Pretty powerful!  

MsLoveRose 33F  
2019 posts
9/13/2005 1:35 pm

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Pretty powerful!


A fellow blogger wrote an entry on giving love a second chance...this was my reply....

You know i have to think that love is so powerful sometimes...and when you experiece the range of emotions and depth of character it holds...its almost impossible to define it.

YOU know the answer to that! Is the love so strong...so powerful that you can go back....if they felt the same would they have walked away in the first place?? How can you protect yourself from being hurt again...if they choose to flee again???? Your strengths...comes from within...and you know just how much your heart can hold...

In the name of love we have to be forgiving sometimes...and that means just accepting when someone is willing to even ask for a second chance...so the ball is in your court...and the pressure...is there...but you have to think of whats best for your heart...

NOTHING i am saying is law...im just using my experience to offer a bit of advice on what you should do next....whatever you decide...its not anything light...to think about...


I had a conversation just yesterday with a dear friend of mine...a few years back he was going through a rough time...and i wrote to him

Love comes
up out of no where
snatches your heart
soul
mind
Takes you to
Never never land
Creates happiness
brings out sadness
love leaves it.


He took what i said and thought agreed that love has its ups and downs...and not all love will be lasting...but its what you do with the love you have...that counts!

live more, laugh often, love much


rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
9/13/2005 2:10 pm

well, if people walk away cos you are stupid enuf to send them packing, it's really difficult to know...



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MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
9/13/2005 4:06 pm

thats true free...but i dont know what the case was with the other guy...who i responded....but with my best friend... she just wasnt ready for something serious...and he was...so she left...loved him but was greedy...he was debating on giving her another chance....

live more, laugh often, love much


sleeplessknight1 68M

9/13/2005 4:16 pm

Sometimes it is right to walk away...
Sometimes, unfortunately walking away will cause less pain in the long run for both parties.... but it is never easy to let go.
The chances of getting a return ticket are remote.


halcyonfire17 44M
7 posts
9/13/2005 6:16 pm

I once fell in love so deeply and truly everything else in my life seemed insignificant for quite some time.
I, being very young and foolish, got cold feet at the thought of getting overly serious with this girl. I not only lost her because of this...but broke her heart so terribly she literally became and has remained a much colder and more cynical person.

For five years, I had terrible dreams of my Lost Love...the guilt and loss ever insistent in my subconscious.
One day, I ran into a mutual friend who told me that this particular woman had moved very close to my hometown.
It is very important to me as a being to leave a relationship in a favorable way....to be looked back upon by a woman with positive reflection rather than dour thoughts. I made contact with her...and after a $300 phone bill & $500 worth of sterling silver long-stemmed roses, she invited me to her apartment.

One day...she will be an Encounter on my personal blog.

This was literally THE woman for me.
Here is what I ended up writing about the 3 hour car ride to Pittsburgh from where I lived at the time:

First Contact

Five long years
spent in waiting
for the day you'd call
and I'd come running -
closing the miles
we put between ourselves.
Now it's here
and so unexpectedly
I can't stop the
regret of what was
nor the fear
of what may be.
I feel it even now -
hours away as I am.
The preconscious burgeoning
as thick as the walls
of undisturbed atmosphere
broken as I race
octane-driven
toward our predestined focus.
This tightrope of anxiety
as fine as the threads
left between us -
bridging sagital void,
uniting black ice fear
with plasma flame fantasy.
This corpus callosum conundrum
grinds as stone to flesh.
Each second I draw closer,
the millstone reaps its toll.
My only respite -
The coldly luminescent gauges
casting their blank gaze as they
scream out their analog measures
of the torment left ahead.


__Huntress__ 55M/57F

9/14/2005 4:11 am

I had a twenty drought (called "marriage" ...) between the man I walked out on after losing my virginity to him and the same man who helped me discover not only my sexuality but the depths of love as well ... twenty years of vacancy ... and he filled the void with heartbeats ... !

You take the second chance for what it is ... day by day ... savor every moment of it ... and if it doesn't work out ... then cherish the moments that did ...

Great entry Sunrise ... I'm glad I stopped by ... !


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
9/14/2005 7:48 am

thanks so much huntress!!!

WOW halcy...thats just beautiful!!!

oh when i think about what i would do for second chances at the lost loves....i think that there are a few that i would just take...just because being so stubborn and hard....i didnt have a tolerance for lies, deception, pain....i just walked away as if they didnt mean anything...To a certain extent it hurt very much....but it hurt more to be lied to...so i let that pain...dangle...consume me wrap me until i was certain i didnt want that in my life....IT took some falling in love with me...for me to see that i shouldnt be that way...we were not even on the same wavelength...he took my kindness and my extra friendly nature for me wanting to be with him. He was hurt pretty bad and didnt know why i couldnt be a part of his world....

at the time i was just not wanting to be with anyone...because there were things i had to accept about myself. Once my clairity came it was already too late...he had moved on and was in and out of relationships...and wasnt willing for a second chance because he wasnt sure that i would just give my all to him...IM not sure if he was right...or if i really would have...who knows...It shook me up a bit. we are still close and he is now married with a family and i am most happy for him. His wife til this day admires me because she knows how much love he carries for me, but being satisfied with what he has is good enough for him.

live more, laugh often, love much


redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
9/20/2005 9:28 am

There are times when I feel I have not lived long enough or experienced enough to talk intelligently about second chances....or perhaps it is just that I have always been lucky enough to take the first.


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