Whats in a name  

sweetthing782 52F
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12/13/2005 5:45 pm

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Whats in a name

Earlier today I had an interesting conversation with my husband regarding the word "slut" I asked him if that is what I was becoming because of what I am doing...I was wondering if I should be feeling dirty about myself, but the conversation proceeded pretty much this way:

Him: why are you feeling like that, you know that you are not dirty, sleazy or anything else?

Me: I know, you say that, but don't you feel a little bit that way when you look at me?

Him: NO!!absolutly not, not now, not ever. Let me tell you something..."slut" is a name that all the goody, goody two shoes give to women who want to enjoy a little of what life has to offer. For the most part these same women are just frustrated because they haven't got the guts to find a little of the same excitement and I'll bet 99% fantasize about it at one time or another.

Me: I don't ever want you to be ashamed of me.

Him: 23 years together, have I ever been ashamed of you for any reason?

Me: no, but this is different.

Him: why, I adore you, I respect and admire you, and most of all I want you happy. Are you happy?

Me: yes.

Him: Are you having fun?

Me: yes

Him: then what the hell is the problem. Listen, if you feel like you need the title then take it, but just remember you are my little "slut" and no matter what you think that means, you are loved, you are respected, and you will always be the classiest lady I know.

Now, I know husbands and boyfriends are supposed to say such things to their wives and girlfriends, but one thing I know is that my husband is very honest and genuine in his feelings for me. I don't know where the word came from or for that matter why it has been attached only to women who have fun(maybe because it resembles the word "slit", I don't know. I do know that the men who are out there doing us "sluts" are usually called players, good time charlies, studs or ladies men, etc. Not much of a stigma, huh!

I guess what I really want to say is to the man who is most important in my life, what people want to label me is unimportant in his view of me. I am going to keep having fun, enjoying life to it's fullest and all with his blessing, and:

TO ALL YOU GOODY TWO SHOE WOMEN OUT THERE: if your man is looking for a woman "like me" maybe, just maybe, you need to become a little sluttier.

beaudean64 48M/47F

12/14/2005 4:05 am

Men can me sluts also.Just because one enjoys have some fun with someone other than their spouse does not make them a bad person. We all know that some people will label what we do here as wrong, and just don't understand that we treat it as fun/entertainment.

Being a little slut is not a bad thing, my husband does not think so.

rm_longdays4u 58M

12/15/2005 4:47 pm

Slut?!...that fair lady is one of those words that uptight "do gooders" like to label people with...if you are not harming anyone and you are comfortable with yourself where is the harm?..To me there is nothing worse than sitting back and wondering "what if"..and living your life unfulfilled...863You have to be true to yourself. If you are enjoying yourself and your encounters and you other half is aware of it and he is okay with it, No harm...

hornytoad2b 51M

12/15/2005 9:12 pm

you are one of the most passionate people I have ever had the pleasure of being with. dont let it get to you. you have a great husband thet loves you and respects you and just wants you to be happy. who cares what all them stuck up people say. your a great person. i cant wait to have another passion filled meeting with you. bye sweetthing

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