Do you really want to know!!!  

MsLoveRose 33F  
2019 posts
9/19/2005 7:35 pm

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Do you really want to know!!!

on a blog adventure i stumbled upon a post from a dear friend...and decided to elaborate here just a little more. after signing into imc it wasnt all of a whole minute before i got a page. "can i see your world?" so i clicked accept and said that depends....just how bright and shinining your world is....

NO reply...

i close the screen and he sends an email...i lost my connection but would love to talk with you...

i send a quick reply i use other messenger services...so minutes later he sends an im...hi so can i get a warm welcome or what??? so i said you know i dont have time for games what are you looking for??

hot sex with hot chicks

...ok i can tell you right now that this conversation will be short. im not looking to get into a physical relationship with just anybody.

baby im from your dreams and you know you want someone to hit it right

(no reply)

baby you there

(no reply)

you bitches make me sick, you come to a sex site and when a man tries to give it to you, you ack like yo shit dont stink i bet yo ass couldnt get no dick of you wanted it.

no reply

get off AdultFriendFinder you dont belong there

block this user

WTF...i didnt even want to just jump down his throat and tell him a little about himself...

so i get another page...this time from a new user who wanted some tips and helpful hints...so i offer some groups some blogs to visit the chat rooms and he asked the dreded question....so i sorta went off and just said i dont know...luckily he wasnt freaked out and said he would visit my blog. but the funny thing is i totally used him to vent. i guess a woman can only take so much!!!

this is my reply on my buddies blog:
To define what it is exactly you want...hmmmm sounds sorta fantasy to me!!! i say that only because im sure actually quite positive that it can prove rather difficult to find all the qualities and all the virtues you want in just ONE person...does this mean take a bite of everything in front of you?? NO...it means that the variety and the differences in everyone should not ever compare to what or fantasy of the "ideal match" should be like....not sure about anyone else...but my thought of an ideal person is pretty perfect...not once do i think about how they think, feel, accept or disagree...thats not part of the thought of what i want. i dont want to think that ever guy that sends me a message might be the one to sweep me off my feet...

then again it could come from the last place i could have ever imagined. Its all about the clarity...the reality! if you sit behind your computer screen and portray an image that doesnt show up in the mirror (a real mirror and the world around you) then why bother even talking in the first place...NO i dont want to know what you want to be like...i want to know what you ARE like. Tell the truth, be honest about your intentions, your desires, yourself!

is it a double edged sword for a guy to be a gentleman and a sexual being?? NO!!! a good gentleman is the best kind of sexual man! Do i look down on others who wants more spontaneous, wild adventures...NOPE!! im happy that they are having a good time. Do i shake my finger at those that only want friends?? NOPE friends are always great to have. Do i turn my nose up at people who want something a little more serious??? that are a little more cautious?? nope!! everyone is here for some reason or another. why does it have to be complicated what our objective is. Guess thats just life..but i want to have a good time in whatever i am doing!!


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rm_cinnamonroad 58M

9/19/2005 8:22 pm

After reading your rant, I think what you want is a little tact. Unfortunately, the raw sex vibe on this site tends to bring out the caveman in those of us who pack the ol' Y chromosome. Y you ask? Well, it's like Robin Williams so brilliantly said, "God gave men a brain and a penis and only enough blood to operate one at a time." I do hope you find that gentleman you seek.


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
9/19/2005 8:55 pm

MY point is that the gentleman resides in every guy...hell or at least most...how can they ever have seuccessful relationships (which means the social status between 2 or more people) if they have such closed minded thoughts....and most claim to be openminded...HA!!!

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rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
9/20/2005 12:35 am

yeah, that happens -- i don't let off on the guys here cos i don't want to entangle my emotions with someone being an asshole, but then later i get upset with the wrong people (people i don't mind entangling my emotions with...)



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redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
9/20/2005 9:06 am

AdultFriendFinder, like the real world, leaves plenty of opportunities to be honest or dishonest....being honest just takes a lot more work and a lot more of a risk.


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
9/22/2005 8:48 am

free thats the thing that i have a hard time with...its like you esriously think that...get REAL!!!!

Redbird...i have to disagree!! being honest TAKES NO EFFORT...it should come natural as if breathing and blinking. I have never had a problem with telling the truth so i guess i havent been forced with that choice. I just know that the truth rather easy or hard is always best... the risk...i find is in the lies...the misconception because they know they have portrayed an image that they cant take back...and come to meet they are this massive distorted image inside and out thats the risk...acceptance. and if it was done right the first time, well there would be no problems. at least with the honesty part!

dearest photo...you know you make me believe that the fight is worth it. like i can choose to be in a good mood or a bad one!!! its simple you can choose whether the truth isnt good enough and tell a well dressed lie...thinking you can weigh it out...NO EXCUSE...and i can remain calm...i just couldnt see what the big deal was and i guess i might never understand *sigh* its all about time...thats all we have anyway!

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sleeplessknight1 68M

9/22/2005 11:08 am

I thought yu were quite restrained...
From what I have seen, sometimes its very difficult to find the "gentleman" in some people...
Being honest must surely be the only option... your lies will find you out....
Ok time for honesty....
I am really 21 - I look older, thru all that worrying about my wealth.
I am a black belt at Karati - but resting at the moment.
I have my own jet - its in the repair shop at the moment.

There you go.... you believe me... Don't you?????


BROC817 44M

9/22/2005 1:27 pm

hello sunrise !!!

thanks for being my friend.......love ya .......kisses


redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
9/22/2005 1:43 pm

Here is a case where I came back the next day and I can't figure out why I wrote what I did. I can understand why you disagree.


rm_marc44054 63M
936 posts
9/22/2005 2:44 pm

Sunrise, love you sweety. Sometimes the truth is so boring that people conjure a fantasy about themself. Afraid of rejection, a guy will say anything he thinks might impress someone. It takes a lot of work, constantly, to project oneself as something they are not.

It is so much easier to be honest. But we all have our faults and readily admitting them is not easy.


redswallow777 48M
6810 posts
9/23/2005 11:08 am

After leaving the above comment I sat down and tried to pull together my thoughts about lying and telling the truth. Here is what came up for me......

What I was trying to say is this. Telling the truth can be difficult because you take the risk of making people angry with you. It takes more guts and determination to be out there and honest with people than lying. Lying is easier because you just need to say what makes them happy.

I personally find lying to be difficult because my conscience won't let me alone until I make things right. So for me it is much easier to just tell the truth as I know it.

This Sunrise, was the distinction I was trying to express. If one does not have a strong conscience one can easily lie.......and for them perhaps it is easier than telling the truth. On the other hand if one has a strong conscience lying is very difficult. It is all a matter of who you are and how important the truth is to you.


barraabas 34M
6 posts
9/24/2005 6:04 am

AdultFriendFinder REPON SVP


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
9/24/2005 5:07 pm

sleepless i do know that he exist...if he can have manners at work or in front of his family...why not with a lady...its just interesting to me!!!

broc....AWWWWEEEE thanks babe!!

red...its ok!!!

marc...thanks so much for the visit....i always smile when i read what you write

live more, laugh often, love much


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
9/24/2005 5:23 pm

dearest redbird.....now the dialogue part....i completely understanding what you are saying. i will say this much. I speak in the truth. i make a habit of it. as sweet and just as the truth can be. sometimes it can be hard. seem a little too true, and even hard to believe sometimes. but the purity of it always stands soooo much taller than a well dressed lie...whether it was easy or not. i rather have a 100 people be straight forward and honest than to have 1 person smile in my face and lie. and if someone cares about what the person feels, they wouldnt lie in the first place. because they know that it just dont fit to mislead or even change the truth one bit. ask them if the shoe was on the other foot....they wouldnt like anyone to be dishonest to them...no one likes dishonesty!

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Priapeo 46M

9/28/2005 4:29 am

Quote: is it a double edged sword for a guy to be a gentleman and a sexual being??

I really hope not, but I must say that this fundamental dicotomy is something difficult to reconcile in the mind of a teenager. It's a kind of controlled lycanthropy ... I mean that sex is in every form a compromise with our animal side, you must give it voice to fully enjoy sex, yet it is your "gentleman" knowledge of the game limits to always keep control. I believe the two things can co-exist, but from time to time it is just normal finding someone whose mind was not able to do that.

Never argue with an idiot. He brings you down to his level then beats you with experience


MsLoveRose 33F  
2432 posts
9/28/2005 10:43 am

yes a litttle too normal!!!! i know it exist...i have seen it...i have experienced it...there is no harm hell i dont even know what is sexier than a gentleman thats a sexual vixen!!! having the best of both worlds isnt bad and im not saying that all guys are like that...and it SHOULD be normal for a guy to be a gentleman...show some respect, some self worth, show some value to yourself sure if we are not chasing after sex we are certainly thinking or writing about it. My only issue is when i do decline such a sexual encounter or meeting...when he has not even asked me my name...they get pissed...start the name calling, being disrespectful as if seconds before they didnt want some action. WTF???? thats something that i might not ever understand

thanks priapeo for your explanation!!!

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