Sunday blues  

spearfishhottie 51M/47F
161 posts
7/17/2005 12:58 pm

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Sunday blues

It was a hot night last night and I'm speaking here of the weather. We had a nice dinner and played the slots. Lost way too much money on Top Dollar.

I chatted up a few guys and noticed a good number taking in the view but was not able to find one I liked. At least not one that was a real possibility.

Sometimes it's like that. I just have to feel attracted to a guy or I won't do it and most guys either have an attitude or look disgusting to me.

I mean it might just be the turn of a phrase or the way they pronounce a word that turns me off. If a guy thinks he's all that, I probably won't.

And any man who thinks he can get me off better than Ben does is just playing the fool. Ben is so totally unique because he's the man I love. He's the partner who has been on the journey.

He's the one who's been with me through the bad times and together we found our way and that's pure gold. Total trust, a man who would lay his life down for me.

The guys I like to party with are those who are out to have a good time. Guys who come to Deadwood or the rally to just let it all hang out and the go back home to real life.

I like the guy with a Deadwood tee-shirt and a few strings of Mardi Gras beads around his neck. And I like bikers. Notice I said bikers, not motorcycle owners. If a guy's identity comes from what he owns, then he's not for hottie.

This morning I'm thinking about the restraints we impose on ourselves and others. I'm thinking that's why many people explore swinging in its various aspects. We're all trying to break free of this so the human race can evolve.

Believe me, I still have to battle with my mind at times because I start worrying that I'm a s lut. That just gets so pumped into your head and as long as I've been at this I still can't get completely free of that.

It's a pleasant journey but erasing society's fingerprint is a process. I'm sorry I didn't have an adventure to report but that's how it goes sometimes. It just makes hottie all the hotter for the next opportunity.

And of course this is Sunday so I'll be losing my panties for Ben and Raymond tonight! It's all good.

Philosophy_N_Sex 49M/47F

7/17/2005 2:23 pm

Hey Again

No you are not a slut. You are not cheating on spouse, you are hurting nobody.

We have also encounter guys thinking she must not be getting it good at home if she plays with other men. The other guys are like "extended foreplay" they are not the main course. Yeah they might be exciting or make her/you feel good, but that is it. Your loyality is not questioned, and any guy who thinks he is "all that" is told to take a hike, and be all that elsewhere.

Yeah you and your hubby have a deeper connection that nobody else can or ever will understand. If they can not compute playing and real love, they need to think deeper.

You do not have to do any thing, that is what is great. If there is nobody good out that night, not your loss. You can always coem home with your own hubby, and play or relive the "best of" episodes of you hotwifey experiences.

keithcancook 60M
17718 posts
7/17/2005 2:54 pm

Very interesting post. You are an intriguing female indeed! Thanks for sharing.

rm_FreeLove999 46F
16127 posts
7/17/2005 3:37 pm

i don't try to shake the label "slut" -- i embrace it --- you should see the look of horror on my new-agey friends faces when i tell them "i'm exploring my inner slut" !!! LOL!! that look of horror is definitely worth it ... i don't know why but it just makes me feel so much more empowered when i use the term on myself and don't give a shit for what other people take it to mean ...

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spearfishhottie 51M/47F
98 posts
7/18/2005 8:44 am

I usually don't worry about it but it is difficult to shake social conditioning so once in a while. I do like the idea of embracing the inner s lut! We don't even begin to know ourselves until we begin to explore every aspect of our beings. Thank you all for responding. Your feedback is much appreciated.

476 posts
7/18/2005 9:06 am

One comment you made really got my attention; "This morning I'm thinking about the restraints we impose on ourselves and others. I'm thinking that's why many people explore swinging in its various aspects. We're all trying to break free of this so the human race can evolve."

I have said many times that jealousy is the root of all evil. I think that you have to reach a certain understanding of human nature to be able to accept the idea that your partner can enjoy being with someone else and still be totally committed to your relationship.

I think it goes back to the whole ownership concept. A lot of men all over the world, women too maybe, get their identity and self-worth from the things they own. They apply this idea to their personal relationships as well. "If I can't have you, no one else will either."

War is just an extension of this "I gotta own it" mentality. i.e. If you got it and I want it, I'm gonna come take it.

I have ofetn heard people ask, "Why can't we all just get along?" I think the answer is all about ownership. Until people learn to get beyond this "It's MINE" attitude we are going to have conflict.

SO, in a very real way swinging is a step in the right direction. If you can't get your hands around the idea that it's okay to share your lover you probably won't be able to get your hands around the idea that we could share our nations wealth without it doing us any harm.

If you don't mind I'm going to post this, with a couple of minor revisions, in my blog - Coitus Interruptus Cafe

You are all welcome to join me there.


spearfishhottie 51M/47F
98 posts
7/18/2005 2:17 pm

I totally agree BOSSIERBOY and am a firm believer that people need to quit trying to own and control each other. Ben knows I'm with him because I love him and want to spend my life with him he's quite aware it's my choice and my own free will and vice versa. We cherish that.

Tryanything1ceXX 44M/39F

7/19/2005 1:10 pm

hottie girl i totally know how you feel i do the whole merry go round thing in my head. I tell steve all the time that indeed i feel like a ho or a slu t but i like it so i don't care. However it does make me less willing to just get it good from a total stranger. which i sooo want to do you and i are going to def go out hunting one night

kisses melissa

Bellefourchelove 62M

7/22/2005 12:04 pm

Sounds like a dream in the making.

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