What my father didn't tell me about sex...  

snowdragon2006 40M
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8/22/2006 12:38 am

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8/29/2006 2:25 am

What my father didn't tell me about sex...

No poetry today. Instead I want to tell a story about my youth. Last night a good buddy and I were sitting around, drinking a few beers, when we got on the topic of girls and sex (it took about ten seconds from the time we said hello, but we managed to get there).

I told him my father never really gave me a "sex talk". Sure he tried to explain the biology, but I have always been a geek, so I knew a long time before. And when he tried to explain about sex, he got embarassed, flustered, and ended the talk with "If it feels too good, you stop!"

I had no idea what he was talking about. What is "too good"? So much for the talk.

My friend told me his "sex talk" story. Again, a flustered father he says nothing coherent and then blurts out "Bad things happen at night." My friend asks "What things?" and the father responds "You know what I mean." Another misguided and lost boy on the road to manhood.

How to talk to girls, or how girls think, or how to pick up girls never came up. Hell, what to do about an erection when you are a junior high school student would have appreciated (now, I use it to pick up girls "hey baby, are you impressed yet?"). Basically, I fumbled my way across adolescence and adulthood. Hmmm, that does explain a lot about me now.

So tell me your stories. How did your parents tell you about sex? Or did they? Or was it learned all from older siblings, friends, your dad's porn collection (that's another story), or someone who "educated" you?

I showed you mine, now you show me yours...

EroticaXTC 49F

8/22/2006 10:48 am

The closest either of my parents came to telling me about sex was my mom giving me a warning at age 13 just before I was about to leave for my first girl/boy party..."don't let any boys get you alone in the bedroom".
Gee, thanks for the vote of confidence, mom. I had learned about sex 2 years before in elementary school, when we had sex education classes. Also, there was this really popular book (with the girls)at the time titled "Forever"...it pretty much detailed the whole first love/first sexual experience thing.
My mother was always a few years behind me,... I guess that's why I resented her a wee bit when I was child, because I always had to be the adult.

snowdragon2006 replies on 8/24/2006 7:35 pm:
Is this the norm for most people? Never having been told about human relationships beyond the "don't have sex!!" command? Wow, no wonder there are 25 million of us horny, freaky, people on this website. All that sexual frustraton finally getting released. Cool!

taurina_gal 44F

8/23/2006 3:11 am

my father never teach me about sex. basically only knew about it from talking with friends. also got the urge to try things out

snowdragon2006 replies on 8/23/2006 6:42 am:
oh, those are nice urges. I like it when the urge to try something doesn't get me into trouble. I like it more, when it does get me into trouble...

TabithaElectra 37F

8/24/2006 11:17 am

My parents never really told me anything about sex...

I learnt about it from school, books, magazines, friends, late night 'adult' television programmes, and eventually, experience

snowdragon2006 replies on 8/24/2006 7:40 pm:
any experiences you want to share? Only the positive ones please. I have enough of my own negative ones (what's the definition of a "fumble"? Answer: Two teenagers having sex. That sums up my teenage years... my post-adolescent twenties...my late twenties... last night...)

Take care.

rm_HotRod8693 47M
57 posts
8/26/2006 11:15 am

I think normally most, if not all, parents never talk about sex to their children. I mean sex like "let me tell u how to get that girl into bed" kind of talk. We would have to find out ourselves, one way or another.

Now my question is....anybody out there whose parents told them what to do regarding sex???

snowdragon2006 replies on 8/27/2006 6:14 pm:
Does that explain why there are so many frustrated people out there? Maybe if they told us a couple of things like "Don't play mind games." or "Smile, say hello, and always look the person in the eyes." it might have made a little difference.

Of course it is too much to ask Dad to have told me "And then, to really get her into bed...", but it would have saved a lot of awkward moments...like last night.

florallei 99F

8/28/2006 8:28 am

Hello Snowdragon,

No talk of sex ed. in my home. Wedding night I was 15 yrs. old and my mother took me aside just before we left and said, "It is going to hurt". I had no clue what she was referring to but sadly found out.
I was so naive!

snowdragon2006 40M

8/29/2006 2:25 am

Wow, no one has said anyting positive about the parents sex talk. I think I will try a different approach if I ever have kids. "Son, this is everything my dad told me...nothing... And this is everything I learned the hard way. (get out the big list of everything I still don't know).

At least then he will have half a chance. And if I have a daughter, I hope my wife is a lot smarter than me.

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