It is tempting  

sweetalyssum 47F
560 posts
10/8/2005 9:15 am

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It is tempting

As you begin to see the souls of others revealed through their blogs to want to counsel, to say to them,"Well, it's just so need to do this...and you need to do that..."

However, in my vast experience of observing human nature and idosyncracies, I've found I would do much better speaking to a wall. (Walls really do have lots of stories to tell about us. Would make an interesting movie...hmmmmm?)

My opinions are from what I've learned through the most difficult parts of my life. Experiencing them has given me insights and the ability to recognize when others might be struggling with a same sort of quandary. But I for the most part keep silent, only listening, only waiting for the moment that they ask for that bit of advice...then I listen more to hear if they really want it or want the sort of dialogue that allows them to just vent more.

Sometimes, perhaps we know all along, exactly what we need, what we need to do, but there are so many other factors to consider and then the emotions that get it further tangled up, til it's a knot of twistedness that we cannot hope to see a way out of. We pull and tug on the wrong strings, the wrong relationships, the wrong tactics to make us feel better, all the while getting it wound up tighter and adding loops to the mess.

Finally, one day, we've left it alone and someone with just the right balming presence gives one pull on the right string, and voila! The knot is untangled.

We look back, see the loops, see exactly where they tangled, and recognize those same areas for others...but have to stay silent til we are chosen to be the balming presence to untangle the knot.

rm_magnet4u22 49F
18406 posts
10/8/2005 10:53 am

You are very wise....Listening is an art that most have not perfected. I think as we read others blogs, it is very easy to be the armchair quarterback and instantly see what they need to do and what we should tell them to do. It is also very easy to see what type of person they really are (for the most part, some may not be so honest ha). I agree that we also probably know all along what we need and what we need to do and venting is theraputic in helping untangle that knot. In the end we will do what we are going to do and hopefully what is best for us. Thanks for your comments to my blog, as well.....they are very appreciated.


sweetalyssum 47F

10/8/2005 11:58 am

Kisses Mags...

My comments were sincere.

Wise is as wise does, eh?

Only wise if I can steer myself properly, or at least look back and say, "oh...I see the rocks, now."

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