MsLoveRose 33F  
2019 posts
8/10/2005 11:41 am

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How do you deal with the concept of being misunderstood???!!! some would say they address the issue head on...some just let it die out...some go way and above to prove a point...Both sides should be clear...how can you gain that understanding about what you mis-interpet???

I have seen and observed over the past few day how often i think about something and its not that at all...

Just today i had an encounter where something i wrote made someone respond to me...thanks for writing but it only says what i am trying not to be....

that was a slap in the face for me...i read from that he was ok with what i wrote...but not really ok with it because it only shows that i dont know who he really is...that might sound confusing...

(background info)
i wrote a testimonial for someone i am/was getting close enough to actually have something decent to say. His response was thanks but it shows an image that i am trying to let go of....

to me that was just saying no thanks i dont want you to write that about me...and if this site just worked completely for just one day...i would have deleted it myself...but no such luck....and he wants to keep it there now...because he saw how much it offended me...but thats not what i want... i write what i feel...usually my feelings arent too far from what the person is like...and for him to say that it made me believe that he isnt happy being the person he is....trying to talk to him...didnt really work...pressed for time.... and me fighting tears now it doesnt feel really good to be kicked when you are down...

i dont think i could have taken it any other way.

not really looking to pick him apart...just venting a bit...and i know maybe i will feel better later on

live more, laugh often, love much

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
8/10/2005 12:33 pm

o, sunrisegirl, i think the point is that you described him as you found him and since he is "trying not to be" that -- well then he still is and you were accurate in your description and he has more work to be done ... the point of the testimonial is to describe someone as you perceive them to be -- i know your writing far too well to think it would be anything uncomplimentary. don't get yourself all wound up about it --- you will talk again, and maybe you can spend some time finding out why he doesn't want to be that way and how he would like to be --- i just see this as enriching your relationship, not a disaster. as for the testimonial itself -- if he wants to keep it around as a reminder of what work he still needs to do, let him!

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Barbiebunny69 43F

8/10/2005 7:21 pm

Gentle Sunshine
There there, greatness is often misunderstood
and you are great
great of heart
great of kindess
great of delight
Some people can never see brilliance in their dreary grey world
The hardest part is letting them
But we know what is true
You see with your heart
He say with his eyes
You were right
He is merely fooling himself
Shine on sunshine we need your warmth

redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
8/10/2005 9:22 pm

I think the ladies are right on....be easy on yourself here. If he is a good communicator the two of you will work thru this.

Hope you're doing well otherwise....

MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
8/11/2005 6:34 am

Thank you so much free....you know i guess i was just looking at things another way...and i have yet to have that conversation to make myself clear...at this point i dont even know where to begin....

ms.bunz....(SMIMING) thanks so much and its good to feel welcome!!! geez at least from someone who understands.

red bird...i am doing as good as i can be...never a dull moment as they say...*sigh*....i wonder what happens in dull moments...??!!!!!

live more, laugh often, love much

LoyaltyandHonor 35M/31F
1241 posts
8/11/2005 11:42 am

We are always miss-understood. I think it falls more to people reading our words strictly for what they are and not looking between the lines when it needs to be done.

MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
8/11/2005 12:18 pm

you know loyalty...i just dont get it either...

live more, laugh often, love much

Goldenhairgodess 63F
396 posts
8/15/2005 4:03 am

Hi Sunrise;
I had a similar situation except that the person who rejected my
testomomial never explained why. I just chalked it up to a learn-
ing experience. And to Sour Grapes since I decided not to become
intimmate with him. If I remember correctly, "You can please some
of the people some of the time, most of the people most of the time,
but never all of the people all of the time." Do not know the author.

MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
8/15/2005 9:55 am

thanks golden...its hard to get your point across to people who dont really think about how others feel...i thought that was the case here...he talked to me a bit but we got nowhere...we didnt even mention it...he did say he missed my charm and my smile...even heard my laugh when it was quiet....that made me wonder...just what he is going through....im not sure..*sigh** one day people will see us for who we are...and stop trying so hard to do the opposite of what comes natural!

live more, laugh often, love much

BROC817 44M

8/21/2005 2:31 pm

hello sunrise ,just looking over your blogs...seems to me you have a very big heart and speak very well from your heart...you keep up what your doing and some lucky guy will sweep you off your feet....i guess that will be my "unlucky" day,but you will be happy and thats what counts....love ya

MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
8/21/2005 3:46 pm

oh broc!!!!!!!! thanks so much for visiting....hey...someday...some woman would be so lucky you are even looking her in the eyes...

fun fun fun...as long as the misunderstandings are not there!!!

live more, laugh often, love much

rm_sunny173 69M
7 posts
8/25/2005 6:07 am

Sunrise...some people only hear what they want to hear...I looked at your blogs and I found out that you are a very interesting and intelligent person...when I had the chance to chat with you, I found a very gentle and sincere lady on the other end who worries about offending people...what happened in this case is you didn't say what he wanted to hear...you were being honest with your thoughts and as for one, I wouldn't want you to change in any way just to make someone look good...my suggestion is step back for a minute, take a deep breath and continue writing your words of wit, honesty and wisdom. Those who take the time to really know you, will always understand...

MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
8/25/2005 10:26 am

well thanks so much sunny....time is always inevitable...and its going to go on no matter what....*sigh*

i have breifly spoken to him...he feels remorse...for the misunderstanding...and after reading this...value what we had...but in the process of him not being appreciative...my heart sort of took a turn to accept the parting of the minds...

live more, laugh often, love much

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