How to be a gentleman...  

swtexygirl1 34F
163 posts
7/13/2005 9:23 am

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How to be a gentleman...

Have you ever wondered what proper dating manners were?

1. Men should stand when a woman enters a room, and when she departs.

2. Men should open doors for women. Stand and hold the door open, don't fling it open so she can rush through.

3. Woman should precede boys through every door except revolving doors. If there happens to be a revolving door when you are walking with a woman, you should enter it first so that you may push the door.

4. A man should give his seat up to a woman if there are no other seats around.

5. It is a good gesture to help a woman into her coat.

6. A man should fetch the drinks for his date if there are no waiters.

7. Order dinner for your date. Ask what she wants before of course.

8. If a man asks a woman out on a date, he should pay, but it does work the other way as well.

9. Always let the woman enter seats at a theater, or walk into a restaurant before you.

10. Pull out the chair for a woman when she is being seated at a table. Make sure you can do this gracefully first before you go for it.

lovescout 55M

7/15/2005 10:37 am

you are right I think that a lot of people have for got thier manners. In this day of super fast communcations i think people have for old fasion values. I have been guilt at time but I do try to make an effort to be coursity and use the old fashion values. I agree if you ask you pay un less there is an understand determind before the date of dutch. but that is decide before you go so there is no miss understanding. I hope more guy read this and strat to follow the rules of dating.

avlicker2 54M

7/16/2005 9:31 pm

Reading your list, I agree with most of them. However, I don't agree with number 7, ordering dinner for the lady. Sorry, to me, that's a little demeaning, as in, she obviously can't talk for herself, so I'll do it for her. Just my opinion.

swtexygirl1 34F

7/17/2005 3:31 pm

lol, I borrowed this from a friend in an email. I like them all, but you do have a point. It is kind of romantic though when a guy asks you what you want and orders for kind of shows a little class...not that someone who doesn't do that isn't classy, but it shows that the old ways haven't died out yet Thanks for your comments!

476 posts
7/18/2005 11:38 pm

All in my repertoire. I don't always use every courtesy with every woman, but many with most. Some women actually get irritated, especially if I offer to pay for dinner or a movie. I guess they don't want to feel obligated. I try to explain that "I can't help it." I was born in Louisiana and trained in the old ways. It's inbred.

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Priapeo 46M

7/23/2005 4:30 pm

Good to know that women can still be favourably impressed by such cares... I'd like to make some objections though:

1. Men should stand when their woman enters a room. (They stand more often than you might think... it's just that they delegate the action to a faithful part of their body)

4. A man should give his seat up to a woman if there are no other seats around. (But they do! They would even offer to let ladies sit on their laps).

5. It is a good gesture to help a woman into her coat. (It also is a good gesture to help a woman out of her coat and other miscellaneous clothes).

Chivalry is not dead.

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience

swtexygirl1 34F

7/24/2005 11:32 am

Jorge, It is definately disappointing that people have to be reminded of how to treat a woman. In my opinion, it should have been something that was ingrained into them when they were young and growing up. I guess that's just an opinion that I have formulated from living in the south. I don't know how things go up in New York, if guys treat women differently up there or not. I definately think there are "codes of conduct." This was a list that was sent to me from a friend, and I definately agree with them all. Although, I've never had a guy order for me, it seems romantic, lol.

BOOSIERBOY, The women that get irritated are probably very feminist. I don't know many of my lady friends, who would say no to a guy paying for a date, and I don't mean that in a bad way, I'm just saying that, women that I hang around are acustomed to guys paying, its how we were raised. This doesn't mean that I won't offer to pay every now-and-then though.

Priapeo, Thank you for the clever remarks to the list, lol...very cute

Idunno135 33M

7/26/2005 4:35 pm

6 of them I do. Damn, that's kinda scary. I act better than most of the men around me. So what does that really say about men in general?

3, 5, 7, and 10 I don;t think I have ever done on a regular basis.

bigman4finewoman 48M
25 posts
8/29/2005 4:20 pm

Chivalry is not dead indeed! Some women have not yet had the experience of a gentleman. Then you have the leftist feminists....they don't know what they are missing. I never minded being a gentleman, I was raised that way... but I LOVE a lady...
...kissing your hand before I leave....

satyricalbeast 45M

9/13/2005 12:33 am

Agree with you wholeheartedly, swtexygirl, real men have manners and style and grace, and should make their date feel like a queen...not only does this make the time special for the lady, but there is a lot of pleasure to be had in being the perfect gentleman and seeing your woman smile...definitely reward enough!

rm_gopherboy 53M

10/25/2005 7:02 pm

Amen . . . wish I could hook up with you and practice . . .

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