Please speak now or forever hold your pee!  

sweetthang2877 39F
736 posts
8/22/2005 3:20 am

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Please speak now or forever hold your pee!


Hello again Blogvillians!! Hope all is well for all who read this!
A friend of mine is getting married later today, and I'm hoping it's not what I'm thinking. It's just that these two "Love-Birds" have only KNOWN each other for about 2 months! Forgive me if I'm wrong, but I think it takes more than 8 weeks to get to know each other, at least to the point of knowing whether or not you can make that kind of commitment!
It just feels like a marriage of convenience to me. I hope I'm wrong and they really do love each other, but the skeptic that I am, I just can't believe it yet.
Why does it seem like a MOC?
If they get married, SHE gets his insurance, his income, a free place to live, his car....
He gets custody of his child as he will now have a full-time "mommy" at home to take care of the little one.
Now, he's getting deployed in a couple months. If I know her, there's a better than average chance that she won't be faithful. Again I hope I am wrong....
So I guess I just stay out of it. It's not MY marriage after all....right? May God bless them with a million beautiful days together, and pray that I am wrong.....

Just a few more endless ramblings from the mind of...

ST

rm_unlistedone 65M
2718 posts
8/22/2005 7:15 pm

I once asked separately, two friends of mine that were about to get married "if they were excited and if they truly loved the other?" They both got a glassy-eyed look, hesitated, and then answered yes. The hesitation sent up a warning flag with me. In less than six months, their marriage was on the rocks.
I hope for them you are wrong, also.


rm_luke69iner 48M
3275 posts
8/22/2005 8:05 pm

I hope it works for them to. It's hard to tell if a marriage will make it. I've had friends divorce in less than two years when I thought they would make a great long-term couple. My poor brother had all of his groomsmen (including me) ask him if he was making the right choice because we didn't think his marriage would work. My brother and his wife have been married now for over 10 years and have 4 kids.

Eights weeks is a really really short time. I hope they get a chance to be together before kids throw some more twists into their relationship. I think you’re smart to be hesitant about asking too many questions and risking your friendship. Hopefully, your friend will confide in you if they have serious doubts. Be careful about questioning their decision on their wedding day though, my brother and his wife still bring up my indiscretion.

By the way ST, do you wanna go get married or should we wait for 8 weeks first?

Always,
Luke


S'io credesse che mia risposta fosse
A persona che mai tornasse al mondo,
Questa fiamma staria senza piu scosse.
Ma perciocche giammai di questo fondo
Non torno vivo alcun, s'i'odo il vero,
Senza tema d'infamia ti rispondo
.
~Dante~


CaboWaboVHnut 56M
637 posts
8/22/2005 9:35 pm

I've heard of a "few" marriages that lasted, after such a short dating time. Not many though !!! I think you're right, MOC !!! My wife & I kind of went to the other extreme. We had our 1st date on June 30, 1979. We dated for a year, then got engaged. We were engaged for 6 years, then got married !!! We were married 7 years before we had a child, and we're still together to this day !!! 26 years, Good Grief !!! It's amazing she hasn't killed me by now !!! Peace !!! Cabo !!!


sweetthang2877 39F
534 posts
8/22/2005 11:35 pm

Unlisted, I've seen my share of such marriages in my day. I asked them both whether they felt a real love for one another and they both answered "yes" with no hesitation...but those red flags are still there!

ST


sweetthang2877 39F
534 posts
8/22/2005 11:39 pm

luke, can I at least meet you first????? damn you move fast beau!!!
I have some serious doubts about this union, and in the past my gut instinct is almost always right. I just want to be wrong this time

ST


sweetthang2877 39F
534 posts
8/22/2005 11:41 pm

Cabo, starting to date yourself a little hon! Congrats on 26 years, and I hope they have been happy ones! This one just spells the poster child for MOC to me....

ST


rm_luke69iner 48M
3275 posts
8/23/2005 9:27 am

ST

I was just joking about the quickie marriage. Although, I would consider myself an exceptionally lucky man if you had sad yes.

I enjoy talking with you on your blog but I know next to nothing about you. If you ever want to meet in the real world we could start as friends with the only benefit being friendship, which is the best benefit in my book. We actually don't live too far apart and I would love to get to know more about you.

Halloween on Franklin Street in Chapel Hill is always fun. I'd be happy to meet you anywhere for coffee or a drink. And I'll be almost as happy to just remain your blog friend. If you want to see my profile I'll upgrade with AdultFriendFinder.

Sorry to throw this at you on your blog but I didn't want to leave your comment unanswered.

Always,
Luke


S'io credesse che mia risposta fosse
A persona che mai tornasse al mondo,
Questa fiamma staria senza piu scosse.
Ma perciocche giammai di questo fondo
Non torno vivo alcun, s'i'odo il vero,
Senza tema d'infamia ti rispondo
.
~Dante~


CaboWaboVHnut 56M
637 posts
8/23/2005 9:52 am

Date myself ?! I've been dating myself since I found out about masturb...... OH ! U mean I'm old !!! Well Hell !!! Everyone knows that !!! We started dating when she was 17, & I was 19 !!! By todays standards, we've been together an eternity !!! Wouldn't trade it for anything !!! {Thought I'd better add that, in case she see's this !!!} Peace !!! Cabo !!!


sweetthang2877 39F
534 posts
8/23/2005 12:08 pm

Luke I knew you were joking and that's WHY I said that...So, you're in Chapel Hill? Hmmmm.....

ST


sweetthang2877 39F
534 posts
8/23/2005 1:46 pm

Doggonit!! I keep posting responses and they don't show up!!
CABO, I wasn't trying to call you old, I was merely joking. However, now that you mention it, I was born in Feb. 77, so I was 2 when you and your wife began dating! A wise choice on including that statement BTW!!

Many more years of happiness to you!

ST


keystonenc 42M
144 posts
8/23/2005 4:59 pm

Two months is definitely too soon with a child involved, especially if he is being shipped out in a couple of months. It could be a tough road for her to hoe if she is going to be expected to take care of a child on her own that she barely knows.


sweetthang2877 39F
534 posts
8/24/2005 12:12 am

keystone, yes indeed! BTW These two were supposed to call me and have me meet them at the JOP (justice of the peace) so I could be witness to the union...they never called. I guess they got someone else??
She is 40 and he is 25...I'm sure she knows more about parenting than I do and MUCH more than he does! I think she will be ok, I'm more worried about HIM!
Ishn't dat vierd??

ST


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