Oh WTF  

spinmedown 49M
1607 posts
12/18/2005 6:44 pm

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Oh WTF

So we're out this weekend shopping for presents for her daughters like an old married couple. When I get home she calls me to tell me that she doesn't think her daughters would be comfortable with me being there for the second Christmas after her divorce. I hope my presents have a nice fucking holiday.


Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde


themisskrissy 56F
2302 posts
12/18/2005 7:09 pm

hmmmmmmmm? nice to tell you after the shopping...... need to do a year end review perhaps? take no shit darlin!

Virtue Alone Ennobles


rm_sj365 55F
2414 posts
12/18/2005 7:11 pm

spin hun....scroll down about 2 posts & say yer own prayer

i know its got to be tough...but hang in there & be good to you k?


rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
12/18/2005 7:15 pm

Oh sorry, that really sucks the big one.


caressmewell 53F

12/18/2005 7:23 pm

I'm sorry to hear that.
It sounds more like she is the one that is uncomfortable with you being there for Christmas.


spinmedown 49M
3626 posts
12/19/2005 7:45 am

Krissy Point and shit taken. Thank you for the excellent point. I'll thank her for the shit when the time comes.
sj365 That is very good advice. I've already done that a number of times. I'll keep my fingers crossed.
saintlianna LOL I like the way you put things into perspective.
caress You could be right. Excellent point. Thank you.

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde


Fox4aKnight1 43F

12/19/2005 8:53 am

Spin,

I tend to agree with caress. And sounds like she ispartially useing you but well I can't really judge from not knowingthe whole thing. Actually ought not to be judging in any case *sigh* good luck hun and if my family wasn't so overloaded with people I would be happy to invite you to my get together. But that would be silly as it would be missing the point. LOL okies I know I havr blonde roots in here somewhere. hugs and hope things are getting better hun.

Foxy
hugs


nightstalker172 36M
1258 posts
12/19/2005 6:13 pm

all I can say is WFT....her daughters my fucking ass....if you bought gifts you should be able to attend...perhaps crash the party anyway?....that is fucked up man....


MaggiesWishes 60F

12/19/2005 10:39 pm

HUM... come here and let me just "smack" ya for being gullible!

After all you have done, been there and you are not welcome to her home for Christmas? Daughters? Presents? <kick stomp>

Spin...
I hate to say it, but my mom used me as an excuse to her boyfriend when I was young and she didn't want to see him. Go figure?
But if the going got tough, she called him up and expected him to "jump" and fix the problem. That's not kewl, ya know?

I'm sorry babyboy! This bites!

~~~> jumping off the soap box and getting a "stiff drink" for you.


SolarPowered0 67M
8018 posts
12/20/2005 3:34 pm

Spin...

All you can do is accept that you were there when she needed you. It might not have been what you expected her to need, but at least you were needed. Understand, my friend?

Solar...


bardicman 50M

12/21/2005 12:46 am

Spinner - Look at this arrow..

<---------------------------

Now, move your monitor around until that arrow is pointing west...

Getting any Ideas?



I am not dead yet


SensuousWoman3 55F
3106 posts
12/21/2005 3:51 am

True to my nature, I’m going to sugar coat this. Can you say needy, immature and manipulative? That’s not love.

Would her “daughters” feel more comfortable with you being there for Christmas if you came bearing a small velvet box with a diamond engagement ring inside? Hmmm. I wonder.

Sorry, Spin. Sometimes my messages tend to be a bit on the cryptic side.


fantasia_shares 47M/43F
4164 posts
12/22/2005 4:36 pm

some people are idiots

sry u were spending time with one

one thing i've learned as i've gotten older...is to stand up and fight for the things that make sense to me, particularly when it comes to stupidity around the holidays

...and you know what...i stood my ground at thanksgiving...and things worked out. I was so proud of that...in fact, I was completely vindicated...and it felt good...

Thing is, i'd be asking that woman a lot of questions and putting her on the spot..."Well, I hear you, that could feel strange, but can I ask you to do one thing? Could you at least ask your daughters how they feel about it? Particularly, can you ask them how they would feel about having me over, knowing that i care about them and just would love to spend time with all of you for the holidays?" When you ask questions, and express YOUR feelings...and acknowlege the other parties concerns and feelings...often a lot of headway can be made in a very short time...CHALLENGE the status quo...don't take it sitting down...

...Damn...i think i just came up with a new personal motto...."Challenge the status quo...don't take it sitting down."

I love it!

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MisterPriapus 57M
6980 posts
12/22/2005 7:05 pm

Spin~

OK, this ain't gonna be an original observation, after all...

Being somewhat cynical by conditioning, I too caught the "she thought" inflection...

A] Did the kids say "No way" or not?

B] Are they going to find your presents an onerous presence?

3] (Never was any good at categorization... ) How old are they?

We lost my Mom 3 years ago, and my Pop recently found somebody to keep him company, active, and happy.

As an individual gradually approaching maturity, yeah, I find it's kinda awkward... but that doesn't matter, cuz as long as she's making him happy, it's all fine in my book!

Best wishes yours find a similar wisdom, and recognition of a more suitable holiday spirit.

PS: Sorry not to've dropped by for a while- the job's been riding me like a rented mule. If I don't get the opportunity, have a most excellent Christmas!

Keep the faith

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Been a while since they last let me out into polite society. Resurfacing, catching a breath, & catching up.



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spinmedown 49M
3626 posts
12/25/2005 9:01 am

Fox I think you and caress could be right. Thank you thinking of me. Sounds like you have quite a gathering planned. Enjoy your time with all the special people in your life!

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde


spinmedown 49M
3626 posts
12/25/2005 9:04 am

Night LOL Easy, big guy. LOL You're right. It is fucked up. I'm not gonna crash. I'll just let them stand there with my presents and wonder, "What the hell?"

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde


spinmedown 49M
3626 posts
12/25/2005 9:07 am

Maggie! Thank you for your candor, insight and the smack. Mu'aaaahhhhh back atcha!

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde


spinmedown 49M
3626 posts
12/25/2005 9:09 am

Solar Thank you so much for your comment. I never looked at it that way before. I think that does count for something.

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde


spinmedown 49M
3626 posts
12/25/2005 9:10 am

Bard You are a true friend. I mean that. Thanks for always being there.

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde


spinmedown 49M
3626 posts
12/25/2005 9:13 am

SW #1 That's an amazingly easy pill to swallow, since it mirrors my own thoughts. I always respect your insight and candor.

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde


spinmedown 49M
3626 posts
12/25/2005 9:18 am

fantasia Welcome here! That is a very powerful statement, and one that I will keep in mind in the future. I'm glad to hear that it worked out for you already. It is amazing how much we can change our situation by standing up for ourselves. But at times that can be such a difficult thing to do. Thank you for sharing this with me. Hugs back atcha!

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde


spinmedown 49M
3626 posts
12/25/2005 9:26 am

Mr.P. I am sorry to hear that, my friend. Sadly, it is something we all must face some day. I respect you for the way you are handling that situation. I treat my Grandmother's new husband the same way, even though others do not.

1. She has never allowed any direct line of communication between myself and her kids. So I have no way of knowing. But things were a bit akward at Thanksgiving, so........could be.

2. I damn well hope so.

3. Old enough to know better.

Any time you can find for me is a good time! Giddy-Up!

Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde


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