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Undressing a Lover
Undressing a Lover
How do you like to undress your lover?
For me, depends upon the circumstances. The first time I'm with a woman it's invariably nice and slow. The fun in drawing out the moments, of gradually revealing what has been dreamed about, and glimpsed. Caressing, kissing, and licking through fabrics and garments before one gets to caress, kiss, and lick directly. Ummm. Really heightens the sexual tension.
But I also recognize a whole other level at which I can undress a lover. You see, a woman of intelligence, wit, creativity; a woman who has looked into her own soul seeking self-knowledge; yes, such a woman comes stylishly clothed for undressing her soul.
Have you ever done that with a lover? Have you ever worked your way into her (or his, as the case may be) soul gradually, slowly peeling back the layers of defense and protection she uses to shield herself from the onslaughts of life? Slowly revealing her deepest desires, hopes, and fears? Slowly revelaing her true self?
I don't mean this in any imperialistic sense.
I mean this in the most tender and true sense possible: that of the genuine lover who gradually draws out his mate, allowing her to share herself, to reveal herself, to depths she has never done before. Or seldom done before. To give herself to you. Utterly. Complete trust. Complete sharing. Knowing. Recognizing. Appreciating. Validating. Affirming.
Going both directions. A joining of souls and bodies.
Think about what I'm saying and tell me this isn't the context for the greatest sex possible. Good god, this is sex on the level of the soul and it makes physical sex all the more ecstatic. You can't tell me it's not. I won't believe otherwise. I've tasted the fruit. None is better. I want more.
But what makes this happen? What makes this possible?
I know good and well that finding happiness of the depth I'm talking about is a quest unique to each of us. What works for one will probably not work for another. But the differences between us are the details; what remains the same are the general truths - if this is the kind of happiness and sex you want.