just thinking  

skychicken692 48M
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9/5/2005 4:32 am

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10/14/2006 12:14 pm

just thinking


Well saturday morning a friend of mine told me she thought something was not right about this guy she was dating. he has yet to give her his number, he only talks on the phone for 15-20 mins and hangs up. and his number is blocked on caller ID. she also says he really does not open up. she said she did not know if she was going to pick him up for the weekend or not. but she did say that she was going to tell him that they were not going to date anymore. this woman is somebody that says that she is looking for a long term relationship. she says that she is tired of being alone. she is also worried that she is getting close to 40 and will always be alone. I told her that she needs to realize that number one nobody is perfect. people have their bad days. second you can't fall for the hollywood myth the your eyes meet and you just know. and everytime you see each other your heart races. and he will walk a billion milles in the snow for her favorite dinner. he will also love you forever even after you leave. becuase 10 years down the line you the two of you will meet and everything will be perfect. because you two were ment to be togather. gotta wonder how many women lost a good relationship because of that bull. infuatation is not love. than she tried to tell me she can tell if she is going to marry a guy in 10 dates or less. funny most people can lie for months even years if the sex is good. she was also upset because this guy never pays for anything. he asked her out he stuck her with the bill. I tried to tell her that you can tell if two people are compatible in a couple of dates but it can take years to find out if this person is you happily ever after. she said if it takes a year and it does not work out than you have wasted a year. she did pick him up for sex this weekend might even sleep with him a few more times. that is the way she is. than she wonders why guys treat her so badly. I told her it was because she lets them. she says men are just pigs. I do not understand how so many people say they want the long term releationship but time and time again choose the instant gratifacation. than turn around and blame someone else for their unhappyness. sometimes you have to do things the hard way. take the long way around. invest the time. ect, it is frustrating because we have let our right now way of life. confuse and control us to the point we lie and cheat ourselves out of what we really want deep down inside. those core needs reamain. that little voice has to be awnsered or it will haunt you for the rest of your life. she (banging head aginst a wall) said she is willing to have an open relationship. this is the woman who cried every night her ex husband was not home from work on time. broke up with a guy becasue he went over to his female friends house when she was upset because she had to put her father in a nursing home. no doubt she will be unhappy if that ever happens than she will turn around and blame the guy.

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