spunky11961 55M
37213 posts
8/25/2006 4:46 pm

First of all,I have to say this is very difficult for me to write.I made a mistake and I feel like I leta lot of my friends down.

I have realized a very important thing today about myself.I take things for granted,like the fact that people are good human beings.The blogs have been a special place for me.I have made many friends here,some maybe I shouldn't have.

I am empathic,and when I See people having problems,I'm the first one to throw them a rope.Unfortunately,this rope I threw today,was one that could possibly hang myself.

I wrote a post today,taking things at face value,before I knew all the facts.because of my actions,many may see me in a different light.
I've pulled that post and hidden it,I won't delete it,I want those comments there to remind me of just what I've done.

I am truly sorry about this,and I'm sorry for those I might've hurt in the process.

A few special notes here to some special people:

Saintlianna, I DID NOT BAN YOU! I merely hid the post.Your comments as well as all the others,
sunk in,and helped me realize my mistake!

CuteN,I'm sorry you feel this way,I never wanted to lose you as a friend,I hope in time You'll forgive me

And to Meerkittykat and all the others,I'm sorry, but thanx for opening my eyes.

And Special thanx to Loveme,You know why~

~Jeff aka spunky


meerkittykat 42F

8/27/2006 3:32 pm


First off I just want to say my comment was in no way directed toward you. I know you've visited my blog and were an impeccable gentleman, and I was just stopping by to say hi cos you visited mine.

When I saw that post I just wanted to let you know another perspective. The wonderful thing about the blogs is that we are all capable of deciding who we want to read and associate ourselves with, and no adult is ever going to bemoan anyone's right to associate. EVER

In addition, you should feel free to write whatever you wish about whatever you wish. This is YOUR SPOT!!!! I have written things that people disagreed with, and all but one have done so with the utmost respect. We are allowed to disagree as long as we are all respectful of each other's opinions.

I hope you do not feel the need to apologize to me, because I in no way feel wronged by what you said. I would do the same for a friend. My only concern was that you know that the background that you read was true, and that real people have been pained by the past. I can only hope for your sake and the sake of others that a Leopard can change it's spots. I am cynical, but that's another story.

You are a good man. I've never once thought otherwise.


spunky11961 replies on 8/27/2006 6:10 pm:
Meer,Thank You,and of course welcome here! But what I wanted to apologize to you, besides my lack of good judgement,is the post is hidden and everyone's comments are there intact.You and Saint thought that I'd banned or deleted, but I hadn't,it was just hidden.I've left those comments as none of them were in the least unkind! those comments opened my eyes,and I'll always keep them there to remind me that I'm out of my element when I get involved in drama.I've never deleted anyone's comments and never will,unlike Others, I value everyone's opinion! Thanx~ You've been more than kind~

florallei 99F

8/26/2006 11:12 pm

Hi Spunky,

You have a good heart and sometimes we get caught in between both parties who are also our friends. I don't know of the situation and I don't want to. I hope the parties can move onward and let this blow away and I am not invalidating their views I am only hoping for peace if it can be achieved and hopefully forgiveness in due time.

spunky11961 replies on 8/27/2006 6:02 pm:
Hi Flo,No You really don't want to know! But it is blowing over some and Thank you for your kind words for me here! You are a friend!

MoutnainGirl 37F

8/26/2006 9:47 pm

There's a quicker way than googgling.. i just read the post and although there is drama, I don't think you really accused him of anything, but left it up to the viewer. It my opinio it sounded as if she was more revengeful than anything..

Moutnain Girl

Visit my blog: MoutnainGirl

spunky11961 replies on 8/27/2006 6:00 pm:
Thank You for that MountainGirl,Just how did You see it without Googling? I'm curious since I wasn't aware till this that hidden posts could be googled!

MoutnainGirl 37F

8/26/2006 9:39 pm

What is going on here!! I gotta go goggle things because I am so confused and outta the loop on this.. grr.. I hate when i have RL to live an dmiss out on the interesting stuff..

Moutnain Girl

Visit my blog: MoutnainGirl

spunky11961 replies on 8/27/2006 5:58 pm:
Thanx Mountain girl i'll leave the reply in your next comment below~

rm_KarmoHunny 55F
888 posts
8/26/2006 7:33 pm

Hi Spunky,

I'm sorry you got caught up in some FriendFinder drama. Sadly, that seems to run rampant here. I'm sure you meant no harm. You've apologized for your part and tried to make amends. It seems like those involved have forgiven you. It's time to move on.

You've been a wonderful friend to me. I won't be deserting you!


spunky11961 replies on 8/27/2006 5:55 pm:
KarmoHunny,Thank You.You don't know how much those words mean to me here on this! You are a real friend!

RevJoseyWales 69M/66F
14393 posts
8/26/2006 9:42 am

No apology necessary. You did what you thought was right, and you did it in a proper manner. Unfortunately things were not totally as they seemed. Not the first time this has happened. I don't know Todd. But I do know many of the others by reputation, and as I said before, their reps are impeccable. Maybe Todd has changed. Personally I doubt it, and I won't be bothered with him. I don't buy his explanations, and I find his unwillingness to accept responsibility for that incident to be disturbing, and more than slightly sociopathic. The only reason for his admissions was he found out his new handle was known. Damage control. Others may think differently. In the end, as I said the first time, everyone must decide who they are going to believe. It does take a brave man to admit a mistake, tho'. Here's to ya. Joe

"McVeigh had the right idea, wrong address."

"This ain't Dodge City, and you ain't Bill Hickok."

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 2:50 pm:
Thank you Joe,Yours is one of the comments that opened my eyes to my actions in this,those comments are all still there in that hidden post to remind me should I ever get the stupid urge again! I'm out of my element when it comes to the drama,that's just not me normally.
But you've left me some very wise words,both here and in there,words I'll never forget! Thank You for that,and stopping by to leave me this

ButteryDelight 58F

8/26/2006 9:40 am

ummm...errrr..excuse me. It seems i am having a Blond Moment here as i can't remember if i commented to that post or not.

*shrugs..oh well.

As for what you posted made a owned up to it is time to move on.

Buttery Delight

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 2:43 pm:
Thanx Buttery! Ya know,I can't remember either,How bad is that! Well this is relly kind and also good advice,advice I'll certainly follow
Thank You for that

rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
8/26/2006 8:15 am

Sorry Spunky, everytime I left a comment it would just bounce off the post, even though the post was still on the main page. I didnt think you would do something like that, thats why I was shocked.

So, I apologize

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 2:40 pm:
Saint,You've no reason to apologize,but I do,I was out of line,and I'm sorry for this! Thank You though,seeing You here helps with my conscience,I don't belong in the middle of any drama,I'm out of my element there!So now I'm just going to stick to what I do best,My little animal stories and the like.Thanx for stopping by,really!

kyplowboy22 61M

8/26/2006 6:53 am

Well, looks like I missed another opportunity to get snagged in the middle of some drama. Good. I don't have time for it. in the future. If I see it coming, I get away from it. If it follows me, I attack and disable it, not the people, the drama. Early on in my blog life I was drug into dramatic situations by others twice. I did what I had to, to get out of them. There won't be a third one. There are some warning signs drama is fixing to happen, as I have observed:

1- Those that scream the loudest about hating drama are usually the ones at the core of it and perpetuate it the longest. They are the ones that start a bar room brawl then crawl under the tables to watch everyone else duke it out, then come out of the woodwork as "the Great Peacemakers" when the punch quit coming.

2- It is almost always blown out of proportion from the mole hill it actually is. There are those here in Blogland that seek the 'dirt' on anyone and everything they can to advance their own personal agendas. And if it ain't dirty enough to make the front page, they will spruce it up a little. I have a hard time deciding who is the worst myself; the perpetrator or the gossips that feed on their blood. It usually comes down to an ego thing. The need some people have to feel better about themselves through the folly of others. They have a need for acceptance, to run with a pack, that is so great that they are willing to forego their own personal integrity to get it.

3- You can almost always see it coming by the efforts being made to get you to pick one side or the other in a situation. (The pack thing again). Every army needs soldiers. They will swear to you there is no neutral ground; you are with us or against us. Well, here's a news flash, there is a neutral ground and it is composed of 99.9% of the rest of Blogland. The 0.1% comprises the parties involved in that particular skirmish and the rest of the people on the site are oblivious to it.

I dunno, beau. You apparantly feel you got yourself between the rock and that hard place. And maybe that's a good thing for you. Got you a little wake up call as to the treacherous nature of some on this site. It ain't all warm and fuzzy here all the time in every way.

I try to go back to the old hillbilly adage I grew up with. "Say what you mean and mean what you say. Be prepared to back it up yourself or say nothing at all." If you have a heartburn with someone, go straight to the source. Ain't no need to drag a bunch of spectators along with you, one on one is the shortest, quickest and most civil way to resolution. And it leaves no collateral damage.

Just my thoughts on it. Be your own man and you will always stand out in the crowd. The only person on this Earth you really need to please is you, so set your own standards of ethical behavior high and strive to live them out. By a matter of natural consequence, the majority of those around you will be pleased. And those that aren't might need to evaluate their own ethical foundation.


spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 11:06 am:
Thank you Kpb,Your words here make for some very good advice,words I intend to listen to and follow! I was out of my element in this and should've never allowed this to happen let alone bring it into my blog! Your words have helped me to resolve this in my mind and my heart,I know now that I need to stick with what I know best here.
So I'll do what I do,and stick to my stories and my occasional rants,No more drama here from me!You don't know how much your words have meant...then again maybe you do.having been there before,
~Thanx Man~

lovemetouchme5 51F
2102 posts
8/26/2006 6:28 am

SEEEEEE, I told you everything would be alright!!! Loveme

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 2:32 pm:
Thank you Loveme,for standing behind me and your help with this

JuicyBBW1001 54F

8/26/2006 4:38 am

I am clueless as usual too caught up in my own drama.


spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 2:30 pm:
Juicy,You didn't miss anything but me putting myself some where I don't belong! this is an apology for those actions. Thanx Friend

woofff 41F

8/26/2006 3:50 am

Hey I had no clue sweetie what you were referring to the first time
I commented on the post you've hidden...I just had a bad feeling about it for your sake...I see you have the trust and friendship of a
lot of intelligent people,from the comments they make.

Such friends will accept your self admission...move on...and never rebuke you. And with time, you'll I said in my comment about Moki..that you did the best you possibly could. That is all you
are expected to do.


spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 2:09 pm:
Thank You Woofff,When I first did that post it didn't feel right. But then I read your comment and I knew,It was time to hide that post! I respect what you say and Your opinions. I realized You were warning me,and that you really were concerned for me, Thanx for that

countryheart_71 45F
8082 posts
8/26/2006 3:47 am

Spunky, I missed what happened but I do know that you are the greatest friend that anyone could ever ask for. I luv ya the way that you are! Please don't change for whatever reason. You have a huge heart and are the most caring person that I have ever met!


spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 2:02 pm:
Thank You Country,Those are some very Kind heartfelt words you have for me,And know I have those very same for you

ThatDamnCowboy 61M
10812 posts
8/26/2006 1:03 am

Don't know what happened. Don't care what happened. I like you. You're a friend. I'll still keep coming back here and I hope some day we can meet in person and down a few cans.

See you later

My Latest post: HAVE YOU EVER?
A Taste of Erotica First Meeting

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 2:00 pm:
Thanx C, That means a lot to me,And I'll be lookin' forward to that day,First rounds on me!

goodatpoetry2 67M
13127 posts
8/25/2006 10:07 pm

Hey, Spunky,
I know you're confused now.
You like the guy, but some things he's done just don't seem so cool. This is for you to decide.
As I said in the other post, anyone who is enough of a trickster to fake his death, just isn't someone I want to bother with.
But, to each their own. Really. This doesn't seem to bother some other people as much. I understand......but don't. Who knows?
You tried to help a friend. That's nice. Does he deserve help? I dunno?
But trying before, and wondering now, are only good things.
We still like ya!

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 1:58 pm:
Thanx Man,I really hear what you're saying and your comment to me there is one of them that opened my eyes to realize I don't belong in the drama,I'm better of here in my own element,you are one of those included in this apology for my actions~

strongelk2006 53M

8/25/2006 9:02 pm

Hay bro,,don't even sweat it. Shit happens,,,and then life go on. If it hurt someone and it don't brake you up with your friend ,,then just go on and enjoy life ,,they will be back.



spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 1:55 pm:
Thanx Bro,That all means a lot to me,Good words there you speak!
~Keep It Real~

eclecticsoul4u 57F
942 posts
8/25/2006 8:10 pm

Hi Jeff, lots of people say they're sorry here and that they made a mistake for most this is lip service just to appease the people around them. I believe you. I feel the sincerity of your apology and your personal turmoil over what your post inadvertently stirred up. Take heart this will pass those that get you will stick and those that don't won't. Hope you find Moki she will have a really great home.

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 1:52 pm:
Thank You so much,For your kind words and your faith in me as well!
I still hold out hope for Moki too

VCF1962 105F

8/25/2006 7:36 pm

Spunky you were only jumping to the rescue of a friend - the fact that people have differing opinions doesn't make you a bad person. It just makes you a true friend.

As I said in my original post, I have been through some of what Todd has done in real life (with someone I met via AdultFriendFinder strangely enough) and it damn near destroyed me and my family last Christmas so there is no way that I can condone his actions, friend or not.

That doesn't, however, mean that you are not my friend. I don't play those schoolyard games. You have a right to be friends with any and everyone that you choose - that doesn't mean I love you any less !

Mistress Innuendo
Taking what you say and turning it into something naughty !!

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 1:50 pm:
Thank You V, I knew You'd had something happen, but I didn't know it was so close to this,I'm sorry that happened to You and no that isn't right! Thanx for understanding,and your kind words here

sexymamma662003 31F

8/25/2006 6:58 pm

I also wanted to add that anyone can google his previouse handles and read the blogs that he had written they are still there


spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 1:09 pm:
Now that's really interesting! Thanx~

sexymamma662003 31F

8/25/2006 6:57 pm

unfortunately because you only hide it and did not delete the post anyone can go back and goggle a handle of someone and find someone that posted on that blog and look at there comments and click on the comment they made on your hidden post and you can read the post, you cant read the comments but you can the post.

i don't think what you said in it was harsh, but then again it wasn't at me so i cant say for the others if it was or not mean.

i commented on the post by EroticaXTC and left my opinion there so i wont clog up yours with it too.


spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 1:06 pm:
Thank You, that's something I didn't know,I hid it to help stop anything I might have helped along.I'll go see your comment there,But thanx for your reassuring words here~

cuteNEway 41F

8/25/2006 6:53 pm

Spunky I'm not angry at you I'm just tired of people putting their drama all over the fuckin blogs to the point where we who honestly DON'T GIVE A FLYING FUCK can't find any damn blogs to read without encountering this bullshit!

That is all.

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 1:01 pm:
Thank You Cuten,I understand and that's part of the apology here.
No more drama it doesn't belong along side my cats and the ducks.

SirMounts 102M

8/25/2006 6:37 pm

Well, I have little doubt that if you do make mistakes, they are honest ones. I have no idea what you are referring to, and I'm glad I don't. I just know that you have always shown more than good intent, to everyone.
^10's spunky.

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 12:59 pm:
Thank you Sirmounts, for those kind supportive words.I did something, though well meant, and on behalf of a friend,that brought something here that didn't belon.This is an apology for those actions!

papyrina 51F
21133 posts
8/25/2006 6:08 pm

i hven't a clue what post it was,or what it was about,i just know what ever you wrote could never be malicious or with intent to hurt.
Hugs honeY

I'm a

i'm here to stay

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 12:56 pm:
Thank You Papy,it wasn't that it was just well meant intentons on behalf of a friend and in doing so I brought something here that didn't belong...Drama,this is an apology for those actions

twirly_girl 47F

8/25/2006 5:50 pm

I didn't see your post. I'm terribly confused. I followed EroticaXTC to her blog and read her post and I'm kinda dumb founded.
I don't know what to say. I feel ill. Have we been scammed or tricked into false friendships?


spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 12:45 pm:
Nic,no reason to be confused,He's been honest with ya from the start,what this here is about, is my mistake for bringing something here that didn't belong,Don't draw any conclusions by my actions!they were not because of anything I saw or found out,I acted out of line and chose to fix it in this way! Thanx~

moonlightphoenix 45F
6508 posts
8/25/2006 5:33 pm

Fuck...I blinked and I missed it again!!!

GOTTA quit doing that!!

No worries...I think most here know where you're coming from.

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 12:40 pm:
Thank You Moonlight,You didn't miss anything other than me making a mistake by bringing to much drama here to my blog,a place it doesn't belong,thanx for understanding~

EroticaXTC 50F

8/25/2006 5:14 pm

spunky, I saw the title of your post on the main page, but I didn't click on it right then... when I went back to the main page to visit it, it was already gone. I thought perhaps you weren't aware of many things, and in good faith, I was going to read your post.
I blew this thing out of the water today because I missed the picture with that particular member...and I'd been interacting with him blindly like so many others... Had I not been preoccupied with other things here, and paid attention to the clues more carefully, I would have known who I was blogging with...and it would have made all the difference in the world to me. Likewise, I felt like others may feel the same way...[so I did what saintli tried to do much earlier...not out of vindictiveness, but good conscience.
I think you have a good conscience too spunky, and everything will work out okay!{=}

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 10:57 am:
Thank You,Erotica,This is something I should've never done,though well meant at the time,I'm out of my element in these things.I understand what you were trying to do,I do respect everyone's opinion. I just didn't show that very well yesterday,I'm sorry for that! And Thanx for your understanding,and your very kind words as well! You've helped ease my conscience here.

lovemetouchme5 51F
2102 posts
8/25/2006 4:56 pm

Jeff, You're very welcome...Lisa

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 10:43 am:
Thank you for your help Lisa It Was most appreciated!

sexyariesgirl 57F

8/25/2006 4:49 pm

Spunky...I didn't see the post...but from your other posts here it's hard for me to believe that you intentionally hurt anyone. I hope you will be able to make amends to the ones you feel you need to and not let this get you totally down.

Power To FOK

spunky11961 replies on 8/26/2006 10:41 am:
Thanx Sexyaries,It was something I should never have allowed myself to bring to this blog,it's done and I'm back to doing what I do best here my type of posts no more drama!

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