CAN YOU TEACH SOMEONE TO HAVE A LITTLE CLASS ?  

sophia4u2no 49F
192 posts
9/6/2006 3:48 pm

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CAN YOU TEACH SOMEONE TO HAVE A LITTLE CLASS ?

Say you are 20. You were raised without a father, your mother suffered from clinical depression and extreme promiscuity which you grew up witnessing. You now have a 2 year old, you have already given one child up for adoption and aborted another, Your head is fucked, royally. You have exhibited the same promiscuous tendencies you watched your mother have while you grew up in her care. So, is possible to unlearn learned behavior? Can you take a 20 year old who doesn't think twice about laying down with dogs, Can you teach her to have a little class and self respect? Or am I fighting a losing battle. PLease advise.


sexymamma662003 31F

9/6/2006 4:28 pm

i think you yourself would be fighting a losing battle.

this person needs profesional help. if she can be helped at all.
i highly doubt you can do anything for her but provide support

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TXBITCH2006 49F

9/6/2006 4:36 pm

Yes, you can, but it takes work and determination. Perhaps finding somebody who can be a mentor would help.


SmartType 51F

9/6/2006 4:49 pm

Sophia, you should approach it perhaps losing a few battles while winning the war. The one thing we have going for us, is that we live in the United States. We can make our own self-determination. It sounds like you have been through a tremendous amount of pain and suffer some guilt - and you are allowed that. The decisions we make when we are young and confused and looking at all too bleak futures (as we perceive them) might not be the decisions we would make now. All I can say, is that enjoy your child, enjoy your life and wake up every day knowing that its cool to be you and no one else. And as far as the man thing goes - I would recommend being a bit more judicious, but hey, I've been know to roll in the hay more often than not. But what I'm very, very good at - is recognizing when a guy is 'just not that into me'. Motor on - and chin up!


AstirRelicLatah 64M
1993 posts
9/6/2006 5:14 pm

Yes you can, but it's difficult. I find it difficult to help twenty year olds with a different compelling vision. This is the sort of thing an NLP Neurolinguistic Programming therapist is very good for. But, only if the person wants a different world to live in.


spacecadet561 59M

9/6/2006 5:26 pm

Some would tell the person to "get right with God". The clinical approach has already been suggested. Either way, probably the first thing to do is try to find some redeeming trait or ability that can be the basis of a sense of self-worth and enough backbone to say no to the next guy who asks for a piece of ass, and mean it and make it stick (with a kick to the groin if needed).

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sophia4u2no 49F

9/6/2006 8:43 pm

    Quoting SmartType:
    Sophia, you should approach it perhaps losing a few battles while winning the war. The one thing we have going for us, is that we live in the United States. We can make our own self-determination. It sounds like you have been through a tremendous amount of pain and suffer some guilt - and you are allowed that. The decisions we make when we are young and confused and looking at all too bleak futures (as we perceive them) might not be the decisions we would make now. All I can say, is that enjoy your child, enjoy your life and wake up every day knowing that its cool to be you and no one else. And as far as the man thing goes - I would recommend being a bit more judicious, but hey, I've been know to roll in the hay more often than not. But what I'm very, very good at - is recognizing when a guy is 'just not that into me'. Motor on - and chin up!
Thanks for the comment, but it might help you to know that I am the AUNT and not the mother, i am cleaning up my sister's mess. so to speak


vrec_dawn 39M

9/7/2006 6:25 pm

Can you teach? Yes. If the person wants to learn. Can you force? No.


gentelmanjim53 63M

9/17/2006 6:19 am

Everyone has given you the answer, The change has to come from within her. The best you can do is to be her mentor, her role model and the one to give the tough love. Best of luck and see if you can get her into a program of some sort.


sophia4u2no 49F

9/17/2006 8:00 pm

    Quoting gentelmanjim53:
    Everyone has given you the answer, The change has to come from within her. The best you can do is to be her mentor, her role model and the one to give the tough love. Best of luck and see if you can get her into a program of some sort.
This is one tough nut to crack, she has basically raised herself and her 2 sisters from about 5 years of age, there is an awful lot on undoing to be done oh well, what the hell else do I have to do? Sophia


bipolybabe 54F

9/18/2006 1:46 pm

Hi, Sophia,

Thanks for directing me to your blog. Sorry it's taken me a while to get here.

I believe in every human's ability to change patterns and behavior if she wants to. And that's a big IF.

I just read Rachel Reiland's memoir "Get Me Out of Here" about her recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder, which is a pretty serious mental illness. If she can do it, anyone can.

Now, the thing is, she was working with an amazingly skilled psychiatrist, and it took both drugs and therapy to help her recover and build a life she loves. And a life in which she loves herself.

I'm not sure you can do it all by yourself. You could certainly support your niece in getting the help she needs. But, she has to want to change her life. No one can force her to do so.

Best wishes, and I'll say a prayer for you and her and her 2-year-old.

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