summerbeginshere 36F
465 posts
4/17/2006 12:27 am

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4/20/2006 11:43 pm


Been home a few days.
Of couse it's been raining.
I'm used to not taking the weather into consideration as much as I have had to do since I'v moved up here.
I am out of sorts , I have been chatting with a couple on this website locally. and set up a meeting.
We met and chatted , all seemed well. then on I.M. I got a invite to visit them at thier home.
I showed up and found out the wife wasn't home but the husband sugested I join him in the hot tub.
Ok let me say we didnt have sex , but we were naked in the tub and some touching did go down.
So after a while I said I wanted to leave but he was like doing the guilt thing and tried real hard to get to the next level.
He said it wasnt right for me to leave him with a boner. etc etc
I just had a wierd feeling and said thanks for the drinks and the soak and left.
All in all it seemed like I had'nt been to smart about this.
Then I get a e-mail from him saying that I wasn't to say antything about what happend to his wife.
Now this isn't what I want, besides my thought was that honesty between husband and wife would'nt a issue in the life style. Thats why I listed that I wanted couples.
Now this dude is e-mailing and I.M. ing me all the time , god waht a nightmare.
I'm begining to think I may need a freind to back me up for safty sake. you know like we could look out for each other.
It wasn't a smart thing for me to go to his house by myself.
Looks like I have some learning to do.


49AK 55M
1823 posts
4/17/2006 8:27 am

It is a shame that people have to resort to lying. It bothers me no end when that happens to others, because so many times I've had people be unnecessarily wary of me, even hough everything with me is totally in the open... because they had been lied to by others. If you have nothing to hide, then leave things in the open.

As for him emailing you and IMing you all the time, I think you have the upper hand there, assuming you want him to stop... make it clear that he was inappropriate to invite you over alone,, and if he doesn't stop, you'll let her know.

I don't think that it was necessarily a mistake to go there, but it might have been a mistake to stay, once you discovered she wasn't there. Of course, there are other reasons to be concerned about going to someone's home.

summerbeginshere 36F
56 posts
4/17/2006 7:51 pm

49 thank you ...
I needed that.

6foot3lover4u 43M

4/19/2006 11:25 am

First of all, I'm not a stalker or a pest or a liar. I too just moved here from Arizona and work in aviation. Would love to talk with you sometime. I'm just looking for new friends. I hope you have better luck in the future regarding some of the members.

Stilllookin4ugrl 55M  
81 posts
4/20/2006 1:32 pm

Hi, I think that dude is a total moron for misleading you and then to keep on pestering you after you told him that you were not comfortable with the situation. You were right to leave.

Sincerely, David

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