Dividing Joy  

sweetalyssum 47F
560 posts
1/20/2006 9:05 pm

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Dividing Joy


"Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value of a joy you must have somebody to divide it with."
- Mark Twain

How true to be able to wallow in self-pity all by my lonesome and yet there is this need and desire to have a special person to look at as I laugh while watching Robin Williams on television.
Seeing something of beauty and sharing that poetic beauty with some who see it also; is it enough to recognize that beauty and have no one to share it with? Is the sweetness of a peach more desirable when shared lustfully with someone else?

Perhaps we need to have someone to point out a moment of joy to us and then it can be divided, or even given back and forth, joy bouncing and cascading like a waterfall, giggling as it tumbles down the sheer rocks of life.

Is that we seek even as we advertise for “no strings attached” relationships? Can there be joy without the risk of vulnerability? Or does the very protection that we impose on ourselves restrict us to lives of grief?

Let me divide joy. Let it multiply by sharing it with another. Let it spill over in my life like a cleansing stream that will jump in and fill the seeming chasm that is grief.

rm_magnet4u22 49F
18406 posts
1/20/2006 10:01 pm

Now you are making us think!!! I think most people who advertise for no strings are trying to protect themselves from hurt....they are afraid to try again and don't allow themselves to "be" in a relationship. That protection keeps them from sharing that joy. No strings may work for a while but, in the end, strings always appear. I would hope to divide the joy with someone......and a good wine



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rm_cockmerollme 45F
1223 posts
1/20/2006 11:33 pm

The big problem is that you are laughing at Robin Williams.

He's not funny.

You should have yourself checked ASAP.

LET'S GO METS!!!


gemini0157 59M  
6842 posts
1/21/2006 10:16 am

Very seldom is there a reward without a risk....and certainly in this instance.


rm_mtnravyn 60M
890 posts
1/21/2006 10:23 am

Beautifully written. As for "no strings" I find that very different from "friends with benefits." The fact that a friendship exists implies there are strings of caring, concern, interest, shared joy and pain, vulnerability, and a level of commitment. As a Richard Bach title said "There is No Such Place as Far Away." While the sharing may no alaways be in person, when the physical opportunity presents, the play and sharing can be incredibly sweet and can be like the sunlight breaking through a very dark cloud.


sweetalyssum 47F

1/22/2006 8:31 pm

Mags! A bottle of wine and thou!

LOL!!!

I know...how cheesy! Make it two bottles of wine and I'm sure we will have plenty to be joyful about and to share.


sweetalyssum 47F

1/22/2006 8:38 pm

Cockmerollme...

You were trying to be funny, right darlin?


sweetalyssum 47F

1/22/2006 8:39 pm

Akadafa...

Yes, isn't it wonderful that joy can be divided and grows, rather than lessening?

Much joy to you!


sweetalyssum 47F

1/22/2006 8:41 pm

Gem...

A relationship, whether it is friendship or one of deep caring is a thing of beauty; yes, even a risk.


sweetalyssum 47F

1/22/2006 8:44 pm

Ravyn...

"Friends with benefits" is a better apellation to put on the possibility of sharing joy.


rm_magnet4u22 49F
18406 posts
1/23/2006 9:20 am

Why not two bottles....one for each of us!!! Lots of joy there to share.



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