sweetthing782 51F
82 posts
3/24/2006 8:46 pm

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What am I missing? Over the past 2 weeks I have received 7 invitations which have all had the same basic comment, i.e. I am going to be in town on such and such a date, would you like to get together and fuck? Now, in the first place I do not seek one night stands, I do not like one night stands, and I sure as hell will not go willingly into a one night stand, especially with someone that has not attempted to get to know me or me them. Oh!, don't get me wrong, I have had them but they have been as a result of going out with someone, expecting great know, bells, whistles, fireworks, etc., but finding out that at the end of the day, one night was plenty for any woman to bear..we've all been there I'm sure. But why, just because a woman is on the site trying to have a little noncommitted fun, think she would be interested in fucking him, sight unseen, as it were, just because he is coming to town.

One even had the balls to suggest that maybe we could grab a "quickie" or two between his classes. Now tell me, isn't that the sexiest approach you have ever heard. Wow, I had such a hard time reaching for the delete button...NOT! What woman looks forward to a quickie? Have had them too, husband, boyfriends, premature ejaculators..just grab a piece of ass on the way out the door..what absolute joy and pleasure, can't ever get enough of that. Oh yeah! hubby and I came to a great understanding over that some 24 years ago!!!!

Like I said, maybe it's just me...maybe I am missing something in this new age-but, if you give me that kind of invite without even a hi, hello, or how the hell are you, it is straight to delete. I won't check your profile, I won't answer you, you won't pass go or collect 200 dollars but you will go straight to the trash bin and there will be no "get out free" card.

hotandhorny107 58F

3/24/2006 9:41 pm

I have also had that type of offer and one person even went so far as to expect that he would be staying at my place. I too have on occasion gone the one night stand route, but this is the exception to my rule. Thankfully it has worked out. However like you I expect to be treated with respect and dignity. Just because I am on this site does not mean all I am looking for is to get laid. I prefer to make friends first and be treated accordingly. Go out have dinner do a movie now and then. But to have an mail that says nothing but lets fuck goes to the trash....

sweetthing782 51F

3/25/2006 5:15 am

I know what you mean. I don't ask for or ever expect guys, or gals, to buy me gifts, feed me or ply me with drinks...if it turns out dinner and a movie or whatever, then great. But, what I DO EXPECT is get to know me, chat with me. The profile is good but very basic. I want to know who it is that wants to fuck me and I sure as hell want to know about the other person.

realcurvywoman 35F

3/25/2006 6:25 pm

Ha, girls, haven't you been around here long enough to know that's what almost all the guys here are expecting? They all seem to want numerous one nite stands with as many different partners as possible. That's the big difference between most women and men, men don't care who they have sex with, they don't have to be attracted to someone or get to know someone before they have sex with them. I'm with you girls, I want to get to know someone a bit before I have sex with them, one nite stands are bound to happen once in awhile but that's not what I'm looking for either.

I think that most guys don't think that women are capable of having non-committed fun. I can have feelings for somone and a great connection but that doesn't mean I want to move forward and start a serious relationship, no thanks. Not all women want the hassles of a relationship, ha, I for one just the perks not the hassles! How hard is that to understand guys!!

rm_bluejade2832 42M/39F

3/25/2006 7:07 pm

girl you have said it. I to have had that and I do reply with wellll basically what your blog said ie what makes you think I would fu ck you now huh as if.... MEN good post keep em cumin

kisses mel

mikkie11 66M
13 posts
3/27/2006 6:01 pm

Interesting comments Sweetthing. I thought we were trying to get to know each other and then you stopped emailing and didn't say why. I do come to town several times a month and am certainly not looking for a one night stand but a friend to maybe go to dinner with or a drink and just hang for a while and what ever happens happens.
Now if I am not your type then I guess tell me that and I will understand. But if you are interested in getting to know me then tell me that too.

Catharsis33 44M

3/27/2006 7:26 pm

Most men on here do not think they have a chance with anyone. So they use the a SS hole aproach and send out these one line emails. Does it work, well I sure hope not because that would be one desperate person just to agree to it. It is also because most can not find anything more clever to say. Well hell or maybe it is just because they feel the need to compensate for either a limited vocabulary or minute penis. Either way, it gives guys on here a bad name.

rm_nordmann622 54M
1 post
4/12/2006 9:04 pm

While I agree with your sentiments, guys are not the only one who send out comments like those you have received. I have received several such emails from women saying they want to f*ck me, site unseen. Considering the fact that I do not have a picture posted, there is virtually no way they can even know what I look like.

Apparently, these girls are simply trying to solicit guys to other pay sites to view there pictures. I have received several emails from these girls, saying I haven't responded since their last email. Considering that we had not communicated previously, it seems pretty obvious they are just fishing. I received my favorite email yesterday - it contained 4 distinct messages with 4 different email addresses and 4 different names. I guess she is new at the solicitation game.

It has made me begin to wonder if the real people, like yourself and some others, are not in the vast minority of people on this site. I share your frustration at receiving such emails. It has really made me jaded. Sometimes I won't even look at the new email for a couple of days, as I am tired of receiving those emails

Like you, I do not want a one nite stand. I want to get to know the person. I, for one, would not want to have sex with someone until I felt comfortable with them. That takes time, and depending on your inclinations, it could be seen as either positive or negative.

While I am not offering excuses for the jerks on this site, after receiving so many of those stupid emails, I can at least understand why they may pursue such undesirable tactics out of pure frustration. However, we all need to realize that sometimes you just have to take the good with the bad.

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