random thoughts..nothing important  

slidein2meplz 61F
1363 posts
1/25/2006 11:28 pm

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random thoughts..nothing important

Ok.. I kinda had this thought goin on about something...but really it's clear that I'm hitting a block wall.

I really could have cared for someone and so I guess it isn't meant to be. So I need to give up the ghost on it and forget about it. All though I wish I could understand why.

Maybe he wasn't the man I thought he was in terms of being able to be honest with me. Not that he was fake..or false...not at all. Just wasn't able to connect.

It's too bad and it's sad at the same time...cuz what if....and now we'll just never know. I didn't think it was too late to give it a shot.



~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~


ByteChaser2 52M

1/26/2006 9:02 am

Just my two cents worth... but I'd move along were I you. Now, I hate to speak for others but I suppose generalities would be ok yeah?

See, by all appearances, they guy is interested in you - from a distance. Thats the "feel" I get. And keeping in mind that in *MY* busy life, schedules are often subjected to the whims of bosses, customers... Making a schedule (for me) is simply an opportunity to change it.

Anyway, if I had a choice between going to see my honey-bee and going hunting (or some other personally enjoyable recreation)... I'd see my honey. Simple choice - a no brainer actually. Because she interests me greatly and I want to be with her...

That he'd chosen recreation to seeing you just implies a... what... lack of interest? I may be way off the mark - I mean I really don't know what's in his head. I just know what I'd have done in a similar situation.

Bottom line - in my own thinking anyway - move on...


slidein2meplz 61F
1994 posts
1/26/2006 11:06 am

Hey Byte....in terms of the hunting...this was stuff he'd already been drawn for and had made plans for, spent money on, etc...long before we started talking. but I guess your right....he even checked my profile yesterday. I don't know why and I wish I did.

Thanks for your opinion.

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~


tillerbabe 55F

1/26/2006 11:35 pm

"Never" too late....he needs to think. (It's a commitment thing... its not about you....Believe that!)


rm_saintlianna 45F
15466 posts
1/27/2006 4:44 am

You know I used to think "what if" and then I realized that it was just my fanatasy of what it could have been, not even close to any possible reality. So no matter what it could have never been. You will be okay, it just takes time.


dasher121 36M

1/27/2006 8:48 am

no need to dwell on the "what ifs" unfortunately things dont work out at times for reasons we sometimes cannot explain. Just know that you figured out a connection is not there and that is knowledge of yourself and what you want.

Keep your head up, as I say to those who feel down when things do not work out. Your connection will be found, and you will know for sure when it is

The Dude.


1946Lizard 70M

1/27/2006 11:46 am

Slide In, Just a few comments..

"Ok.. I kinda had this thought goin on about something...but really it's clear that I'm hitting a block wall."

I've always thought that walls are good analogies for how we deal with people. Sometimes when we hit a wall its nice to know who's wall it is. Is it a wall that you put up, one that he put up or one of those walls socioty uses to mark boundries? Our own personal walls we put up to protect ourselves and our psyches. Walls can keep other people out, but thay can also keep you in. If it's your wall you can always put a gate in it, granted that gate may leave you a little more vulnurable, a little less protected but it does let you explore outside of your comfort zone. If its his wall then there isn't much you can do unless he opens a gate. Socities walls are usually short, low constructs that mark boundries, they can be climbed over with a few scrapes and scratches. Breaching his wall can be analogous to laying siege to a castle, it can be a long drawn out affair that ends up with both of you dispising the other and your wondering in the end if it was worth it.


slidein2meplz 61F
1994 posts
1/27/2006 1:55 pm

    Quoting tillerbabe:
    "Never" too late....he needs to think. (It's a commitment thing... its not about you....Believe that!)
I didn't think it was too late...but he apparently is unable to get his thoughts and/or feelings together...but I had really hoped he would. Ya know.

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~


slidein2meplz 61F
1994 posts
1/27/2006 1:57 pm

    Quoting rm_saintlianna:
    You know I used to think "what if" and then I realized that it was just my fanatasy of what it could have been, not even close to any possible reality. So no matter what it could have never been. You will be okay, it just takes time.
your right Saint...it just takes time. Which I had given him plenty of...but it isn't to be...so the reality is it isn't going to be either.

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~


slidein2meplz 61F
1994 posts
1/27/2006 1:59 pm

    Quoting dasher121:
    no need to dwell on the "what ifs" unfortunately things dont work out at times for reasons we sometimes cannot explain. Just know that you figured out a connection is not there and that is knowledge of yourself and what you want.

    Keep your head up, as I say to those who feel down when things do not work out. Your connection will be found, and you will know for sure when it is

    The Dude.
Thanks Dasher...I hope my connection will be found one day, hopefully sooner than later.

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~


slidein2meplz 61F
1994 posts
1/27/2006 2:04 pm

1946Lizard
It's his wall that he put up and one of those walls to keep other people out. True....not much I can do unless he opens a gate.

Thanks for your comment

~~~ Just me, poppin to say HI! ~~


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