Where/how do we learn to have sex?  

stiletto_luvr4u 50M
21 posts
1/1/2006 3:45 pm

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Where/how do we learn to have sex?

I maintain that the main way we learn how to have sex is pornography.

Think about it: did your (egad) mother or father teach you the finer points on thrusting pelvically? Sure your friends may have mentioned the act of cunnilingus but honestly, how did you know know that your target was the clitoris?

We learn best with visual aids. Sure practice makes perfect but someone has to show what it looks like. Thank goodness for pornography!

imBambi 58M/50F

1/1/2006 6:21 pm

I'd venture to say that for many, love making just comes natural. Many of the things that I have done came via instinct - the porn came later.


stiletto_luvr4u 50M
14 posts
1/1/2006 7:07 pm

Excellent point mizzkita. Perhaps I should have been more clear: I maintain that the majority of MEN learn sexual techniques through pornography. It makes perfect sense however that women are more likely to learn lovemaking techniques by taking a partner's lead.

Again, where else could we possibly learn? Instinct? I think not. The 'birds and the bees' talk I had with my folks was purely 'biological'.

stacksandkaarval 37M/36F

1/1/2006 7:08 pm

we learn from masturbation and add to it by bringing in others that is how we learn at least that is what i think. i just had sex cause i knew what it was from everyone talking about it

Valdrane78 38M

1/1/2006 7:58 pm

Yeah, I didn't learn threw porn, I learned threw experience and a willingness to do research in books. Oh yeah, when I found out I was horribel at sex, lol, I went directly to the library and looked threw all the books about sexuality and human antomy, seriously. Even checked some out. I didn't actually watch my first porno till I was like 23, but I did all that book stuff at like 17.

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stiletto_luvr4u 50M
14 posts
1/1/2006 8:49 pm

Thanks Bambi. I think we are both (admittedly for me) generalizing however. Although many women enjoy taking the lead, it is more common for women to allow men to take the lead during lovemaking. This inevitably places the initiator into the role of 'teacher'. This confirms my parable: that (straight) women commonly learn from their partners, and since it is uncommon for women to be the teachers, men learn about lovemaking through demonstration: pornography.

Interestingly, Eddie Murphy did a bit on this very subject where he credits Ron Jeremy teaching him all that he knows. Absurd? Absolutely. Nevertheless, pornography gives us ideas to experiment with with our partners and one can only learn from experimentation.

fantasia_shares 47M/43F
4164 posts
1/1/2006 9:43 pm

Didn't watch much porn at all until many years after I first had sex...nope, didn't learn from porn. In fact, in the last year, I've learned more than I ever did, and it wan't from porn. It was from other people we played with. Go figure... Everything else in life we practice on other people and learn with other people, but it's taboo to practice sex on many different people so we can become the best sex partners ever?

Anyway, thankfully there are enough people out there with other ideas on this subject than the sorta status quo

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