Bad Attitiudes  

studdmuffins 51M
15 posts
5/26/2006 10:16 pm

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7/2/2006 6:58 pm

Bad Attitiudes

Sorry, but I just had to make a comment about this. What is it with so many people and their bad attitudes on this site? I have seen so many people rant and rave, especially some woman who get inundated by men when they are looking for woman! I understand it must be frustrating to get so many emails from men trying to tell you how they can change your minds when you know they cannot. Real simple idea, turn on your email filter, that's what I do. I used to get emails sometimes from gay men on this site even though I am straight, so what did I do, turned on the filter. Below is an excerpt from a real profile on A.F.F. and a really good example of a really bad attitude, if you happen to run across this person's profile you will see exactly what I mean. Now the woman has never done anything to me personally, but if you want to see the ultimate example of what I am talking about read her profile. It is nice when a woman knows what she wants and tells you, but she is absolutely ridiculous. This is what she wrote in her intro, it is kind of long winded but it gives you the perfect idea of what I am talking about.

“DIPSHITS : (If you get offended easily, don't have anything nice to say, can't read all the way through this ad to see any kindness or humor here, believe that I'm high maintenance & definitely, if you "think" that this first part applies to you, then it probably does! Nice gents, read on down). I don't own a web cam, don't want to see you masturbate on yours & I'm not interested in becoming another pin-up girl on your Network, and so don't ask! (Just cut & past my photo, print it out, tape it to your wall & use it as a dartboard, if you have issues or think that I do). I won't read your 20 page erotica emails (I have my own fantasies, thank you) & if you think that we are a PERFECT match, when we've never met, then you need to GET A LIFE, TAKE A COMPREHENSIVE READING CLASS OR SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP! If you're a negative person who doesn't believe that you can actually find just what you're looking for, all in ONE person, then that's your opinion, not mine. I'm not looking for city slickers who may be visiting Austin & I don't date men my Father's age, no matter how many toys you have. If you're not close to MY age, then you won't receive a reply, no matter how cute you think you are. If you can't say something nice to someone you've never talked to, then contact "haveonlydatedsheep"; his address is written below & ends at the why. Comprehend English?

Please attach current facial photos, IF you want a reply. These photos MUST be different than the ones you have on this site, or I can't enlarge them to see if I'd be interested in you. If you can't honor this request, then I won't read your email & I won't reply back, therefore you've wasted your time.

NO SMOKERS, NO OCCASIONAL SMOKERS, ATHIEST, MARRIED OR ATTACHED MEN, COUPLES, COUCH POTATOES, TV SPORTS FANS, LONG DISTANCE BICYCLE RIDERS OR RUNNERS & NO PREVIOUS BAGGAGE HANDLERS. If you haven't resolved your issues with your so called ex, then please seek professional counseling. (I'm tired of playing psychologist to indecisive boys)!”

If you notice she even goes so far as to talk trash about another member who she then names right on her profile. I do not think A.F.F. should have even approved that. If you look at her pictures she seem to be a very good looking woman, but to be honest I am almost scared to be living in Austin now fearing that I might walk into a public place and there she is going postal!. I guess it takes all kinds to make the world go around. There is some pretty weird stuff out there. I guess my point being, good attitudes can make up for a lot and band ones can make the most beautiful woman look like the wicked witch of the west. Have a great day and see you soon in cyberspace!

Lady_in_TX 63F

7/1/2006 4:13 pm

Hi there...

I am a woman, and I do not think that woman bas a "bad attitude", the way I see it she had too many "bad experiences" with people who just didn't give a damn what she said or asked for in her profile, totally ignoring what she's looking for... and finally she had enough and told people "up front" what to expect or rather what not to expect.

It might be a different feeling for men who get the occasional "wrong" message, but there are many more men than women at AdultFriendFinder and my guess is that women on this site get many more messages than men do (I receive approx 10-20 a day, more on weekends). And believe me, after getting message after message from men who totally disregard what I thought I made very clear in my profile, I was more than once temped to change my profile and say exactly what she said!

Bad attitude? I don't think so.
Just try to "walk in her shoes", and you might understand.


studdmuffins replies on 7/2/2006 6:57 pm:
I have seen A LOT of wierd stuff on this site, but there is absolutely no excuse for this type of diatribe. Starting your profile of with "Dipshits" immediately tells some one that you have some very heavy emotional problems directed towards the opposite sex! I understand more then you are giving me credit for and I am sorry that you and I disagree, but if I were a betting man I would bet that 99 out of a 100 people that you show this profile to, be it a man or a woman, would agree with me that this person has a horrible attitude.

Lady_in_TX 63F

7/1/2006 4:18 pm

PS:.... forgot... and I can't "edit", so I gotta write a new post...

Turning on an email filter sounds like a good idea and I even tried that, but it doesn't help to filter the content of the message.

veryselective00 57F

6/30/2007 11:49 am

Sorry I don't agree with you either. She has every right to put what she wants on her profile..she doesn't tell you what to put on yours..From experience I can say I know exactly what she is talking about. I have received REPEATED emails from people I very nicely told no thanks to. ANd then I blocked. I am sure she is not unkind to people who actually have what she is looking for. I am sure her attitude is fine,she just may not be very tolerant.and that is not a sin.

Fran4U2008 56F

8/2/2009 8:37 am

I, personally, was not offended with what she said in her profile. She has obviously had some "issues" with many of the men not paying any attention whatsoever, as to what she has expressed that she is looking for in her profile. She is entitled to express her view. That happens to me all the time. Sometimes I write something polite back, but most times I just block them. If someone won't take the time to read my, very brief, profile, I just delete their message because they are not worth replying to. I figure they will pay just about as much attention to my profile as they do to me. And, if that's the best they have, then it just isn't good enough to get my attention. You only get one opportunity to make a first impression with a woman on here and I wish more men would keep that adage in mind.

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