Life or just Me?  

stoolman 55M
12 posts
12/23/2005 9:54 pm

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11/17/2007 10:13 am

Life or just Me?

I'm 44 and my wife is 41. We were nymphs for 15 years. Now, I'm horny 24/7 and she is "receptive" once every 2 weeks. What's up with that? Any thoughts?

rm_charlisea 35F
4 posts
9/10/2006 8:41 am

i think your wife is just going through a stage probably she is going through menopause and when some woman go through it their sex drive decreases but then it returns so talk to her and see if you could help go through this period in her life with a little ease and she not going through menopause ask her what she wants and you might be surprised she might just give you an answer. ps.dont forget to add some romance, flowers etc .

stoolman replies on 1/10/2007 11:19 am:
I get her flowers and cards on a regular basis. No special occasions or anything like that. I get them just because.

1deltafox 51M/47F

6/14/2007 3:10 pm

I think Charlisea has it for the most part. More than flowers or cards and foo foo stuff, try just reading her body language, if she's tired, take her to dinner or fix dinner for her...instead of her fixing it. Try watching how she sits or she holding herself? Does she move stiffly? Try a massage in which you expect nothing from her. The biggest thing, make sure she knows you want her around whether you are going to get some or not, she may be feeling pressure to perform so that you'll still want her. Sometimes we think, there's no possible way they'd think it, but when something in our body changes, we are no longer confident when the result is a change in how the relationship runs. Offer to go to the doctor with her, a change in drive can mean more than just menopause, and it is a good idea to rule out anything else, and check on any treatments that might ease symptoms she may be experiencing due to the menopause or other problem. Hope this helps, despite it's lateness.

stoolman replies on 7/10/2007 11:42 am:
These are good ideas, delta, thanks. We both work construction. She's a painter and I'm a contractor that works alone so we are both very tired at the end of the day. We do the mutual massage thing about once a year. Maybe if we did it a little more often? I'm beginning to wonder if financial stress is a major factor. She worries about it all the time and I don't. I think I'm on to something, thanks Delta.

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