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Why Aren't You Happy?
Why Aren't You Happy?
That's the question everyone is asking. Great job, great family, great house. What's not to be happy about?
Oh, right. My wife hasn't really been interested in sex for over a decade, and I'm sure you can imagine that we've grown apart over it. Not to mention the other ways we have changed over the years. Suffice to say, we now have two things in common: our two kids. Everything else has gradually blown away, like sand off a table.
So we're separated. She can't understand why, and nothing I say in expanation makes any sense to her. How can a person who has little sexual - or any other kind of passion - understand my need for a passionate relationship? And not just passionately sexual. Passionate in other ways as well: for adventure, learning, understanding, fun.
So, because my heart simply burns to start over and find someone, or more than one someone, who wants to join me on a new adventure where all the passisons of life can be explored and enjoyed, I choose to move on.
No, in case you're wondering, I'm not running away from my kids. I love them to death and they know it. I will continue to be a huge part of their life, and they mine. But it's time to begin a new chapter in my life, one where I find a kindred spirt, a woman of intelligence, curiosity, confidence, creativity, and wit; and who is intensly passionate about life and sex. A woman who understands that the best sex starts in the mind and ends in embrace, and that foreplay can begin long before you meet for dinner or come home at night.
The process of choosing to start over has been the most gut-wrenching decision of my life. It has also been the strangest, because every step of the way I've only grown more confident that this is what I have to do.
So, here I go. . .
7/17/2005 10:43 pm
I did the same thing 4 years ago after a 20 year marriage, the last few of which were nearly lifeless. She was not a bad woman, and we rarely fought. But we rarely communicated beyond what was best for the kids in this situation or that. There was little passion in any way shape or form, again, not just in sex, but in all areas of the relationship. And I realized I was slowly dying and being married to her was slowly killing the two of us. So, I left. And now, several millions of dollars after our settlement and a few million poured into her Swiss Acount, I am glad to report tht it was worth it. When your goals and the means to get are no longer one, it's time to become at least single.|