a question for men  

stillwhomee31 41F
50 posts
6/1/2005 4:18 am

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a question for men

Ok so heres my question....you meet a girl you talk on line for a while, you meet have a great time fuk like porn stars ect...so who calls who and when....
2> whats the biggest turn off why you dont see her again.
3.what turned you on the most.
4.what do think when women are tryen to be nice after you meet.
5. what makes you want to see her again..... afterwords..o god she wants a relationship or o god lol she wants something else lolol......

my friends and i have this long time argument about all of this so i need outside input.....so men please help

smileguyqc 53M

6/1/2005 6:19 am

1) doesn't matter but its usaully me the next day
2) no contact, dropped like a hot rock
3) her in complete control
4) that depends on the kind of nice, if its the sweet I don't want to hurt your feelings nice, I hate it
5) if we both had a good time, I'll want to see her again

NightOfPassion2 58M

6/1/2005 8:47 am

1. Depends on how contact was initialy made. And timezone differences. Usually me...but depends on if they are online...though usually a note is left.

2. Biggest....when I'm chatting and not getting anything in response...or very little...it should be mutual. Or the have to leave in the middle and no explaination or apology (things happen...but a sorry goes a long way)

3. Lets see...when the desire is mutual....I love it when I get reply's to the "Hi, how was your day" notes I send. Or when when she says..."I would like to see you again"...and really does mean it

4. agree with smileguyqc on this one

5. How the conversation flowed. And if there was enjoyment beyond just the sex talk....that seems to make it lasting...at least for me.

rm_Here2play812 47M
179 posts
6/1/2005 9:27 am

The one to get horny again first calls first... LOL
2. She acts as if she doesn't give a fuk if you get together again.
3. When she made the first move.
4. If she has to try she may not be truly interested.
5. Want to see her again if we clicked, could have fun together no matter where we are, a gas station or getting kinky while hiking in the woods. Or just great sex, everyone should have a fuck buddy! LOL

yourmove44 45M

6/1/2005 11:05 am

1. Discuss that before you leave
2. Body odor
3. A genuine smile or laugh
4. Telling you to get lost
5. If you had great conversation before and she smells good.

Jacuzziwithaview 49M/49F
1 post
6/1/2005 4:32 pm

1.personally ,a dozen long stem roses would be more approiate than a phone call.Leaving the door open for the other party to make the next move,not to be too presometious(I can't spell eather)and yet expressing how much you enjoyed time spent.
2.my biggest turn-off would have to be:negitivity.continueously talking about a present/last partner.
3.turn ons:confidence,go getter,sexually secure.To love/respect ;letting them know how important they are to you.
4.most women don't get nicer,but to answer your question,eather the guy is suddenly rich,or well hung(joke),posibily the women may sound insecure (or manic{another joke}).
5.enjoying there company,fun,intelligent, a challange,goal oriented,someone that makes you a better person.Basiclly, a true friend.of course, being totallly hot doesn't hurt eather.

p.s.We enjoyed your profile,we are headed to southern Colorado early next month camping for a few days,hopefully we can chat before than,who knows,until than stay bueatiful girl,it seams you have alot going for you. jim and tiff, san diego,ca

HughJarse2000 47M

6/2/2005 8:11 am

Hey babe - i think you will end up with more questions than answers

1. I'd call for more if it were great sex only.

2. I love it when it stays naughty and sexy. Sometimes when the dawn arrives all of a sudden there's a change of heart for the girls. OMG he thinks I'm cheap. I feel used etc etc . That crap just sends me flying with no hope of return. If you enjoyed it last night then feel good, and enjoy it in the light of day!

3. Anything surprising or unexpected.

4. She liked it . She wants more.

5. My dirty little mind hasn't finished with her yet - we didn't even get around to sex in the shower !

cpl4playnow3 57M/59F
4 posts
6/2/2005 11:44 am

1) I think you decide when you'll meet before you part the first time... or if it doesn't seem appropriate then, the next day at the latest. Any later and one of you is going to take it as the other didn't have a good time. Who? I say call when you want to, hopefully it will be met with a "Hey, I was just about to call you!"
2) Lack of interest in making a connection of some sort beyond just sex as well as the 'hurry up and get this over so you can leave attitude.'
3) Her being very open and expressive about her wants, needs, desires... not shy but felt free to take control at the right time.
4) Ditto the above... question her motives. Hopefully it will be genuine and the nice can be returned.
5) I'd want to see her again if we both made that emotional connection. Wants a relationship? You hope so don't you? LOL She wants something else? Woo Hoo... lots of possibilities on that one! He He Everything clicks and you're both off on a wonderful experience you hope doesn't end.

willwork4it 41M
1 post
7/3/2005 7:24 pm

1. hopefully me, from the ktchen, telling her breakfast is ready! but if not, whoever dropped off the other person at their house.
2.being negative, having a bad attitude, and of course, body odor
3.probably the sexuality/ sensuality of the other person. her being the woman that she is. great smile, nice laugh, the way she looks at you if she digs you, her scent
4. hopefully she's honest, so i'd say she likes what she sees and hopes everything goes preety much how she imagined
5.if when you part you and her smile (in a good way)and if both had a good time together. you both don't neccesarily have to like all of the same things. that way it puts spice into the mix.

rm_ginabottom 66M/60F
1 post
7/4/2005 2:32 am

still.....all is revealed in the passage of time. ginabottom

Vivaitalian03 45M
1 post
7/12/2005 9:48 pm

flip mode is the squad that controls your set, whoo haaa, got you all in check, we on some outerspace shit like we watch Star Trek, whoo haaa, got you all in check

HotBob44 49M
5 posts
7/28/2005 9:23 am

1. - I think either party can call, if the night went well. I usually send flowers or call to thank her and ask for a lunch date to talk further.
2. - Women who act clinging do not do well. Acting needy usually turns people off - man or woman. People like people are sure of themselves. It gives the other aprty a sense security.
3. - Once the sex talk is over, the interests and what the person does to have fun really begins the real relationship. Even horndog guys like a woman they can relate too. Being totally open about the sex is great, knowing what you like and liking me because I satisfy you is a big turn on, too.
4. - Being too sweet can be a turn off. Men like a tough woman, I do. Since women are equal now, they need to be in charge of their lives and sex. We all need to treat each other with respect and pay attention to the needs of each other to move the relationship further.

I guess I am sounding a little old here, but that's how I am. I'm true to my feelings and I ask the same of my friends.

rm_Jafo526 44M

8/6/2005 12:27 am

1)Within a couple of days...for me it depends when I'm on call
2)biggest turn off....either the steller drive of a slug or being a real downer of a person.
3)passion, positive energy
4)the person is nice. don't really consider alterior motive unless on the first date she was a real wench.
5)she was nice and we had fun.

findher692005 48M
7 posts
8/11/2005 2:28 pm

Hi General! Hear are my answers to those questions you posed. Biggest turn off:To possesive,or you get the feeling that you are another guy for her trophy case.Turned me on the most: She paid more attention to me than my dick. She touched me, held me, kissed me and made me feel during the act she was loving the experience. What do I think if a girl is friendly and smiles a lot when i first meet her? I think she is trying to put her best foot forward and I respect that.How do I know if I want to do this again? If she says You are a great guy and I enjoyed your company. I would like to do this again real soon with you . Here's my phone number.

wyldlyfe01 43M/35F

11/16/2005 9:23 pm

1)we'd say depends on how you felt after the date or playtime..if you both had lots of fun talking and just hanging out befoire you ummm hung out LOL then wait a day or 2 then just call don't matter who does it.even if it's to just hang or go goof off like great friends.
2)if she was rude and stuck on herself. acted like you was just a plaything and added a notch to her belt,then dismissed ya like you was dead LOL.
3)awsome personality and how she made me feel in or out of playing.
4) if they ask alot of personal and what do you own ?'s i think money is what they are after. if they just joke,laugh,and have a great time with ya i think hey she's awsome as hell ..want to go out again?
5)respect,honesty,trust&flexable( as to going places too) ..perv LOL and if we all had a great time doing whatever!!
This is how we approach everyone..upfront and honest,and have a good time with friends non sexual too LOL.great ?'s whomee..see ya someday to B S with ya dear. Wyld and 22bi22

EcoidChantArgot 48M
2 posts
11/19/2005 11:14 pm

>>Ok so heres my question....you meet a girl you talk on line for a while, you meet have a great time fuk like porn stars ect...so who calls who and when...<<

In two years I have had six realations with women from an *online service*; if it was my main source of happiness then I would be very unhappy. Short answer.... they call me.. if not,, then oh well. Ever heard, "Knocking at Your Back Door", by DP?.. Lyrics...http://AdultFriendFinder.com

Just copy&paste the URL if not live.. "It's not the kill It's the thrill of the chase", is what it's all about.. To a degree that is. After you have f'd like a pornstar, and the chase is done then it's up to the gender that doesn't have a penis to make the call.. That is -- if they want more.. That is just my humble opinion. There is a bunch of exceptions, but oh well.

>>2> whats the biggest turn off why you dont see her again. <<

I'll go out on a limb, even if the question isn't phrased right. If the female gender in question is not an independant individual then that is a turn-off. If they can't bring their own self supportive/self reliant attitude(life),, to the table,,, then leave.. Gold diggers that don't have a life, and rely on you to create on for them aren't good.

>>3.what turned you on the most.<<

It is all about words, and the above answers should answer the question at hand.

>>4.what do think when women are tryen to be nice after you meet.<<

Is that assuming that I figure out they are, "tryen"?? LOL... I don't like fakes, and if you are "tryen" then that is fake. Eat, drink your coffee, beer, crown and coke, etc, and run like hell. In my humble opinion it's just not worth it in the end.. on both ends for that matter.

Here's a piece of advice to anybody reading... Don't date any woman that has 2 kids without custody. There is a reason they don't have custody! You don't want to know why!

>>5. what makes you want to see her again..... afterwords..o god she wants a relationship or o god lol she wants something else lolol......<<

I pretty much answered all of that... However, it depends on what kind of, "relationship".. There are just sexual ones!

I have had my share of relationships, and in retrospect they weren't all that bad. At the time things sucked ass, but it was just part of life. All of my friends are married with kids, and some of them got married because they were in love with the word, 'married', and not who they married. I've almost been trapped into that notion a couple of times, and ran like hell when I woke up.

My point is: relationships are good, marriage is good, having childeren is good.. Just make the right decisions, and that is hard to do sometimes. I am not trying to preach to anybody,,, just my opinon.

>>my friends and i have this long time argument about all of this so i need outside input.....so men please help

I don't think you can ever close the argument. There are so many views, and opinons along with real life experiences.. It's like an asshole... everyone has one!!

LOL.. I am posting to a question that is archaic.. Oh well..

ready4u23872 48M

1/10/2006 10:52 am

1.depends on what WE AGREE to do 2.biggest turn-off for ME is ODOR 3.what turns ME on is a nice ASS!4.If she has to TRY I say DAMN THAT!! JUST BE REAL at ALL times!!5.Is there chemistry? do we enjoy each others company??

rm_deuce1963222 53M
77 posts
1/25/2006 12:06 am

1.I would be the one to call first and it would be the next day,alot would depend on the type of person she really was.
2.A terrible personality.
3.Her natural sexyness.
4.I am hoping they enjoyed our time together and are being sincere.
5.Our chemistry together.I need that there,if she is a super lady,a relationship would be fine.

rm_3bigman33 53
9 posts
2/8/2006 10:23 pm

Who calls who, I don't know if that matters, I believe either could call the other, but society says......

There must be a reason things did not work out....

What turns me on about this interaction.....it's all about the chemistry that the two people have between them, the inside jokes they share, the slight glances they give each other. Basically what turns me on about this, is the reason I wanted to share this experience with this person in the first place.

They are a nice person and she .......need more information
(nice can mean a few things and not mean a few things.

Its the chemistry baby the chemistry.

rm_poet4u2do 48M

6/13/2006 10:27 pm

1. I call her. if i like her enough to have gone that far then probably while driving home. i don't play those wait for a call games. (if i want a game i'll find a poker table)

2. dishonesty is the biggest turn off

3. confidence and intelligence are the most erotic qualities a woman can exhibit

4. nice is cool if that is who she is and is sincere. it's better to be honest up front, we can't all like everyone. be nice/polite but be honest up front if you aren't interested.

5. i want to see her again for the same reasons i wanted to meet her the first time. either i want to get to know her better or by mutual agreement it is a physical thing and we all have needs right?

rm_RealDick4You 45M
1 post
7/19/2011 3:48 pm

well im from mannheim and i see this all the time. he or she gets into the other and then wants more. hit me up so we can play......

affguy75 41M
29 posts
10/10/2011 5:09 am

1. the woman calls and says that was fun, lets do it again with my girlfriend next time and by that I mean tomrrow.

2. the turn off was when you didnt lie and say I was the best ever.

3. um, when you said I was the best ever. oh, something like..wow I have never came that hard before, how big are you. (its ok to lie)

4. please be nice, I will think I did something wrong. Did she not like that I licked her pussy for 20 min and came on my face twice?

5. oh no, not a relationship...how about, can we just be FWBs

falcor1975_yaho 37M

10/24/2011 6:03 pm

1. I would deffenatly call if we had fun
2. she was no fun to be with
3. how playful she was before and after
4. sweet is nice
5. how well we connect would make me want to see her again

I am in ramstien so if intersted look at my profile name and hit me up

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