At a loss...  

strngnsilenttype 40M
7 posts
6/1/2006 2:13 am

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12/2/2006 9:09 pm

At a loss...

To quote song lyrics, "What's a guy gotta do to get a girl in this town?" It's pretty sad when I can hook up with women out in public easier than I can meet them on a "Sex & Swinger Personals" site. Do I just come off as a creep when I type, or what? I do tend to be pretty straight forward about what I'm looking for, but this is supposed to be the place to find like minded individuals. Instead, the only responses I get are from people who want me to sign up on pay to view sites. All I want is a woman or two who just want to be friends with benefits. I'm currently in a relationship with a wonderful woman who is very open minded and accepting of all this. In fact, she has been known to join in on a few occasions and has gotten off watching me with other women. I have been on this site for nine months, and haven't made one connection or gotten more than two emails from someone. During that time I have had several encounters on the outside including threesomes, foursomes, and even fivesomes. What am I doing in person that I can't seem to get right on here?

meerkittykat 42F

6/1/2006 2:55 am

numbers are against you here. for every woman on the site, there are five men, and women can afford to be picky. You might want to rewrite your profile therewith. You want a woman to enjoy the hunt and entice you....for success on this site, the tables actually need to be turned, simply because of the numbers; men have the be the ones to do the enticing to get attention.

my question, as well; you've had "several encounters on the outside" and stated success finding are you here? sounds a bit suspect, which other women likely view as another red flag.

good luck

strngnsilenttype replies on 6/1/2006 3:01 pm:
You bring up a valid question. Why am I here? The answer is simply I'm tired of playing games. Tired of women who don't know what they want. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for teasing and acting coy. But I don't want to waste time pursuing a woman who in the end decides she doesn't want to be pursued. I came here under the impression that the people here know what they want, and say so. Everyone puts in their profile what they're searching for. Whether it's a long term relationship or a one night stand. It eliminates the unnecessary guessing game. If people aren't looking for the same things, then they know it right away. I like to be up front about what I want, and want to find women who are as well. I do appreciate your input however, and wish to thank you for your reply. It does give me something to think about.

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