Death...and new life...the cycle continues  

rm_songbird5419 62F
301 posts
9/27/2005 9:26 am

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Death...and new life...the cycle continues

Two momentous things happened yesterday, each a death of sorts. I’ll chronicle these events as they happened.

I spent 2 1/2 hours in a lawyer’s office with my lawyer, my husband and his lawyer and the lawyer who was our conciliator. The purpose was to reach a compromise agreement regarding the property settlement of the marital assets. The mission was accomplished: I didn’t get as much as I would like to have gotten, but I got more than he would like to have given me. Therein lies the compromise. The conciliator was wonderful. He was understanding of both sides and spoke with extensive knowledge of the law and great compassion for us both. He made it easy. When we finished, I felt like the weight of the world had been lifted from my shoulders. There will be no trial, the possibility of which I was dreading. My husband looked tired and beaten and I’m sorry for that. I think this past year has taken a greater toll on him than on me. My hope is that one day we can be at least on speaking terms again. So this marriage is dead: officially over. All that’s left is for the judge to put his stamp of approval on our agreement, which he will do on October 25. I can now begin anew. I’m looking forward to it a great deal. I bought myself a 1/2 bottle of one of my favorite champagne last night-Veuve Clicquot. It was perfect!

When I arrived home from the conciliation, I found that a dear man from the New England chat room had died suddenly over the weekend. Mr playfulcpl, Jack, always made me feel so special when he greeted me in the room. I had the privelege of meeting him and his wife Shirl at the July M&G in Auburn. He was just the same in person as he is online. I got a big hug and smooch and “it’s soooo good to finally meet you Song!!!” What a special couple! He was like that with everyone. He was one of those people with a special knack for making people feel good…and he meant it! I’m so pleased to have met him when I did. My sincere condolences go to Shirl and the rest of her family. This is such a difficult time and makes all my little troubles pale in comparison. So I lifted my glass last night to Jack, wishing him a speedy trip to his heaven and knowing he’s still with us in spirit. Godspeed Jack. *S*


If you are strong and push through the pain and the fear, you often find that happiness is waiting for you on the other side.


sex4fun1950 66M
182 posts
9/28/2005 7:17 pm

All endings also signal beginnings. For you and your ex a new way to live, never free from the past but able to move on, in a manner you not have guessed or one you always wanted to try. Now is your chance to try something new, and I hope you find happiness in the search.


ohboy48 67M  
95 posts
9/28/2005 11:54 am

Each time I face
a major event
I always hope
that it's end
Will be more pleasant
Than the beginning.

That's the only way
In spite of intent
That I know that life
Has spared me from
The pains and tortures
of misspent time.


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