I thought this was an "Adult" site!!!  

rm_songbird5419 62F
301 posts
10/3/2005 2:14 pm

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7/29/2006 4:29 am

I thought this was an "Adult" site!!!


I have a 30-minute rule. When I agree to meet a man and show up as agreed, I will wait no longer than 30 minutes if said man is not at the appointed place at the appointed time. Why the heck am I talking about this here? Listen to this little gem of a story!!

About 2 weeks ago, I agreed to meet a man from this site for a drink whose moniker is SteamyOne3. We were to meet at 8 pm in the lounge of a high-end hotel in a community north of Boston. When I agreed to meet him and asked for a phone number, just in case something kept me from coming at the last minute. Not a strange request–I always do that–and give mine in return. Not this time. This man is married and apparently has a wife who is quite diligent in her attention to his extracurricular activities. Did warning bells go off in my head? Noooooo!! Why not? Who the hell knows? I arrived a few minutes after 8 and went into a sports bar off the lobby. Only a few folks there, and since this character never sent me a picture, I had NO clue who to look for. His profile now says he’s from Bedford, NH, but when I first began talking to him, it said Marblehead. It ALSO now says he’s divorced. (said married when I first started talking with him. Go figure!!) Since it was such a large hotel, I decided to go to the front desk to see if there was more than one lounge in the hotel. There was. I went to the other one and sat, had a drink, and waited. And waited. Nothing, no one, nada! I got in my car and headed home. I was moderately pissed, but wrote it off to a married man, with children, not being able to get out. I didn’t hear from him until the next day. He didn’t get there until 9, or so he says. Whatever. We talked a couple of times since then.

This morning I talked with a dear friend who had received a “heads-up” from another mutual friend. Apparently this man is using my name as a “reference,” saying that we’re long-time “f*&k buddies” and that I can vouch for him. Well, guess what? I’m not vouching. I sent him an email this morning and advised him that if he continued, I would report him to A.F.F. and do whatever I could to make sure he was permanently banned from the site. I also promised him that I would do what I could to expose his duplicity and his teen-like behavior. Sooooo, that’s why I write this entry into my blog. Beware ladies: SteamyOne3 is a 24-carat jerk!!! He lies about every facet of his life. Who knows what he’ll change his profile info to next? I don’t know, but if he changes it again, I’ll let ya know!! I can’t say that I’m sorry about not having met him. Hindsight being 20/20, I’m GLAD he didn’t show!!

If you are strong and push through the pain and the fear, you often find that happiness is waiting for you on the other side.


Bitchy_3 57F

10/9/2005 4:00 pm

Oh my goodness. I wondered whatever happened to old Snake. Yeah, he's given references to me as well, refused to provide a pic and many other things I have come to see as red flags. Well, consider yourself a luckier and wiser woman. How do we get into these things??????


rm_songbird5419 62F
305 posts
10/7/2005 9:36 am

good point ohboy!! I have to keep reminding myself of that little factoid!!

If you are strong and push through the pain and the fear, you often find that happiness is waiting for you on the other side.


ohboy48 67M  
95 posts
10/7/2005 9:05 am

Who says that just because he is on this site that he needs to be an "adult". Sounds like a kid in a candy store to me.


rm_songbird5419 62F
305 posts
10/5/2005 10:55 am

But but but Reality...it's YOUR job to remind me about those rose-colored glasses!! (which you did...in spades!!) Thank you! *S*

If you are strong and push through the pain and the fear, you often find that happiness is waiting for you on the other side.


rm_songbird5419 62F
305 posts
10/5/2005 10:54 am

Gee go figure sex4fun!! Since I now know who this character is, (see my next blog post) I wiil be taking him to task in every way. This is someone who professed to be my friend. I now question his personal definition of "friend." I suspect anyone with principles would do the same.

If you are strong and push through the pain and the fear, you often find that happiness is waiting for you on the other side.


sex4fun1950 66M
182 posts
10/5/2005 10:16 am

Song, I hate to say it, but this adult site is infested, not so much with teenagers but with charlatans. I gave up counting the number of no shows I haven't seen, but suspect it is "way into the double digits." I have never once gotten an answer that truely made sense (oops, I did once, and we rescheduled, and met).

I also ask for phones, figuring everyone has a cell phone. I have never been burned by anyone from here who has my cell! I recommend you not see anyone who is afraid to hand out a cell phone number. But, hey, that's just my recommendation; you will do as you wish.

As to his lying after the fact, that should be grounds for getting him off AdultFriendFinder. There is no reasonable explanation for lying. I'd actually like to see what happens when a lady asks you to vouche for him! After your side of the story is told, I am willing to bet she doesn't go out with him. Might teach him a lesson (or is he to ego centric to get it?).


rm__Reality_ 105F
67 posts
10/5/2005 7:20 am

Song, warning bells didnt go off cuz they can't penetrate thru the earpiece on those rose colored glasses!

There's more to this story, i'm waiting for the second installment!


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