Friends with benefits...Yes or No???  

sweetambrosia52 36F
90 posts
7/24/2006 12:41 pm

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Friends with benefits...Yes or No???

my dad always said that it was great to have friends with benefits ...i've had the friends with benefits that worked out fine but i've also had the friends with benefits that we got connected and found we had feelings when that was not at all what i was interested in for various reasons. so what do you think of it? do you think its a good thing? a bad thing? tell me about some of your experiences whether they are good or bad..tell me them all..come in sit down,drink up an alabama slammer and lets start shooting the breeze about sweetambrosia's first blog topic....i can't wait to see what you all say!


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rm_callmetiger2 34M

7/24/2006 1:16 pm

Hey Sweety,

In my opinion, I've had pretty good luck with FWB's. I've also had the ones you're talking about too. The only thing that I can say that might help is make sure you tell the friend upfront what your intensions are and where you see them going. If you tell him that you don't mind hooking up with other people and you just like to have a good time, most men would appreciate that. BUT, you may lose your chances in being intimate with the man, woman, whatever floats your boat. If that person has a strong realization that they could see themselves with you in the future or whatever, then it'll probably scare them off. Hope this helps.

Ramblings of a Stoner


leo_leo_man 44M
14 posts
7/24/2006 1:28 pm

You are Looking for friends at the wrong place don't attach your self emotionaly just enjoy life you would be happy at the end of the day with no strings attached.


k1ss1000 47M/36F

7/24/2006 1:29 pm

hi! i guess most of my friends have something to offer! some are good listeners, some are good to go out with and others are good to flirt with!if they didnt have any benefit then why be friends?


bustybettyboop 50F  
59325 posts
7/24/2006 1:55 pm

ooh! the friends with benefits thing! been there a few times...i had good experiences but in the same time they got attached and possessive. i'm scared to try that because most times its turned bad for me..but what do i do...i keep trying it out..whats a girl to do..*shrug* well lifes full of adventure gotta jump in with both feet or you;ve never lived and who knows maybe my prince is around somewhere..i'm sooooooooo sick of kissing frogs!

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rm_Smile_My_Way 59M
1519 posts
7/24/2006 2:26 pm

FWB is a great concept, but doesn't always turn out the way one might think. One might have feelings for the other and may not receive the same feelings back and that can be hard to deal with. I think for FWB to work all your cards must be put on the table for all to read. That way both know what to expect from each other and less likely for someone to be hurt if it should end. I biggest thing is you both have to click, not just jump in the sack, but actually become friends and then you will have more success. Not 100% but your odds will be better.


warmgrey7 50M
422 posts
7/24/2006 2:31 pm

Welcome to the jungle!
I enjoyed U on cam 7/22. You are an attractive woman! Muah!!
FWB, huh? My last relationship turned out to be FWB. Trouble was, I thought that it was going to be the real deal! She was 41, I was 38 - not like we were schoolkids... There was no big "breakup". Something made her mad and she basically dumped me without saying it was over. The sex was electric and we had a lot in common, but she just wanted FWB. I didn't mope or get depressed at all. It was just kind of surreal... Everything dissolved like a mirage. Poof!
If that's all you want from a person, then go ahead. However, as we age we get more complex and that leaves the door open to one partner wanting more and ultimately, someone gets hurt.
If that made any sense to you at all, then I'm happy. If not, well, I'm still happy! Later...
warmgrey7


rm_kelli4u2dew 41F
5220 posts
7/24/2006 3:27 pm

    Quoting rm_Smile_My_Way:
    FWB is a great concept, but doesn't always turn out the way one might think. One might have feelings for the other and may not receive the same feelings back and that can be hard to deal with. I think for FWB to work all your cards must be put on the table for all to read. That way both know what to expect from each other and less likely for someone to be hurt if it should end. I biggest thing is you both have to click, not just jump in the sack, but actually become friends and then you will have more success. Not 100% but your odds will be better.
I agree with that. Didn't stop me from falling in love with someone, but made it easier when he didn't fall in love with me.

It's always difficult to determine whether someone is an adult until you've known them awhile, but I'd rather sex be friendly.


sweetambrosia52 36F
69 posts
7/24/2006 8:30 pm

callmetiger2.........Thanks for your input i get what you are saying....take care*wink*

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sweetambrosia52 36F
69 posts
7/24/2006 8:32 pm

leo_leo_man........i am not looking for them i just had one that a friend for years and we are great togther as long as we were not togther if you get what i mean.

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sweetambrosia52 36F
69 posts
7/24/2006 8:33 pm

k1ss1000.......i totally agree i have friends like that too

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sweetambrosia52 36F
69 posts
7/24/2006 8:36 pm

busty........well the frogs will someday turn into your prince i promise just keep looking and having fun and dont forget to look under all the rocks and throw back any bad ones....lol i have seen your frogs...lol

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sweetambrosia52 36F
69 posts
7/24/2006 8:38 pm

smile_my_way.....that is so true and the guy i had as a fwb was my best friend and we just could not make it work as a couple....but work great as fwb.......thank you

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sweetambrosia52 36F
69 posts
7/24/2006 8:41 pm

warmgrey7.......you make sense and i totally understand where you are coming from thank you for your input dear.....*wink*

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sweetambrosia52 36F
69 posts
7/24/2006 8:43 pm

kelli4u2dew...........sex should always be friendly and your right you cant find out if they are an adult untl you have been around someone for awhile....thanks for the post

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Looking0100 54M

7/25/2006 2:05 am

What is a friend with benefits? How would I even recognize one?

Jon C.


sweetambrosia52 36F
69 posts
7/25/2006 6:00 pm

looking0100........fwb are two people who are friends and they sleep togther while they are both single and do not or try not to get involved in a relationship with each other emotionally...hope that helps

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Looking0100 54M

7/25/2006 11:11 pm

Sweet,

Thanks! That clear up all confusion.

I am not sure I would ever do that. Of course, I need the friends first. All I have right now are online friends, beautiful Busty included. Most of my current friends are blog friends. Actually the very first person to accept me in a chat room (The Party Room) in this web site is currently my best friend, my Canadian friend. I love her very much.

Would I choose to have sex with a friend? Probably not, though I am quite desperate. If a female friend of mine asked the big question first, I would definitely say "yes", without hesitation. Please read my posts [post 346412] and [post 397675]. These detail my experiences and lack thereof. Also, you and Busty could both take a look at this post [post 423536]. I wrote that in her honor. Please ask her to read it.

Thank you for being my friend.

Jon C.


sweetambrosia52 36F
69 posts
7/26/2006 11:50 am

ok looking0100....i will be sure to look at that and tell her ty!!!!!

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rm_B_O_H_I_C_A 53M
342 posts
7/30/2006 1:15 am

First of all, I stumbled across your blog in the "recent" section and can only say...
What a find!
I read the post, LMAO and (of course) had to start at the beginning (your first blog).
That said...
I think everyone who's had FWB will agree that they can go in either direction. I fell for one and was disappointed and have been fallen for and had to disappoint. Communication (as Smile_My_Way said) is simply the best way to handle it. The problem seems to be getting all parties on the same page. Once intimacy enters the picture, that picture tends to get a bit larger for a lot of people. Keeping an open line of communication (should other feelings start to develope) and being able to openly discuss what's going on in our hearts is a definite must. Hearing "I'm starting to have feelings for you" can scare the crap out of you ... but if you don't feel it too, not saying something right away will lead to a huge let-down (and probably even jeapordise the friendship).
My two-and-a-half cents worth!


sweetambrosia52 36F
69 posts
7/30/2006 8:37 pm

bohica....thank you for all your commits i love them and your 2 1/2 cents is always welcome and i do totaly agree with what you and everyone has said....toodles

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