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sweetlilrose 34F
7 posts
2/4/2006 9:21 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

new to this...

I just joined this site, and i am not sure i trust it, yet i find the people facinating... The most likely reader of my profile is the midlife male... the one who is anywhere from late thirties to late fifties... I am not looking for an older man... yet that is what i attract...

I normally never get hit on... unless it is by someone i dont want to be hitted on... I have people hitting on me who want nothing more out of me then good sex... the question in my mind is how is sex good if there is no feeling behind it... now i am not talking about true love or romantic love... i am talking about pure physical emotions...

I have noticed... that when sex isnt good for me... it is when there is no emotion behind it... like when i just fulfill a primal need to cause an orgasm...

There are about 7 to 11 different emotions according to emotional/evolutionary psychology theory... and i have tried almost all of them with sexual encounters... The only emotion i can recall not pairing with a sexual encounter was fear... The two horrible sexual experiences I had were each paired with disgust and shame... This is interesting for me because it seems as though for other people, these two emotions are what they seek in a sexual experience...

Excellent sexual experiences for me were paired with joy, suprise, sadness (because they were trying to make me feel better)... and so on for other emotions, and a few i have not tried yet, and i am not sure i want to.

Anyways... The most meaningful experience was where i thought that the person could really get to know me, understand me, and appreciate who i am as a person... So far, all of thoes expectations have been dashed and i find myself single again...

Its interesting how i flip flop from being a realist to an optomist... I will always be a dreamer at heart... And, some of thoes dreams will become realities... I am happy with what life has to offer. I am not looking too much to the future... I would like to meet someone who is more than just a wham bam thank you mam.. but i am not looking to get married or children... Seems like other dating sights are more aimed at the people who want to get married... So i will see how it goes...

semperfi2u 46M
129 posts
2/4/2006 1:05 pm

We common folks call it chemistry... I wrote about it in my blog recently. btw... you can moderately control the us Midlife men with the 'ignore' and 'block' buttons! It's nice to read such a beautiful brain in blogville...and only 23... welcome!

F1reman6969 49M

2/4/2006 2:49 pm

just stick to your guns and keep blasting until the right men make their way to you and you allow them to disarm you and begin a mature and respectful conversation.
and have fun.

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timberwolf6972 44M

2/5/2006 5:26 am

Hello Rose, Weocome to the site, I wish you luck in your search. {=}

timberwolf6972 44M

2/5/2006 5:27 am

Welcome* lol

chocolateisland 48M
4 posts
2/5/2006 6:38 pm

23 with such clarity, awesome thing to see. This is like going to a wine tasting. You just have to try a few until you find the flavor that fits your palate.

Cuuning_Linguist 34M

2/8/2006 1:23 pm

Wow girl you sound like your no layman when it comes to the emotional rollercoaster of finding a significant other. I definitely feel the same and am curious to see what’s around the corner for myself. Anyways just wanted to comment that I feel ya and there are tons of other ppl out there dealing with the same stuff. So good luck and if you ever feel like chatting feel free to hit me up @ AdultFriendFinder

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