one helluva week!!!  

rm_songbird5419 62F
301 posts
10/14/2005 7:13 pm

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7/29/2006 4:26 am

one helluva week!!!

This week has been a roller coaster!! My prospective landlady has been beside me on this roller coaster. She's very nervous about me. I'm self-employed, for the most part anyway, and she's needing to be comfortable that I'll be able to pay the rent each month. Understandably so!! Both her husband and her daughter suffer from Parkinson's Disease. She certainly has enough on her plate to worry about without being concerned about a tenant that she doesn't know from Adam's off ox paying her rent each month. So I spelled out to her exactly how I make my living and I told her in detail what the financial settlement from the divorce will be. She was somewhat comforted by that, but asked for a letter from my attorney confirming this arrangement. I started thinking about this and decided to make some pre-emptive phone calls. I called my former roommate/landlady from before I was married. Since she is the last person to whom I paid rent, she would be a logical reference as to my rent-paying habits. Then I called 3 good friends and asked for character references. I heard back from 2 of them, who agreed enthusiastically to write to her in my behalf. (I think the 3rd is out of town...he never fails to return calls) I'm glad I did this, because she called me this afternoon and had received the letters from my 2 friends and my former roommate. She was very pleased and only needs to see the letter from my attorney. She sounded a LOT less nervous than before! I'm so glad. It seems like this may work out after all. I was becoming very nervous about it all myself. I had already begun to think of this apartment as "my place." Then another good thing happened...I was at the home of one of the folks who wrote a reference for me...she and her son are private graphics students of mine...and she told me that her cousin has a sofa and love seat that she wants to get rid of...for FREE!!! She said they're very nice...and knowing her taste, I have no worries about their being something horrible!!! So there's a chunk of change I won't have to worry about spending!

Today I talked with my lawyer or someone in her office 5 or 6 times. I sure wish they'd been that attentive earlier in this whole process. Perhaps it would have been over sooner. Ah well, hindsight is 20/20. In a little over a week from now, I will be in court and this will come to an end. From everything I've heard from others, I'm quite lucky it's only taken a year. My prospective landlady said her daughter's divorce took 6 years!!! I would have gone stark-raving mad!!!!!!! It's been a year of limbo and I'll soon be settled in to MY place!! I can't wait for my first night in the apartment. MY apartment!

Tomomrrow I shall cruise yard sales. I need chairs for my dining room table. Who knows what I might turn up? Maybe nothing...maybe a treasure!

If you are strong and push through the pain and the fear, you often find that happiness is waiting for you on the other side.

rm_songbird5419 62F
305 posts
10/19/2005 12:37 pm

ohboy, you always say the right thing!! ((((U))))

If you are strong and push through the pain and the fear, you often find that happiness is waiting for you on the other side.

ohboy48 67M  
95 posts
10/19/2005 11:29 am

Ahhh! A treasure searching out other treasures. Good to hear that things are turning up a bit more sunny after all the rain you've had.

smartmama 58F

10/15/2005 8:45 am

Song, nothing like new beginnings. Best of luck in YOUR apartment.

rm__Reality_ 105F
67 posts
10/15/2005 5:36 am

Song, i'm so glad this is all working out. That night long ago when i picked up my phone to hear a tear filled, paniced voice on the other end,I wasnt sure where all this would end! Alls well that ends well. Its been a long road!!!!!!

Now Diva and I look forward to sharing this new beginning with you as you've shared mine with me.


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