why indeed?  

rm_songbird5419 62F
301 posts
8/9/2005 5:43 pm

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why indeed?


On days like today, I wonder why the transparently bad behavior of a person is so opaque to so many others. I further wonder why the passive-agressive behavior is tolerated. And I wonder why someone for whom I once had a huge amount of respect has chosen to close his eyes and mind to the aforementioned bad behavior. It truly baffles me. Perhaps one day I'll understand, but I doubt it.

If you are strong and push through the pain and the fear, you often find that happiness is waiting for you on the other side.


rm_songbird5419 62F
305 posts
8/16/2005 1:07 pm

sex4fun, thank you for the kind words. They mean a lot. *S*

If you are strong and push through the pain and the fear, you often find that happiness is waiting for you on the other side.


sex4fun1950 66M
182 posts
8/16/2005 10:46 am

Song,

Sadly, there is a time to "give up" on some people, or situations. And, when that time is right, it can save your own sanity to do so. Glad you had the wisdom to save your sanity.

Thanks for the compliment on my writing, but I find yours much better.

xoxo


rm_songbird5419 62F
305 posts
8/11/2005 2:31 pm

yes sex4fun, we do put blinders on...and yes, I too, prefer to tackle problems head on. I do seem to have a fairly high tolerance for impossible situations, but there comes a point beyond which I can no longer tolerate the foolishness. Then I speak, as politely as possible, but bluntly and to the point, saying the truth as I see it. This post relates to some fairly specific events that have been ongoing. It relates to what I perceive to be a dishonest administration of a discussion board here on A.F.F. and it relates directly to a brutally insulting reply to one of my posts on that board by someone I thought to be above the ugliness with which he answered my post to him. I have purposely not replied to his post because it's akin to the proverbial "pissing into the wind" to attempt further explanation or clarification of my original points. My words would simply be twisted once again into something they are not, so I've thrown my hands up and elected to post my thoughts here instead. It feels good to simply purge the ugliness on "paper" in an attempt to cleanse myself of the ill feelings that followed this exchange. Thank you for reading and thank you for your thoughts. They are helpful and you write so well. *S*

If you are strong and push through the pain and the fear, you often find that happiness is waiting for you on the other side.


sex4fun1950 66M
182 posts
8/11/2005 12:07 pm

Song,

We all put blinders on, often as a mechanism of self-defense: we don't wish to hurt ourselves, so we wont see the problem. To borrow a quote from the world of BDSM, "It is only pain, dear, and it is only yours." Or, maybe ostriches are right, and burrying your head in the sand will make problems go away. Seriously, I don't fully believe in these, I prefer to tackle a problem head on, and only after working at deciding that a cure is not possible. Depending on the problem and the nature of the relationship, the amount of time can be a lifetime (this helps explain why I am a member here, and still married).

xoxo


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