendly and why would the female client say something to her husband unless it was to make him jealous. If she knew what he is like.
On the other hand the co-worker may have crossed the line that the woman felt very uncomfortable and said something to the husband.
It still puzzles me why the man would go on a big Rant...explain that the employee did something inappropriate and leave it at that.
Perhaps my conclusion is correct that the man is obssessive and the wife likes to tease him as well.
My 1 cent view, Hun.

tadpudgy replies on 8/18/2006 12:23 pm:
"Todd", my co-worker, is a sexual-harrasment case ready to happen. He does great in his sales numbers. But every hot woman seems to draw his undivided attention. Yes, there is a more appropriate way to handle this situation for the husband. Give "Todd" enough rope and he will hang himself. But i also agree about your 1-cent too. There is probably more going on in that husband/wife situation. HUG=GASMS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

VTLakesideVixen 60F
458 posts
8/19/2006 3:10 am

Tad, while I have no flirting stories to tell you, I must say I enjoy flirting--but only in the right situation. NEVER AT WORK!!

I think that when men like "Todd" meet up with a woman like the one in this story who are attached--it is only a matter of time before both the woman and Todd get only the stuffing beat out of them if they are lucky and just might end up dead if they are not!

I, personally, think that it is great to give good customer service --but I think that it is poor policy when that turns into flirting---the next thing Todd could be facing is some kind of "abuse" charges!
No doubt it would cost Todd his job, and probably the company a settlement due to court suit. It's just much better to give polite customer service and save the flirting for any place outside of the job!

Great big flirty hugs to you Taddy!


tadpudgy replies on 8/19/2006 12:30 pm:
Hard part is that "Todd" doesn't see it. But i agree with your philosphy. Take care Vix!!! HUG=GASMS!!!!!!

tadpudgy 56M

8/20/2006 1:42 pm

    Quoting kittenkisses24:
    i hate when there are confrontational issues. you don't know when someone is mentally unstable and are going to come back and blow away everyone there. i'm not sure what kind of work environment you are in...but i wonder if he came in after hearing of the flirting. or if he saw the flirting first hand. either/or, its not something that should of been handled out in the open. it should of been handled in private. its embarrassing for the employee, the person conducting themself in this manner, and for the wife too, not to mention everyone around them feeling very uncomfortable.
Yes, these situations are embarrasing and potentially dangerous. Does Todd need to stop? Most certainly. Most of these situations can be stopped before they happen. But something that can be considered harmless to some, can be serious to others....Thanks for the comment and visit. HUG=GASMS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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