Friends with benefits...  

EightVocesByron 43F
16 posts
5/14/2005 4:08 am

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3/5/2006 9:27 pm

Friends with benefits...


I am a person who loves to read... and of the many books and adult magazines i have, it was in an old September 2004 issue of Chalk mag (yes, the mag for young college students) that I got the answers to some questions bugging my mind about myself. On page 72 of said mag was a feature article on "FRIENDS-WITH-BENEFITS", or people like us here on AdultFriendFinder. It was indeed a very good article. What i found worth sharing here though is the endliner of said article which deals on relationship equation. Read it guys, you will definitely have something to learn...here it goes...

Prof. Chei Billedo of UP Diliman cites a theory from Robert Sternberg, which states that a relationship has three components: PASSION, INTIMACY, COMMITMENT. "When two people find themselves in a relationship filled with Passion, some Intimacy, but zero Commitment, then that could be the equation for Friends-with-Benefits". Think it's all casual sex with no strings attached? Proceed with caution...it could get a lot more complicated than you think.

* "No strings?" Think Again.

It is a biological fact, ladies - each time you have sex with someone, a chemical in your body called oxytocin is produced (the same chemical is formed during childbirth and breastfeeding). It's what causes emotional attachment to a person. So the more you have sex with someone, it's almost biologically impossible not to get even just a little bit attached.

* Love yourself first

It may be a cliche', but it's true. Ask yourself if you're using sex to fulfill any other emptiness or need, be it low self-esteem, or the need to feel appreciated and attractive. You have to recognize and deal with your own issues, instead of looking to other people for validation.

* Getting Physical

Of course, being a sexually active individual means that there are always health risks involved, be it unwanted pregnancy or STDs. Be cautious.

* Know what you're getting into

Bottomline: if expectations aren't met, you could end up heartbroken, or feeling guilty. Says Billedo, "EVEN IF ALL YOU'RE LOOKING FOR IS CASUAL SEX, MAKE SURE THAT YOU'RE MATURE ENOUGH, YOUR MOTIVES ARE CLEAR, AND THAT THERE IS MUTUAL RESPECT BETWEEN THE TWO PEOPLE INVOLVED."

That said, the Friends-with-Benefits set-up isn't always a recipe for disaster. After all, a relationship's success isn't based on how the two of you got together, but on how you work it out.

...that was it guys, hope you liked it too!

E2DIR
442 posts
5/14/2005 5:25 am

this article is very good for the passion!


rm_anthoney65 51M/41F
30 posts
5/14/2005 5:41 am

Sounds like a good article. I am being to really want to study the whole subject more. Apart from the sex there are many interesting facts and theories about the psychological and emotion aspects that I find myself reading some everyday.


wyvernrose 38F
3895 posts
5/14/2005 5:57 am

Thanks for sharing, very informative I can't fault it, great!

WyvernRose


sonedaze 42M

5/14/2005 7:37 am

Thanks, very good article. Love to see more like this.


NAUGHTYSEXY25 37F

7/9/2005 2:37 am

hey girl, i can relate to your article, its awesome.. Hope u can give some of your research soon.


E2DIR
442 posts
7/19/2005 9:40 am

hello snowhite you are a sexy friends and i like you.


dashingdan2000 47M
27 posts
7/20/2005 12:25 pm

thanks for the great article snowhite! it is informative, sensible and true. i hope you can post again similar materials soon. good work.


BIG9216213047 36M

9/15/2005 9:25 pm

nice one... lets connect


hotm12001AtYaH00 40M
15 posts
11/18/2005 7:40 am

hi! good one


RONALD2193 41M
5 posts
7/22/2006 8:58 pm

HI WYVERNROSE, I LIKE YOUR BOOBS... HOPE TO CHAT WITH SOME OTHER TIME


RONALD2193 41M
5 posts
7/22/2006 8:59 pm

HI WYVERNROSE, I LIKE YOUR BOOBS... HOPE TO CHAT WITH SOME OTHER TIME
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