What I Don't Get  

sneaky1182 34F
32 posts
7/10/2005 4:09 pm

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What I Don't Get

I don't get how guys can act all sweet and innocent when they're with a girl but the second a homie turns up, its who are you? Damn I hate that. It's split personality. Why can't they just be a man. Women don't want little boys, who still play games and still wont show the affection and love a women wants. Ok maybe not love, but how about a hug or kiss every so often. I'm not saying be overly affectionate, but damn you could at least hold my hand. Anyways needed to vent. Maaybe some of you can answer these mysteries for me, cuz I've asked my brothers and got a blank face.

FadedSpendShope 37M
1 post
7/11/2005 8:43 am

It just means he's insecure of how bad ass he really is. I dont know the guy you are talking about, but I know that being with a girl and letting her know how I feel or what I like makes me feel more like a bad ass becuase I do and take what I want when I want regardless of what my friends are going to think. What, are my friends going to get jealous because I kiss a girl or hold her hand in front of them? If so then Im hanging around the wrong guy's, they must be playing for the other team...lol. Anyway just thought I would respond to your question. I would like to talk to you sometime if you like making new friends, just let me know.

rm_BrainyBiker 59M
3 posts
7/11/2005 6:54 pm

Hey, isn't that the story line for "Grease"? Danny Zuko (John Travolta) was all sweet and playful, splashing around in the ocean with Sandra Dee (Olivia Newton John) during the summer break, but when Danny saw at school in front of the guys, he had to act "cool" and blow her off. Sounds like a typical theme that's been happening for a long time. It will continue to happen as long as you hang with boys who hang with boys. At the same time, you don't want someone who's too affectionate. What you are asking for sounds reasonable though.

rm_olbean123 40M

7/12/2005 4:28 pm

Can't say what the guy was thinking, but I had to laugh about the blank stares you got from your brothers. When my sister asks me for dating advice, my first reaction is always something to that effect. I would say the bottom line is that you shouldn't be into someone who acts differently around different people, whether it's a serious thing or not. The problem is sometimes that makes us crazy humans want them more. Buena suerte!

TomHawkPornAgent 41M

7/12/2005 7:33 pm

I only half agree with robster. What I will agree with is you need to bail on a guy like that immediately. My experience tells me it's a guy just willing to do what he needs to do to get in your pants. Once he's there, the true him will come out. But most importantly, he doesn't want his friends to know how low he will go to get some. Mostly because guys WILL razz each other down for doing stupid shit outside of their character just to get laid.

TitanianSCman 30M

7/13/2005 1:53 pm

...the same reason women can't be only one person.
they change too.

vanderzell 44M
1 post
7/15/2005 12:28 pm

Most of what you guys are saying is dead wrong and i'll tell you why, it's not insecurity, nor being a badd ass. It's about not letting his freinds see that he has feelings. Being macho and shunning your girl only means one thing that the guy is not mature enough to think for himself without the worry of feeling he needs to shine for his "BOYS". The problem sweetheart is in your own words little boy.... you answered your own question. A man does'nt worry who's around he makes his woman #1 under any compasity, because a real man knows if you make a woman feel on cloud 9 there's no limits to the love she shows you in return....

AManWlksN2aBar 52M/50F
1 post
7/22/2005 6:21 pm

Take heart... they get better the older they get. Little boys finally figure out that the woman in their life is so much more important that their idiot friends and they become ..... smarter.

treetrunk0 57M

7/23/2005 12:46 am

Maturity is where it is ALL at. Some are quicker than others!

jagthe8incher 35M
2 posts
8/2/2005 2:35 am

what can be said that has not been said? if the guy acts different, then he's frontin! find your self some one who can treat you the way you want to be treated. serious, fun, friend, or friend and fun. just be real!

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